strozzap Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 The title says it all. I'm a 23 years old man and I just broke up with my girlfriend. We've been together for over 1 year and now in an impulsive way I broke up with her and told her I don't ever want to see her again... We were in the Subway together and were having a discussion... Today was not a really fun day for both of us... I asked her "Do you feel like we should not be together" ... she said "Hmm I don't know... Sometimes it's not fun and we fight... I'm not sure.. I have to think..." So we went to my house and I simply told her how much I truly loved her and I was really committed and I wanted her to be happy, etc. But I regret so much... I told her that when I break up I don't give a second chance... I loved her a lot and felt that our relationship was really special.. I'm Canadian and she's Korean.. I've known her in Canada and now I'm in South Korea.... I don't speak the language here.. It's hard for me... But I came here 'cause I love her a lot... I broke up 'cause I thought she didn't love me... Not because I wanted... Arrff.... I feel sick...
Author strozzap Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 I just don't know what to do now... I feel lost... She just texted me and she's asking for a last chance... She said she's being like that because of her School and she's so busy and it affects her mood... I don't know what to do...
CelticGibson Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 If you want her back, you better get talking to her fast or else she will think you are serious about not getting back. Move fast or it's done... 1
Chase4U Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I agree you better get to her and talk fast. I'm pretty sure she is just stressed out with everything but you guys better get to talking. Also I am a big fan of Korean Pop Music and the Korean language. I envy you living you there! It's my dream to visit Korea!! 1
apple OR orange Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 once i choose i never go back..... but its your life.
BustedUpInside Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Go see her. Pour your heart out. Get her to do the same. Live happily ever after 2
Author strozzap Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 She came knocking at my apartment.. She got in her face looked totally normal... Then she sat and just started crying non-stop... She didn't say much... I asked her what can I do to make her happy and she said "change your mind about that decision...". I guess she has feelings for me... However I'm afraid that if I go back on my decision she'll feel like I was playing a game.. or that it will never be the same or that she can't trust me... I don't know what to do...
lemonadekiwi Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 If you want her back and think you made a mistake, go get her. If you're afraid that she'll feel you're playing a game, show her you are not, take the risk that things might not be the same straight away. She's hurt, so of course it will take time. But you can rebuild it if you TRY. If you love her you will try and do this. But DO NOT get back with her if you feel you will dump her again and put her through the same pain. 1
Sookie1 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 You have a huge ego. If you love her take her back and apologize. Tell her you panicked and you didn't think things through. 3
Author strozzap Posted May 20, 2013 Author Posted May 20, 2013 Yes Sookie, I think you are right... My Ego is too big... I'm trying to work on that though...
amy10 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 If you want her back just tell he you really want to be with her. She will come back to you but you really have to look at why you broke up with her in the first place. You maybe panicked and thought if you were arguing or disagreeing a lot so you should just leave her, if it was something like this then sort it out befoure you go back with her. Take afew days to think things through and look at your life without her in it. If it really feels like something is missing then say sorry and ask her back out with you. And make sure you keep working on things when you are back together. good luck 1
dreamingoftigers Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 NEVER EVER use a break-up in anger or as in argument tool. Honestly, make a deal with yourself that you won't break up with her again unless you feel like breaking up with her 100% each day for two weeks to a month.
J_L_C Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 once i choose i never go back..... but its your life. Why do you never go back once you choose? Never had second thoughts or believed in no harm giving something another go??
Zahara Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Why do you never go back once you choose? Never had second thoughts or believed in no harm giving something another go?? Good grief.
crederer Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Yah never break up on a whim. I agree with that. Had an ex that used to do that, then change her mind before I even had a chance to leave. Eventually it turned into "well if you don't drive me to the bust stop, I'm breaking up with you cause a good bf would do that!" blah blah. Just learn from it. Don't do that anymore.
soccerrprp Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 GO FRICKEN' GET HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Swallow your d**n pride, give your ego a swat and get her! AAAAAAAAAAAAgh. I know what it's like, dude! If you wait too long, it may be over....what does your heart say?! Do you love her? If so, get her back!
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