SJC2008 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 If anyone has ever seen "She's out of My League" yall should remember the the bad date bailout call scene. We'll my date bailed on me because her mom called her and was having an emergency with their cat! During the call heard her say calm down a bunch of times and such... She stood for about 30 minutes after and apologized. I'm thinking why does she need her daughter to go with her or whatever? She said her mom is very needy... I'm not going to call her I have too much pride for that. If she wants to see me again she needs to contact me. I think any rational person would realize how bad it looks and shouldn't be expecting a call from the person they bailed on.
tbf Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 It doesn't sound like a bailout call to me. Telling someone to calm down more than once and apologizing for 30 minutes sounds more like someone who's torn, wants to stay but is being dragged away by a dependent mother. But I'd be concerned about dating someone whose mother is so dependent on them. When people are so dependent, they view their children's partners as threats. She'll call to make it up to you, if this was a real "emergency".
carhill Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 OP, can you clarify.... What does 'she stood for 30 minutes after and apologized' mean? Does that mean she continued the date for 30 minutes after the phone call, then left? Or was she still on the phone? Was this a first date or ?
Author SJC2008 Posted May 20, 2013 Author Posted May 20, 2013 OP, can you clarify.... What does 'she stood for 30 minutes after and apologized' mean? Does that mean she continued the date for 30 minutes after the phone call, then left? Or was she still on the phone? Was this a first date or ? Sorry for the bad wording guys. She stood for about 30 minutes after she told me she had to leave due to the emergency. She apologized a couple times...
carhill Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 IMO, if it was a true 'I don't care, see ya later' bailout scenario, there's no way she would have remained after the so-called 'emergency'. IME, when a woman wants out of there, speeding cheetahs have nothing on her. That said, since her scenario disrupted the date, the burden is on her to make amends, as it would be on yourself if your personal life had disrupted the date. Hence, accept contact from her, if/when it happens, if you feel like it. When you see her number appear on your phone, your feelings will provide you the answer. Good luck.
ChessPieceFace Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Life happens, even during dates. I don't really get the attitude here. People care about pets and if there was an emergency, it was an emergency. Is it really on this girl to "make up" for caring about her family and being there for them? I guess that would be polite of her, but it's impolite of you to say she has to jump through hoops to make up this perceived wrong. Reminds me of my friend who was so mad that her boyfriend had to leave her bed to go over to his mom's house at 2 in the morning to break up a drunken fight with his brother and his brother's wife. All she could do was whine about how his family is needy and how their night together was ruined by the incident. She was really mad at HIM for being there to help his family. I told her that her perspective was very selfish, she didn't agree with that. Whatever. Perhaps this is one reason I'm alone - because I don't just drop my entire life to court some girl and prioritize that above everything else.
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