creighton0123 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I am at 3 and a half months post-BU now. Similarly, 3 and a half months NC aside from one email exchange to sort a few last minute details of his moving out (switching utilities to my name). I've moved from what was our apartment to a much, MUCH nicer, size-appropriate apartment in the city that is both cheaper and only a 10 minute walk to work. I've gone out on plenty of dates since the BU, none that have worked out. I think, now, I am ready to pursue another relationship and have two hopefuls in mind. I feel good. I think about this ex no more or less than I think about the others and without anger or resentment. He is coincidentally in dreams every so often, but no more or less than anyone else and not playing a SO role). In fact, a little birdie told me that he is not doing that well (living with his parents, not doing well at work, getting drunk a lot, and even attending undergrad college parties at his college that he graduated from years ago). I have come to realize that I was, by far, the better man in the relationship. Better in bed, stronger, healthier, made more money, and a much better and nicer personality. I gave the relationship 2 and a half years. The only thing I regret is the lost time and the lost friendships I gained through his friends and family while we were together. I don't really miss him since he was never really all that nice of a person to me. I miss his friends a great deal, though. Thank you all for being here and listening. Having this outlet to vent this past winter really helped me get my feelings and emotions out. 3
BustedUpInside Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Yay!!! That is really great. You sound like it has really all come into place for you. I wish there were more threads like this on here because it is nice to see that the possibility of not only being normal but actually feeling better after getting out of the wrong relationship is totally possible. So happy for you! 1
aisuru Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 You should be proud of yourself. Breakups are hard. Sounds like you handled it well. 1
crazy1234 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 its good to know people do come out of bad relationships..and amazingly they actually never feel good later in your life cause u see the bad side ot it. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Congratulations! Seems to me that those who handle the break-ups quickly and calmly with an eye toward the future are the ones who do best. You're an inspiration.
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