leonai Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 i broke up with my ex girlfriend about 7 months ago. few weeks after the break up she told me she was willing to wait as long as i needed because she still loved me, i was not interested at the time but kept our friendship going. 3 months after the break up we met twice. the second time we met she told me that she wanted to be friends and asked me what do i wanted i told her we were already friends, the odd part is that i never said i wanted her back. she told me that before i broke up with her our relationship was already in trouble which i had no idea because she never told me and she appeared happy. then she said that she was confused and was thinking about me and wanted to find a solution and that we should probably take sometime apart to clarify our feelings. i told her not to think about me too much and that why did we need the time apart if we were just friends, so i told her concerning our relationship we should just leave it to destiny. she invited me 2 times for dinner after that but i did not attend and forgot to cancel, she got angry and said she felt i was playing with her, i apologized. a month after that i started having mixed feelings towards her so i told her that we should probably consider her idea of a month ago and take sometime apart she did not reply. few days later i thought of giving it a try and asked her out. her reply was that she was done following me and i should do whatever i wanted she was tired of my stupidities. i got angry replied harshly and acted immature by even removing her of my facebook. she texted me saying that i was seeing her as a bad person for telling me the truth about not knowing what i wanted and she has been patient with me but i never saw that, so i apologized for my actions which she accepted. we kept in contact after that and i was supportive during her new job trial. 3 weeks ago i invited her to meet she agreed and told me that she would get back to me and warned me not to stand her up like the last time. she called me after a week but by then i reflected on her behaviors on how she would sound nice and happy but be a bit rude at times and how she always been talking about herself, so i did not answer and decided to move on because i thought she probably did the same. 4 days after she called and i refused to answer she texted me through facebook though i no longer have her as a friend asking me how i was and that she was going back to her country for 10 days because her grand father was sick and that she was hoping to see me when she's back. i did not reply. 4 days later she texted me again saying she was at the airport because her grand father has finally died. this time i replied offering my condolences. she immediately replied but this time she was not talking about her but wanted to know about me and what i have been up to. she asked me why i did not answer when she called me days ago, that she was feeling something strange on me, and that she was still hoping to see me when she's back and that she misses me, which is odd because for the 7 months we've been in contact this was the 1st time she said she misses me. what exactly does she want? and what should i do?
siankat Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Sounds like you were a bit of an immature inconsiderate person but...that said....if you want to protect your feelings i would offer her support..do the right thing there as a friend but we aware (i dont know how close she was to her grandad) that she might be grieving and that can make ppl reach out that wouldn't normally and they act out of character so she may be reaching out from build up of emotion, not necessarily because she wants you back. 1
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