pav186 Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Apparently a few weeks ago this person on AIM IM'ed my gf and said her name was Kate and that she was a friend of this guy names William. She also said she knew me, my roommate and his gf and named us by name. Although my friend goes by Billy, at first me and my gf thought that Kate was his gf until we later foind out it was Meg. I've only met her a few times so I didnt really remember clearly. In the beginning my gf said this person sounded really nice and identified with her because shes having some family isssues (although who isnt these days?). And last weekend I suprised my gf because it was the "anniversary" of her brother committing suicide so I drive up there and took her out for a few days and I think helped to get her mind off things a little bit. This girl was saying that I was such a nice bf to do that etc. Her and my gf were talking about meeting up, and i told her i didnt think it was a good idea to meet up with someone who she doesnt really know. Now late last week she started telling my gf that she had caught me cheating on her at a bar in august. She named the bar (one that i've never even been to) and gave details but said she was half drunk and doesnt remember everything but it was clearly me. Once again saying that she was coming up this weekend (oct 1-3) and wanted to talk to her about it in person. She was saying that my gf was blind for not believing her and living in a "bubble of denial." So i started thinking this person is creepy but just told my gf to stay away and obviously not meet up with him/her. But now today she's making outright threats thqat we're gonna read about this in the paper and be sorry. Asking if we're afraid and saying we should be. I'm still leaning towards this being just talk for the most part but i'll be honest that i'm a little bothered b/c even when they were friendly it seemed like the point this person had was to meet up with my gf. And then when it didnt look good he/she said i was cheating and wanted to meet with her about that, and now just outright threatening her. She knows my gf name and her address is listed in her college's online directory and I dont know what to do. I dont want to just sit back and something does happen... WE HAVE NO IDEA WHO THIS PERSON IS OR HOW SHE GOT OUR SN'S!!! Ive ruled out my ex's and she's ruled out hers, people that had crush's etc. It seems like this persons main goal is to break us up, the only motive I have at this point. ive been trying to find a way to get her IP address or email address but I havent been able to do it. If I call AOL im sure they wont give it to me b/c for all they know I could be trying to stalk her. Any suggestions?
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Regardless if AOL will you give you any information regarding this whacko... you STILL need to report her. I don't know about AOL but on YAHOO there is a button to report an abusive person... Report this person with thier sn to AOL they will have this persons information and handle it accordingly... tell your girlfriend to block this person from sending her any more IM'S and block them from emailing as well. Good Luck
Author pav186 Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 All there is for AIM is a "warn" button but event that you cant push more than once. I went to http://www.aim.com and they have nothing for officially reporting people.
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by pav186 All there is for AIM is a "warn" button but event that you cant push more than once. I went to http://www.aim.com and they have nothing for officially reporting people. Then call them and report her.
savethedrama4allama Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Can you make up a new screenname and IM this person as though you are someone else trying to find out their real identity? Keep records of all of these IMs (I hope you have so far!) That way if they actually show up you can prove the harassment is ongoing. I added the weirdo to my buddylist. If they get on while I am on, I'll see what I can do.
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama Can you make up a new screenname and IM this person as though you are someone else trying to find out their real identity? Keep records of all of these IMs (I hope you have so far!) That way if they actually show up you can prove the harassment is ongoing. I added the weirdo to my buddylist. If they get on while I am on, I'll see what I can do. LOL! You added them to your buddylist! That's awesome! Give em he** savethedrama!
tiki Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 AOL won't give out account names with the exception of a police order. Going that far is up to you. Document, document.
Author pav186 Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 heheheh save the drama...thx I have a couple of the convos but not the latest because I closed the window by accident but i'll tell my gf to make sure she saves them all...ill have her timestamp them too. tiki - yeah thats the thing, I dont want to overreact but you never know. I'll see what happens over the next couple of days, we've both just been ignoring her and maybe that'll just bore her. xxxxx (12:06:44 PM): you hate me because youre boyfriend is a lying cheater? that makes sense xxxxx (12:09:03 PM): enjoy the little bubble of denial you live in xxxxx (12:09:27 PM): y the **** r u being so blind and stupid xxxxx (12:23:38 PM): Look, im not trying to **** up your relationship or what you have. i know things that i think you need and should know. That's all im going to say. Take that for what it is. And you decide what you're going to do about it. You boyfriend is a cheater whatever way you slice it. So you either life in denial or get some balls and do your research i just cut and pasted some of the stuff...like i said i dont have the actual threats saved because i X'ed it out by accident... not very smooth on my part
Barby Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I added the weirdo to my buddylist. If they get on while I am on, I'll see what I can do. Hehe that's a good way of trying to help someone out, it's probably some weirdo with nothing better to do but play games but on the flip side what if it isn't?? What if it's someone who's "stalking" this girl his GF and that's how he/she knows her. Who's to say they didn't think that if they told her these things they could get her to meet them, over power her, rape her, kill her, who knows...and when that didn't work this creepy a$$ started threatening her. If I was your GF I'd carry a stun gun or mase, and start watching where i went alone, who i went with, and not putting herself into a vulnerable position! Seriously even if it's nothing...what if it's more..better to be safe than sorry!
savethedrama4allama Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 LOL! You added them to your buddylist! That's awesome! Give em he** savethedrama! Merin you know I will I figure we are probably very far away from eachother and there is no way for whoever this is to tie me to pav186 or his girlfriend. So if I can find out this person's name or gender, perhaps I can be of help. Pav, what time of day are they usually online? I am at work from about 8-5 EST and that is when I can look for them.
savethedrama4allama Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by pav186 (12:06:44 PM): you hate me because youre boyfriend is a lying cheater? that makes sense (12:09:03 PM): enjoy the little bubble of denial you live in (12:09:27 PM): y the **** r u being so blind and stupid (12:23:38 PM): Look, im not trying to **** up your relationship or what you have. i know things that i think you need and should know. That's all im going to say. Take that for what it is. And you decide what you're going to do about it. You boyfriend is a cheater whatever way you slice it. So you either life in denial or get some balls and do your research Okay, obviously this person has major agenda. If I caught someone cheating I would notify their partner, but never get so flamed about it. To call someone you don't know stupid? And to tell a chick to grow balls? HUH? Sounds like a guy speaking to me by the language. If worst comes to worst, you could always "agree" to meet this person finally and have the cops meet you there too.
tiki Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I had the same thing happen to me, that's how I know. My mom IM'ed him from her account and gave this guy bait. He bit. He gave her all of his info, I found out who it was and she lit into his ass. It was so freakin hilarious. You've got to give bait though. And get close to her. Send her a pic if you have to...do whatever it takes for her to trust you. Move slow and sly. Manipulate her to give you all the info you need. Then eat her ass alive.
savethedrama4allama Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 tiki, how did your mom start it?
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama Merin you know I will I figure we are probably very far away from eachother and there is no way for whoever this is to tie me to pav186 or his girlfriend. So if I can find out this person's name or gender, perhaps I can be of help. Pav, what time of day are they usually online? I am at work from about 8-5 EST and that is when I can look for them. Yes, I know you will!!! Go on girl, get llama on em!
tiki Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 As an attractive interested nurse working at Vanderbilt's Children's Hospital. Equipped with cute picture too. I emailed her a picture of a nurse-friend of mine. My friend WOULD HAVE DIED if she knew that. But he took the bait and spilled the info on himself. Sack of sh*t. My Mom is the bomb!
YellowLioness Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Tell them what's going on, then AOL will cough up the information you need. It's a stalker situation, so don't wait around too long to take action. AFter all, this person did get personal information about you, you don't even know them, and you don't even know HOW they got that information. How long will it be before they get your address, telephone number, your parents addresses... It's really scary. Yeah, totally call the cops. Don't forget to save EVERY conversation, and have your girl do the same. Any "accidents" on your part could cost you alot. Also, it sounds like a guy. Most girls, unles they're tomboys like me, don't say, "grow some balls," and I only say that when I'm teasing. That sounds like a bunch of foot ball players about to head into a game, and the coach is screaming, "Get out there, Grow some balls you pansies!" Anyway, good luck, pav!
savethedrama4allama Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I mean, did she just IM him out of nowhere like "hi, I am attractive nurse at vanderbilt children's hospital, want to see my picture?!" Or did she act like it was a mistake and she IMed the wrong person, etc...
She's Come Undone Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I'm going to add her as well, under one of my not used names. This will be fun if he/she accepts my message. Can you say this is an FBI agent?
tiki Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama I mean, did she just IM him out of nowhere like "hi, I am attractive nurse at vanderbilt children's hospital, want to see my picture?!" Or did she act like it was a mistake and she IMed the wrong person, etc... Oh no, she completely acted into him...saw your profile, wanna see my pic. Dude was almost forty. She was posing to be early twenties. She lived near him, was young and cute, had a good job, all that B.S. The stuff that lures a man in, lol.
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Could even be someone you BOTH know... A guy who is interested in trying to break the two of you up by telling her things about you that aren't true.... An ex gf of yours maybe? trying to get some revenge?
She's Come Undone Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Do you know anyone at Boston University?
savethedrama4allama Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Hey you know me Merin...I put NUTTIN past the ex-girlfriends....
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama Hey you know me Merin...I put NUTTIN past the ex-girlfriends.... LOL! I feel ya, I do! Damn whack jobs!
Author pav186 Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by She's Come Undone Do you know anyone at Boston University? Yeah I know tons of people but no one I could think of that would do this, I jsut graduated from there and she's a junior. I only have one real ex-gf that I dated for any length of time and im 99% sure its not her. And on her end most of her relationships the guy ended it. This person usually is on between 12-3 and again later on at night. She only signs on for around 30mins at a time. I was also thinking it was a guy because he/she called her a pu$$y which is a guy thing to say. She had a guy hassling her a while back but this is on a diff screenname. The thing is this person not only knew her name and mine but also my friend/roommate and his gf. I told my gf to start a word doc and log everytime she IM's her no matter what it says and date/time it. She says she doesnt know if I should call the police b/c she doesnt want to "blow it out of proportion" I've analyzed some of the convo's line by line looking for a slip up somewhere but couldnt find anything.
tiger_nip Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 damn......why don't u just make your AIM buddy only?
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