jd123 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Thank you for any help in advance. I am really thankful for any honest insight you can give me! So, I met this girl on a dating site a couple weeks ago and her profile said, "single, not seeking a relationship". We started talking and we have gone on a couple dates now and we have both had a great time. We text each other a few times a week even right after our dates. When were together, she is always smiling at me and walks close, brushing against once in a while. I always give her a hug and kiss on the cheek at the end of our dates, but I haven't gotten a return kiss on the cheek. Does this mean she doesn't see me as a boyfriend, even though other signs point the other way? Should I discuss this with her, or wait a few more dates? Should I go in for a kiss again on the next date? Some additional facts: - We are both around 20. - She isn't shy. - She has had a boyfriend(s) in the past. - She doesn't seem like someone who "gets around". - She talks about doing activities with me in the future. THANKS
apple OR orange Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 "single, not seeking a relationship" This means she not looking for a relationship, so no matter than what happens shes not interested.
TaraMaiden Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Thank you for any help in advance. I am really thankful for any honest insight you can give me! So, I met this girl on a dating site a couple weeks ago and her profile said, "single, not seeking a relationship". We started talking and we have gone on a couple dates now and we have both had a great time. We text each other a few times a week even right after our dates. When were together, she is always smiling at me and walks close, brushing against once in a while. I always give her a hug and kiss on the cheek at the end of our dates, but I haven't gotten a return kiss on the cheek. Does this mean she doesn't see me as a boyfriend, Correct... even though other signs point the other way? I don't see any signs that would differentiate you form other firnds. She feels 'safe' with you, because women are tactile with guys whom they feel are no threat/not trying it on.... Should I discuss this with her, or wait a few more dates? I wouldn't consider them 'dates' if i were you... Not in the 'blossoming relationship' way. I'd think of them more as cementing a friendship and enjoying your company... Should I go in for a kiss again on the next date? God, no. You'll never see her again, and make her think "You're just like every other guy! :mad:" Some additional facts: - We are both around 20.Too young for a serious, long-term 'this could be it' commitment, yeah.... - She isn't shy.In which case she would have been more forward by now. As it is, she likes you, but 'not in that way'.... - She has had a boyfriend(s) in the past. Yes.... and.....? - She doesn't seem like someone who "gets around". That's really irrelevant, actually. When you fall in love with someone, sometimes our own boundaries get blurred or pushed.... - She talks about doing activities with me in the future. Cool.... it's what friends do.... Look, if you want more, rather than dancing around planning specific strategies, you know what you should do? You should just ask her if she would consider dating you 'exclusively'. Just ask. Just bring it up, spit it out and see what she says. You'll have more to lose if you plan on a sneak approach. If she's not shy, then be bold. It might work. It might not. Sure as eggs is eggs, you won't know until you try, will you?
Author jd123 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 I just want to see what some other opinions are.
sillyanswer Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 bummmmmpppppppp I agree with Hot Lips. She gives great advice. Follow it.
sillyanswer Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Should I go in for a kiss again on the next date? I'm going with "yes" on the basis that it'll quickly and clearly clarify the situation. I warn you that this is the opposite advice from that already received.
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