JuneJulySeptember Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I'm always trying to help other guys out, so in my experience, here is the #1 sign that a woman has no interest in you. And especially amongst unsuccessful guys, you'll get it a lot. When you know a woman and you and her know other guys. She offers to hook up some of the other guys with her friends, but never you. Women tend to run in packs with other women of equal attractiveness and expectations, so the fact that she has not offered to hook you up with her friends means that she does not think you are physically attractive enough for her friends or her. Now, when a woman DOES offer to hook you up with her friends it does not mean that she would date you, but it does mean that she thinks you are attractive enough or that she knows her friends to be not that shallow, and she is likely non-shallow herself. When you come across this, write that woman off.
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 That sounds about right. There are other signs too. But this one is a good one.
irc333 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Yeah, I recall a female friend I knew....she mentioned two other single friends she had that she'd sometimes hang out with, and I asked perhaps she could introduce me by us all getting together. And she goes, "No...sorry, but they only date men that are 6' or taller". ....she wouldn't even dignify it with even a GROUP get together, that it would just be a waste of time. But I have noticed, if a female friend doesn't find YOU personally attractive, she won't think you'd be attractive enough for HER friends either. Just shows how shallow they really are and someone you wouldn't want in your life. A good female friend is a good WING woman.
Imajerk17 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Well she could just want you for herself too... Think positive! 4
carhill Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 If history is relevant, the one commonality of nearly all the rejections (no interest) I received as a younger man was that the women appeared 'nice' and 'friendly'. My mistake was I mistook such actions, where apparently focused on myself rather than on men in general, to be personal 'interest' or 'like', mainly because I missed the class on how people show romantic interest. Eventually I learned. So far, as observed, that 'sign' appears to remain pretty consistent. Once in awhile I'll test it, believing nothing in life is immutable other than death. I don't recall any women, friends or not, 'setting me up' with anyone. A good friend's wife did introduce me to her sister after my divorce but my overt actions of friendliness got crickets so I moved on. TBH, after a lot of life experience, I would be loathe to drill 'no interest' down to some concrete and immutable 'sign'. YMMV. 1
sillyanswer Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I'm surprised that's the number 1 sign, but I'll agree that it's a good sign anyway.
Eggplant Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I would only recommend men to my women friends whom I esteemed in character. But how often does this happen? I've never actually recommended anybody to anybody.
hppr Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 What you are supposed to do is make your own sort of introductions with her friends. If you go out somewhere and they all meet up, tell some jokes, ham it up, lead the conversation. Show that you are confident and whichever girl you like make a move on her. That sort of stuff. Don't bother waiting for her to hook you up with one of them, unless you are really hot or desirable she's not doing it. 2
ScreamingTrees Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Well she could just want you for herself too... Think positive! Or, in most folk's cases, delusional thoughts. 3
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 What you are supposed to do is make your own sort of introductions with her friends. If you go out somewhere and they all meet up, tell some jokes, ham it up, lead the conversation. Show that you are confident and whichever girl you like make a move on her. That sort of stuff. Don't bother waiting for her to hook you up with one of them, unless you are really hot or desirable she's not doing it. Her friends are immaterial. You may have a chance or not. It's just an illustration. The point is SHE has no interest in you because SHE doesn't think you're quality enough for her friends or her. As far as your point of women never hooking up guys, they offer to do it all the time.
Necris Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I'm always trying to help other guys out, so in my experience, here is the #1 sign that a woman has no interest in you. And especially amongst unsuccessful guys, you'll get it a lot. When you know a woman and you and her know other guys. She offers to hook up some of the other guys with her friends, but never you. Women tend to run in packs with other women of equal attractiveness and expectations, so the fact that she has not offered to hook you up with her friends means that she does not think you are physically attractive enough for her friends or her. Now, when a woman DOES offer to hook you up with her friends it does not mean that she would date you, but it does mean that she thinks you are attractive enough or that she knows her friends to be not that shallow, and she is likely non-shallow herself. When you come across this, write that woman off. Pretty spot on, no woman in my entire life has ever tried to "hook me up" with her friends in any way. Strangely people like giving the advice that if you are friends with a woman she'll "hook you up" with one of her friends, honestly that's just unrealistic wishful thinking. Its rare that any friends would help in the dating arena in anyway already (well for me, alot of other guys I know meet people through other people), so its all up to you.
Necris Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 If history is relevant, the one commonality of nearly all the rejections (no interest) I received as a younger man was that the women appeared 'nice' and 'friendly'. My mistake was I mistook such actions, where apparently focused on myself rather than on men in general, to be personal 'interest' or 'like', mainly because I missed the class on how people show romantic interest. Eventually I learned. So far, as observed, that 'sign' appears to remain pretty consistent. Once in awhile I'll test it, believing nothing in life is immutable other than death. I've experienced similar. Women never flirt with me or show any signs of interest so I approach girls that seem nice and friendly myself always mistaking that as a sign of interest and then getting rejected. That's just how it is.
ThaWholigan Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 One girl tried to hook me up with someone but it would never have worked . In any case, she was a friend. The number one sign a woman has no interest in you in my experience is if she solicits male attention in your presence. 2
tbf Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 The #1 sign that a woman has no interest in you The threat of a restraining order. 6
ChessPieceFace Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Women tend to run in packs with other women of equal attractiveness and expectations, so the fact that she has not offered to hook you up with her friends means that she does not think you are physically attractive enough for her friends or her. I used to be attractive and never got hooked up. Well, I don't remember any offers anyway. You generalize way too much with this and also place too much value on attraction. Other things matter as much if not more to women (your wallet for example.) I'd say the #1 sign a woman isn't interested in you is using you as an emotional tampon / complaining (especially about other men.)
TheGuard13 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 The threat of a restraining order. Oh, she's just playing hard to get. 1
Veronica2025 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Yeah, I recall a female friend I knew....she mentioned two other single friends she had that she'd sometimes hang out with, and I asked perhaps she could introduce me by us all getting together. And she goes, "No...sorry, but they only date men that are 6' or taller". ....she wouldn't even dignify it with even a GROUP get together, that it would just be a waste of time. But I have noticed, if a female friend doesn't find YOU personally attractive, she won't think you'd be attractive enough for HER friends either. Just shows how shallow they really are and someone you wouldn't want in your life. A good female friend is a good WING woman. This is new to me. My friends always try and set me up with men they would never date. If they are attracted to someone, they want them for themselves. It's just not true... 1
Veronica2025 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Anyway, all my friends are single. And older women who are either married or much older than the person they are pushing me on typically suggest men who have NOTHING in common with me and none of the attributes I look for. That is annoying and really sets a man up for a sour date.
Imported Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Yes and you can't die because you haven't died yet. Total proof that you can't die.
StanMusial Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 This is new to me. My friends always try and set me up with men they would never date. If they are attracted to someone, they want them for themselves. It's just not true... People try to set me up from time to time. I have noticed that the ones that are happy in a relationship seem to do a better job of it. I have never had a single, male friend try to fix me up. If it was a pretty girl they would definitely want her for themselves (and were probably trying). The worst set-up I ever experienced was with a buddy of mine and his wife. His wife is a chubby ball-buster and guess what? So was her friend. She brought her out once to try to fix me up and I was nice and polite to her but the whole time I was thinking "Really? Why would she think I would like her?" I didn't know when I met up with them what was going on but I figured it out real quick LOL. Luckily there were a lot of people in our group and I didn't get stuck talking to her or anything.
somedude81 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I've never had a female friend try to set up up with her friends. Some even refused when I asked. Things like that did wonders for my confidence.
hppr Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 As far as your point of women never hooking up guys, they offer to do it all the time. Not for me lol. Really only one time that I can remember and the girl they wanted to set me up with wasn't attractive in the least. Poor girl was a former meth addict, felt sorry for her but I'm not dating someone with that past or those problems.
xxoo Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 There are one or two men I know who I would actually set up with a woman (when they were single). That is a very high bar. I'd have to know him very well, and trust him. I'd have to have seen him in a relationship to gain that trust. Now, purposefully including a single guy at a bbq when I know there will be single women....that I'll do a lot. But it is up to the guy to make those connections and impressions, beyond an introduction. Even if I think he's hot, I'm not going to set him up with a woman unless I know him very well--and I've seen good things about how he treats a partner.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 People have set me up number of times with a caveat that I probably won't find their friend physically attractive. And I didn't. The guys they set me up with are always guys they have known for years, have solid character, are kind, reliable and honest. They have seen how well they treated their exs. Also older people often want to set me up with their sons or grandsons
fabulousgal Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 A girl will offer to set you up if she doesn't like you but she thinks you are a catch and will be nice to her friend.
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