Silly Girl924 Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 Hello all I appreciate any advice anyone has to give me. I've posted here a few times before about my ex bf who I have been in NC with for a little over a month. For those who haven't read my other threads, our background in short: dated for four years, two years long distance, beautiful relationship, his mommy passed away, he lost his mind, ditched me a lot, I got sick of it asked for space, he called me screaming at me about two weeks later after me texting him asking to meet up and talk after I had my space "I miss you of course this hurts that's why I'm seeing someone else I still love you I always will but I can't be in a relationship with u right now" also, I'm 21 he's 21 in June Anyways, I've been hearing from mutual friends that he is doing horrible. Doing nothing but drinking, drugs, bragging about crashing into mailboxes, going 4wheeling (not a big deal that's his hobby, but he never wanted to in his new beautiful truck) I saw him at a gas station today and his truck was a mess, all dented and the door on the bed was gone he looked horrible and completely ignored my existence. Recently, his dads gf has requested me on fb and she's kinda been talking to me. I think she'll try to reach out to me soon if things get worse with him. I'd be totally honest with her if she did, and tell her he occasionally smoked percocet before we broke up. I'm not so sure what the point of this post is exactly, but I've already dug it to the ground with all my friends and fam I figure it's best I no longer talk about him, but I like to vent on here. I'd like some advice on something but I'm not even sure what exactly. Thanks everyone:) Link to post Share on other sites
aisuru Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 He sounds like a loser going downhill fast. Do you want to get sucked into that vortex? I hope you feel better about yourself then to want a relationship with this guy. He is not your problem. His life troubles are not your problem. Go no contact and consider yourself lucky he is no longer your boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Silly Girl924 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Share Posted May 19, 2013 Not at all! I know I'm way better off without him and I know his new gf is the trash of the town, I guess I can't help but feel bad and kinda feel like I failed because I wanted nothing more but to make sure he didn't lose it after his mom passed away. I guess I just hope he someday realizes what he lost, and feels guilt the way he lost me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Silly Girl924 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Share Posted May 19, 2013 Also, we've been no contact for over a month. I haven't talked to him or anything since he screamed at me on the phone that he's with someone else Link to post Share on other sites
aisuru Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 Also, we've been no contact for over a month. I haven't talked to him or anything since he screamed at me on the phone that he's with someone else Good. He deserves what he gets. You deserve the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Silly Girl924 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Share Posted May 19, 2013 I guess I'm also really sad... I don't know why it's hitting me so hard today it usually does on Sundays cuz Sundays we spent the whole day together but now I'm just thinking "is this really him? Was he fooling me the whole time? Did he even really love me?" Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedT Posted May 23, 2013 Share Posted May 23, 2013 Of course, men and women take breakups differently. Women cry to the world for the most part and men tend to hold it in (this is not always the case, but is more frequently the case than not) He is suffering through his own demons because he is acting out his feelings rather than discussing them. I try to discuss it with only a few friends on how im really feeling day to day because im sure it stresses them out to watch the pain im going through, but at least i communicate it. others frequently dont. But I am happy that you are doing well. & I'm sure you feel bad, but there is nothing you can/should do, let his friends help him or his new gf Link to post Share on other sites
Author Silly Girl924 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Share Posted May 24, 2013 Thank you! I guess I kind of knew that, just needed to hear it from someone else I just can't believe how hard and fast he went off the deep end. I do hope he gets the venting he needs or falls to rock bottom in order to pick himself up, I think I'm at the point where I want him happy Link to post Share on other sites
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