TurningTables Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I am friends with a few people who makes me feel totally inferior. Every time I am around them, I feel my self esteem drop. One lady in particular seems to have everything: a great marriage, lots of money, a big house, wonderful family, great beautiful kids- to whom everyone likes. She is well liked and praised in the "group" also. Her oldest child gets all the roles and has all the friends. I know that the problem is me, but I cannot shake these feelings of resentment for this lady and the members of this group. For example: I have done work for this group (volunteer) for two years. It's taken up a lot of time, money and effort. I work hard to pull everything together. Well, this lady shows up with her stupid cakes and praise was all for her. I felt like I was upstaged by cake! Lol! I don't know what to do about how I feel. I know- its silly. Any thoughts?
grantmeserenity27 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I am friends with a few people who makes me feel totally inferior. Every time I am around them, I feel my self esteem drop. One lady in particular seems to have everything: a great marriage, lots of money, a big house, wonderful family, great beautiful kids- to whom everyone likes. She is well liked and praised in the "group" also. Her oldest child gets all the roles and has all the friends. I know that the problem is me, but I cannot shake these feelings of resentment for this lady and the members of this group. For example: I have done work for this group (volunteer) for two years. It's taken up a lot of time, money and effort. I work hard to pull everything together. Well, this lady shows up with her stupid cakes and praise was all for her. I felt like I was upstaged by cake! Lol! I don't know what to do about how I feel. I know- its silly. Any thoughts? It is not silly!!! We've all felt like this towards someone before! And to be honest there isn't much you can do. Just don't ever let someone like that make you want to give up, keep working hard and being your usual self. Some people just get everything handed to them, it's the way of the world... unfair but true. Perhaps volunteer somewhere else away from her with people who make you feel better about yourself. Just try and avoid being around people who bring you down, life's too short. Sorry not a lot of help!
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