swiftly333 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Well, It's been an interesting week. Background/to refresh your memory: I broke up with my ex during a fight due to stress, complications with my meds, etc. I tried to get him back. I wrote him a letter and showed up at his house because he was firm on no contact. After that he would talk to me, but only when I would initiate, and always seemed iffy and cold. I finally started to believe that he just didn't care and went back to no contact never expecting to hear from him again. I stared to believe that all the little things he'd say or do that kept me hoping were breadcrumbs, things to lead me on.... I started to believe everyone on here who pretty much told me I was dumb and desperate. About a week after.I'd given up all hope he starts texting me that he misses me, he thinks about me all the time, he can let me go..... breadcrumbs, they all said. I brushed it off. I ignored. I tried to keep focused. But after a few days.I finally called him. A few days of.phone tag and I finally talk to him on Friday. He told me he was tired of.trying to convince himself that didn't miss me and he wanted to at least give it a shot. We said we'd task it slow an just see what happens. He asks me to meet him for coffee last night. It was amazing, like things just picked up where they left off. We held hands, he couldn't stop staring at me. I remembered now why I was so addicted. It was passionate and intense. Like it always was. We talked a little. We kissed. He really wants to be with me. He said he always did, he was just scared. He told me that night I came over he didn't want me to leave, but didn't know how to ask me to stay. I told him I felt like I was just bugging him and he said no, I guess he liked hearing from me even if he didn't show if. I told him he needs to start being real and telling me how he feels because obviously I'm not psychic nor can I read him. We also talked about how we'd have to actually try and work at it this time and work on communication. But we both obviously love each other and I crazy about each other. He asked to see me again this afternoon. I think the hardest part for us now is going slow. We have history of getting caught up in the passion and losing control, but we're both going to make the effort to do it right this time and build that foundation this time. Obviously, there is no guarantee here. Its too soon to say we're back together and happy, but at least now we're trying. So there is hope! So maybe don't lose all hope so quickly. Trust your gut! And don't let the negative attitudes on here make you give up too quickly. Good luck to you all 1
OwlSoul Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 And don't let the negative attitudes on here make you give up too quickly. Aye. As far as you continue self-development and faith, you'll have the chance to make it work. 1
Author swiftly333 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 Aye. As far as you continue self-development and faith, you'll have the chance to make it work. Yes, absolutely. I will continue to work on myself. I actually go to a be therapist on Monday & an anxiety workshop on Tuesday. I am not going to give up on myself :-)
Author swiftly333 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Things are going well. We're talking everyday and seeing each other often. We're happy together and have talked about how we'll better handle things in the future. We're both willing to work on it. I'm still having trouble believing this is all real, but it's happening! I'm glad I didn't give up an kept the lines of communication open. In this case it worked! And we're both really happy to have each other back in our lives! We're still crazy about each other. 1
crederer Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Nice, good for you. My situation sounds similar to yours except I went NC for the first 7 weeks, felt I started to get the upper hand, met mainly to exchange our things but talked for about 45 mins. Then we went another 3 or 4 weeks NC and she contacted me. She actually baited me saying she thinks she has an STD but must have gotten it from me cause she hasn't slept with anyone. It turned out to be bogus (very strange, I know but she has anxiety issues so it may have been her freaking out for no reason or some ploy to talk to me). Then basically we've been talking briefly almost every day. Said she misses me, etc. We've met a couple times since (just coffee, no relationship talk just catching up). Then the other day I kind of screwed up the progress I made in regards to gaining the upper hand by drunk texting her some stupid stuff. It really wasn't anything too bad. I basically was acting all calm and cool before then I let it be known that I still had some emotional issues between us (I mean she obviously knows that already, but I wish I didn't say that). She also knew I was drunk and said she's concerned about how I've been partying so much lately. I said "Why does it bother you?" She said "cause I care about you, you know that." I said "no. I don't". So the next day I texted her back saying, "Jesus....drunk texting. I'm a little embarassed" and she said "Dont be! Seriously!" So I'm kind of hoping I'll be in your shoes at some point down the road here assuming I didn't eff it all up and now I know not to ever text her while drunk again.
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