egalew Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I wish people could just be honest and not play games. Met a guy via an online site. Three times he has reach out after our first date. Asks me out. "When are you available to meet again?" I tell him. And then he never responds. Three times. Then yesterday I have a date with a lawyer. Short and not that attractive. But the chemistry was wonderful We had a 3-hour brunch and talked about everything and anything. At the end of the brunch he says: "Keep in touch...." or some b.s. to that effect. WTF?
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I wish people could just be honest and not play games. Met a guy via an online site. Three times he has reach out after our first date. Asks me out. "When are you available to meet again?" I tell him. And then he never responds. Three times. Then yesterday I have a date with a lawyer. Short and not that attractive. But the chemistry was wonderful We had a 3-hour brunch and talked about everything and anything. At the end of the brunch he says: "Keep in touch...." or some b.s. to that effect. WTF? Just so long as you barely knew them who cares? If someone rejected you who really knew you in depth and liked you as a person, then you can come on here and bitch and moan and I'd be there with you. Also, people are like that. In romance and beyond. They ignore people's emails, texts, etc. If you don't like it, make sure you don't do it yourself. How many people's texts have you ignored in the past few months? Also, about the last guy. You obviously feel that you were better looking than him and that he should have bowed down to you. Lose that attitude. 1
Author egalew Posted May 20, 2013 Author Posted May 20, 2013 Actually, I am very good about follow-up, and don't ignore folks. I'm in a business where follow-up is key so have a good reputation for getting back to folks. More over, I think it's a bit different when a guy reaches out to you and specifically asks for a date. If he's not interested, why reach out?
nerd Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 How much time between contacts? Perhaps he is seeing multiple people and the timing never works to fit you in?
Author egalew Posted May 20, 2013 Author Posted May 20, 2013 He's obviously seeing other people. But case at point: Text on Tuesday....'Really enjoyed our weekend. What's your schedule like?" Me: Can do lunch Thursday and maybe something this weekend. Nada. THis is the third time he's done this to me. Ugh.
Flutterbyme Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 This isn't going to help but I'm in the sort of same situation. Date went well he text me after date and next morning first now there's nothing! He said on first date there would be a second It's not a nice feeling
Author egalew Posted May 20, 2013 Author Posted May 20, 2013 Flutter...... This guy did it to me three times! Date one. Nice. E-mails and ask for date two. Don't hear from him to confirm so say I have other plans. E-mails, a bunch of ties. Go on date, two and three. Date four, he goes MIA. Don't ask me out if you're not interested. Seriously.
sillyanswer Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 THis is the third time he's done this to me. Ugh. Then make it the last time.
apple OR orange Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 i understand the moan reason a - who was attractive, your loss b - you liked his personality, your loss see the trend here, you all go through it (i dont as i dont date and its for the above reasons, it would really wind me up). So i understand, but if your going to play the dating game you need to understand the rules, your worth nothing to no one, so this will happen alot.
noneive Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Okay, so some of these posts are a little harsh. I know how you feel and I agree, it's frustrating and disappointing. But, you're doubting your own self worth which isn't good. First guy is a douchebag, sorry but he is. Lose him and never talk to him again or call him out on his bs. If he's really interested, he will CALL. 2nd guy, don't get caught up in words. Girls do that too much. If he contacts you, GREAT. If not, you don't seem totally smitten by him anyway. Don't be afraid to contact him first too! Maybe "Keep in touch" is his way or hinting that he WANTS you to contact him first and is a little insecure.
joystickd Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 I wish people could just be honest and not play games. Met a guy via an online site. Three times he has reach out after our first date. Asks me out. "When are you available to meet again?" I tell him. And then he never responds. Three times. Then yesterday I have a date with a lawyer. Short and not that attractive. But the chemistry was wonderful We had a 3-hour brunch and talked about everything and anything. At the end of the brunch he says: "Keep in touch...." or some b.s. to that effect. WTF? The guy you met online got tired of waiting. If you wanted to go out again why make him wait for the answer. You got what you deserve. 1
SaintNick Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 I wish people could just be honest and not play games. Met a guy via an online site. Three times he has reach out after our first date. Asks me out. "When are you available to meet again?" I tell him. And then he never responds. Three times. Then yesterday I have a date with a lawyer. Short and not that attractive. But the chemistry was wonderful We had a 3-hour brunch and talked about everything and anything. At the end of the brunch he says: "Keep in touch...." or some b.s. to that effect. WTF? I know the feeling, I have a girl doing this garbage to me right now. Had a great first meeting, and agreed to meet again. Had what I thought was a great first date. Texted her the next day thanking her for her time and said I had a great time with her, anddd crickets. It has been 3 days now and she has not responded nor sent me one text. I think my plan is to either try and ask her out on another date and see what she says or simply drop her. I'm not going to waste my time on someone that doesnt want to communicate or spend time with me. I'm tired of playing games and worrying about it ALL the time, there are alot of people out there to meet. I suggest you do the same!
Green Light Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 there are alot of people out there to meet. I suggest you do the same! But sadly I think that MANY of them now do the fade-away/ignore. I think it's becoming the norm.
Maleficent Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Thing is - people invest themselves way too quickly (and I'm including myself here). You can't know for sure if you want to be with someone after a date or two. You have to spend some time with the person to get to know him or her. It's completely normal to date someone for a few weeks and then realize that after all - it's not what you're looking for. It sucks but it happens.
It's Just Me Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Simple fact? When you want to see someone again, you make it happen. And when the other person is interested, they make it happen. Ideally, this is a mutual thing. In reality, 85% of the time, it doesn't happen. If you're on the receiving end of things not happening, move on. Yes, some folks will stretch the truth and be vague about making plans when they're not interested, but that's because most everyone is terrified of rejecting someone outright. In real life, that translates to unanswered texts/phone calls, and sketchy responses about availability. It's just the way it is. 1
SaintNick Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 But sadly I think that MANY of them now do the fade-away/ignore. I think it's becoming the norm. Oh I totally agree with you on this, its pathetic! Hence the reason why I HATE dating, too frustrating these days!
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