dreamer85 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Ok here is my background story from a few weeks ago: So here is my story. I work in the medical field and one day about 6 weeks ago a intern physician assistant came to our office to learn. I would notice him looking at me and then he started saying hello. Then one night we worked together and he started to talk to me. After that night he asked me if I was on facebook, he looked me up and then we were fb friends. Next I know he tells me to text him and gives me his number, so I do. Next I know he is texting me all the time, asking me when im taking my lunch break, and always wanting to take breaks together etc etc. Buying me coffee the whole bit. Fast foward a week later and now he wants to hang out outside of the work environment, so as I was attracted to him I agree. Prior to hanging out outside of work he tells how school is his number one priority so not really looking for a relationship but someone to hang out with and that he had a GF in his hometown that was a serious relationship but he couldnt do the long distance no more so they only talk once in a while now and for now she is on back burner. So we hang out and we went out to eat and then for ice cream, and he paid as though it was a date. Next I know we hooked up in his jeep. He tells me to text him when i get home after so I do and told him i had a great time. He said he did too but then wrote, "just dont fall in love with me haha". So then a few days later we hang out again, this time at him and his room mates place. we started out watching a movie but then hooked up again. After we hooked up he seemed like something was wrong, he was almost cold. so we just laid there watching tv and a couple times he said why am I so quiet. I was confused by this bc he was the one being all cold. So then he brought me home and texted me and everything seemed ok. Now all of a sudden he is super cold towards me and hardly ever texts me or asks me to hang out. Yesterday I was crying at work bc I had a bad day and he happened to see. So on my way home he called and said he wanted to know if I was okay bc he thought something happened to me and wanted to see if I was okay. AS soon as i told him i was okay he got right off the phone and is back to being very cold towards to me. As a matter of fact I even texted him last night asking a question, he never replied, so I texted him today saying thanks for answering and he just responded with, "sorry I was busy." So Im thinking its safe to say this guy just used me for what he wanted, but on the other hand why would he call me to see If i was okay? why would he care? Im so confused!! Since then I know most of you said he wasnt interested and I agreed, but he still texts me every friday and saturday night asking what im doing.Last friday he asked me what I was doing I said i was going out with some freinds and he told me he was going for some drinks so I nicely said oh cool have fun and responded with "yep.." So this friday he said he would try and meet up with me and my friends. He never did and asked me at almost midnight where we ended up going. I being disgusted told him that it didnt matter and he stopped texting me. So last night around 9 he texted asking if I was out. I told him no and he went on to ask how my day was etc etc..So a few hours later it jst was bugging me so I texted him asking why he wanted to know if i was out. He responded with, "Sorry dont worry I wont ask you again." Now I got really annoyed and told him wow that was nice of you, and that I learned I cant ask him anything in the future and that maybe he should stop beibg a coward and start being up front. Again no response. Im so sick of this guy now and so frustrated, I mean what gives??
Ladydrib Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Ok here is my background story from a few weeks ago: So here is my story. I work in the medical field and one day about 6 weeks ago a intern physician assistant came to our office to learn. I would notice him looking at me and then he started saying hello. Then one night we worked together and he started to talk to me. After that night he asked me if I was on facebook, he looked me up and then we were fb friends. Next I know he tells me to text him and gives me his number, so I do. Next I know he is texting me all the time, asking me when im taking my lunch break, and always wanting to take breaks together etc etc. Buying me coffee the whole bit. Fast foward a week later and now he wants to hang out outside of the work environment, so as I was attracted to him I agree. Prior to hanging out outside of work he tells how school is his number one priority so not really looking for a relationship but someone to hang out with and that he had a GF in his hometown that was a serious relationship but he couldnt do the long distance no more so they only talk once in a while now and for now she is on back burner. ?? Haven't read the whole post yet but I think I already have it figured out. The guy does plan on keeping the long distance relationship which he's making a priority. He wants the benefits of a gifriend while he is away from his girlfriend so he is interested in you. He's lying to you when've says he can't have a long distance relationship. He's saying that to feed you hope but he actually is using you to accommodate the challenges of a long distance relationship. He needs you to have hope because you won't give him your time otherwise. He's telling you that he doesn't want anything serious to get you to accept no commitment because he's already in over his head with commitment. Please forget about him. He is one of those people who does not say what he "really" wants. The reason being because if he is direct, he thinks he will not get what he wants. In other words he's a liar and telling you what he thinks you want to hear so he can get what he wants. Please forget this loser. You deserve better.
Author dreamer85 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 Haven't read the whole post yet but I think I already have it figured out. The guy does plan on keeping the long distance relationship which he's making a priority. He wants the benefits of a gifriend while he is away from his girlfriend so he is interested in you. He's lying to you when've says he can't have a long distance relationship. He's saying that to feed you hope but he actually is using you to accommodate the challenges of a long distance relationship. He needs you to have hope because you won't give him your time otherwise. He's telling you that he doesn't want anything serious to get you to accept no commitment because he's already in over his head with commitment. Please forget about him. He is one of those people who does not say what he "really" wants. The reason being because if he is direct, he thinks he will not get what he wants. In other words he's a liar and telling you what he thinks you want to hear so he can get what he wants. Please forget this loser. You deserve better. Never thought of it in that way, thanks!! Sometimes it takes someone from the outside looking in!
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