Garymustang1977 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Hello all, This has been a long road to get to this point, but my wife and I have a scheduled divorce hearing in June. I am the petitioner and she has contested the divorce (we have no children, only one property and unsecured debt). We've tried mediation twice with failed talks. She's said "no" to every proposal, so I can only hope a judge will divide our assets fairly. Neither one of us has legal counsel. We simply cannot afford it and our divorce is simple, really. My question is whether I need to give her a copy of the pre-trial divorce paperwork that the judge will need to review, so that when the date arrives the judge is familiar with our case? I'm just asking for a 50/50 split. No more, no less. Also, does anyone have personal experience with what to expect once we get in front of a judge? Is this a straightforward, just the monetary facts only scenario? Exhausted, tired, but it's almost over. Thanks very much for any advice or wisdom, Gary
Mr. Lucky Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 My question is whether I need to give her a copy of the pre-trial divorce paperwork that the judge will need to review, so that when the date arrives the judge is familiar with our case? If "her" is your STBX wife, how does giving her the paperwork familiarize the judge with your case? Mr. Lucky
Simpleoldschool Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 im tired and today was not a good day so i have to psyche myself out tonight so it can be a good night. ready, here go's. to be absolutely honest if your wife is contesting the divorce , i ask why. i would like details concerning the scenario. If you are leaving her for another women and she has done you no wrong well you sir are a douchebag however concerning your desire to give her a copy i might not think so to a point. if she has done something wrong and you are seeking divorce as an out unless it was absolutely grievious in the way of what she did than you are a horrible problem solver. again , since i dont know the inside scoop i wont give you legal advice. None at all. If it turns out your the "good person" in all of this ill fire away a couple of things you can do in advance of court. but again you'll have to tell me the dicy little details since i know neither a reason i should or should not assist.
Author Garymustang1977 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 (edited) Hey there, MrLucky. Sorry, if I wasn't clear who "her" was. Yes, that's my soon-to-be-ex. My question about giving her a copy of the pre-trial papers was answered when I went to file them at my courthouse. The clerk stamped my copy (date and time), and told me to make a copy for the other party. Thanks for your reply. Gary Edited May 22, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Keenly Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 im tired and today was not a good day so i have to psyche myself out tonight so it can be a good night. ready, here go's. to be absolutely honest if your wife is contesting the divorce , i ask why. i would like details concerning the scenario. If you are leaving her for another women and she has done you no wrong well you sir are a douchebag however concerning your desire to give her a copy i might not think so to a point. if she has done something wrong and you are seeking divorce as an out unless it was absolutely grievious in the way of what she did than you are a horrible problem solver. again , since i dont know the inside scoop i wont give you legal advice. None at all. If it turns out your the "good person" in all of this ill fire away a couple of things you can do in advance of court. but again you'll have to tell me the dicy little details since i know neither a reason i should or should not assist. Its actually none of your business WHY he is leaving her. You can either help, or you can be judgemental. Looks like you made your choice already. I'll reiterate. The reasons for him doing so are irrelavent. You do not get to decide what he does with his life .
Simpleoldschool Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 In response: addressed to: keenly I simply stated that my advice would be given in Good faith of the reason i would supply it. Obviously there isnt much you know about the canon of ethics in law. Not my choice to be judgemental or rude i simply suggested, on the basis of his reason to determine alongwith my advice that it be given in good faith and in DUE response. Tell me, keenly what is it exactly that you know about legal situations? If nothing my comment stands in face of itself.
Keenly Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 In response: addressed to: keenly I simply stated that my advice would be given in Good faith of the reason i would supply it. Obviously there isnt much you know about the canon of ethics in law. Not my choice to be judgemental or rude i simply suggested, on the basis of his reason to determine alongwith my advice that it be given in good faith and in DUE response. Tell me, keenly what is it exactly that you know about legal situations? If nothing my comment stands in face of itself. Again, just like the reason why he is leaving her, my legal knowledge is irrelevant. You are basically acting like you have the right to decide what is or isn't okay in this mans divorce, and that's not the case. You can either help him, or you won't. Its up to you. You are not entitled to why its happening, nor should you be. You are injecting your feelings and arbitration into a situation that is not your own to decide.
Simpleoldschool Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 last reply to keenly: "You are not entitled to why its happening, nor should you be. You are injecting your feelings and arbitration into a situation that is not your own to decide." that is the OP's decision to make not yours. That can be argued. Second the best way to assert legal advice is to know what is happening. that is how legal advice is best constructed. Obviously again you dont understand this. He asked for legal advice so my decision to provide it was based on what i could possibly know about the situation. which is relative to the OP. Read TOU VII AND TOU IX. out of the simple descretion of both, there has been a violation of one, by you. As trying to stay withing the Guidlines of each i reserve this as a component in relation and as an addition of the OP which is in relation to your addition to such a topic.
Simpleoldschool Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 To the OP. are your legal concerns these. Award of custody by conducting a civil case to gain such. To obtain the highest legal advantage?
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