Zammo25 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 It has taken me a while to accept this fact and get my head around it but I am undateable now. I know I will never have another relationship again. Trying to work my life around my work, pet, family and friends. I will miss not having a significant other in my life, someone to be there through thick and thin and vice versa on this journey but I have now come to terms with it.
Sittinginmcds Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I felt undateable after my divorce but here I am almost 4 years later and ... Yeah me too.
TaraMaiden Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Oh my goodness. This is going to turn into the 'slash my wrists' thread. Depressive members are going to now post comments in the style of a 'pissing contest' to see who is the least/datable/most depressed/fatalistic/end-of-the-line manic depressive. Is that right?? .......Lasciate ogni speranza voi ch' entrate'......
aisuru Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 If this is what you're projecting, then you are correct. 1
BustedUpInside Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Cut yourself some slack! Everyone, and I mean every....single......person in the entire world has felt at some point that they aren't good enough and will die alone. Think of the worst, most awful, most hideous (inside and out) person that you know. I bet even that person has gotten laid and had a relationship at least once. I have been told on at least 2 separate occasions that I am not "dating" material. My response was to confirm that I certainly was not dating material for that individual because I would have to enter into some sort of ritual suicide if I was forced to endure their company for a second longer. Still not convinced? Let me throw some math at you. There are roughly 7 billion people on earth. Roughly half are women and half are men. So whatever gender is your preference there are 3.5 billion in the world. So let's say that 10 percent of that number are in the dateable range for you. That is 350 million people. Let's say that you further want to keep it to the western hemisphere; so that is 20 percent of that number so now we are down to 70 million. 60 percent are going to be taken or married. So now we have 28 million. Figure that five percent of that number are going to be compatible with you based on a number of criteria (looks, personality, financial situation, hobbies, life goals etc) Now we have 1.4 million people. 1,400,000 freaking people for you to choose from and for them to choose you. If you are going to be so ridiculous to tell me that you don't have a chance with at least 1 percent of those people, which is 14,000 by the way, then that is just plain ignorant. That is 14,000 individuals who would actively date you, live close enough to make it work, and are compatible. 14,000!!! So climb off the pity train and just live your life. You are bound to trip over at least one of these people at some point. 1
Renard99 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 What makes you so undateable? I've known people who have been divorced and are now dating/married again. I personally know someone who was has a facial disfigurement after a car crash and he's now engaged. I also have a relative who has just got married at the age of 69. A mentally diasabled son of a co-worker went out on a first date recently............ what is so catastrophically wrong with you that not one single person in this world could possibly attempted to date you? 1
big bear Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 (edited) .......Lasciate ogni speranza voi ch' entrate'...... What does this translate to. Googled it but found no suitable translation. Found it: "Abandon all hope, all who enter here" In Dante's "Divina Commedia", there was a sign with that inscription at the gates of Hell. Edited May 20, 2013 by big bear Found It!!
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