apple OR orange Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 (edited) Do you really want to change your entire personality and outlook to make some random female(s) happy? Hes changing his personality and outlook to make himself happy, hes the one whos going to get and enjoy sex alot.... Only a fool doesn’t recognise self-preservation, there’s no "nice guy fall back" clause in life. women say "your so nice your fine someone [not me though, and dont think you will as we dont like nice guys]" There’s no 10 year waiting "default nice guy sex" zone, you know: “oooo i am sorry, have you reach your 10 year "i didnt get sex" point, well no problem, take this ticket and go in there, the hottest women are there to full fil your need for sex as you’re so nice and they all missed you" clause is there.... no, hes single and no sex, he changed, he gets sex.... how’s that no pleasing him? Edited May 19, 2013 by apple OR orange
hppr Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 What do you think it's a bad thing. She seemed to enjoy herself as much as me. Personally, I wouldn't have sex with a woman that I wasn't into. Doesn't mean I haven't done it before (I have, that is why I say DON'T DO IT lol). Here's the thing; your friend has his own way of getting what he wants, and it's a pretty realistic one for these modern times. But is it what you want? For example this chick that is texting you, but you aren't into her, well, what have you gained? You got pussy, congrats, now what?
Author Gambit123 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 Keep trying others on for size, explore and hopefully find one that eventually fits....
NYC-BigKat Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 After a lot of advise on here about that being a nice guy is pathetic and won't get me anywhere. Yeah sadly I'm one of those guys who care about girls I like too much. I always try to understand them, try to not hurt their feeling and really get to know a girl I like first. I'm always been a bit old fashioned and been against trying to date multiple women and sleeping around. Girls always get impatient with me not progressing the relationship faster (I want to be sure) and they get bored and move on. Do I took a bit advise from my friend (he's a ladies man). He told me not to care about them at all and just do your own thing. And sooner you bed them the sooner they will be chasing you like crazy. So last night I went on a date, I was not connecting with her but found her physically attractive. Cut a long story short we ended up bumping uglies and now she won't leave me alone and is constantly texting me. Telling me how much of a connection we had.... I kinda feel bad about just using her for sex... But maybe by friend was right. The sooner you sleep with girls the more they will go crazy for you. And he said sleep with enough women eventually you will find one you actually care about enough that you want to get to know her. Sounds a little immoral if you ask me but being a guy that cares about other people's feeling too much and always getting hurt is really not working for me.. Is my friends ideas the best way to stop being the lonely nice guy that cares to much? This is what my uncle been telling me for so so long but I dont know how to do it where it works u know. He's been doing it for lots of yrs but I dont know how & it makes me feel so lonely. I gotta try something that works. I'm glad its working for u .
El Brujo Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Sheesh, some of you guys talk like sex is the be-all-end-all. Seriously, you guys should each look into buying yourselves Fleshlights. They'll cost you only $60, which is cheaper than some dates.
StanMusial Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Sheesh, some of you guys talk like sex is the be-all-end-all. Seriously, you guys should each look into buying yourselves Fleshlights. They'll cost you only $60, which is cheaper than some dates. Well, we've all been there. Young and dumb and full of hush yo mouf
phineas Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 IDK. I've hit the point where as soon as a woman starts playing games or wastes my time I back off & forget them. If they come back I let them know this is their last chance. They always blow it. I don't know why but i've always had a problem with women who seem to think they can lead me on then they get pissed when I freeze them out. It's as if their thinking "how dare he not be my BF without benefits" so I just keep sticking to my guns & forget women who aren't offering me anything.
PogoStick Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I love how the options are: Have sex with someone you don't like. or Have no sex with someone you do like. 1
carhill Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Or, have sex with someone one likes but doesn't care a great deal about......yet.
na49 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Being an @sshole won't get you anywhere either. The thing is most people who are "nice guys" ALLOW everyone to walk all over them and then they're confused why people are taking advantage of them. Well... what do they know? As far as they know, you're okay with letting them take advantage of you. They might not even realize they are. It's not they're job to either, it's your job to let them know when enough is enough. It's your job to tell them "No I don't want to do that right now". I'm not very good at this but I'm working on it. I used to think I have to become a jerk so people will like me. but no one likes a jerk. They like a guy who is confident, has boundaries, demands respect from others and gets it. Just my take on it though. 1
todreaminblue Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 (edited) You dotn have to be a jerk, you dont have to not care, please don't respect any ideal that says you have to bed a woman to make you crazy about them, unless of course, you want casual sex fwb relationships..... 1 if you want a meaningful compassionate caring sort of relationship project that with who you are and your demeanour...... 2 if you want to find a girl who has been used.......then treat them like crap, use them, bed them and please realize, that girl or woman, has probably been treated so badly she doesnt realize the difference.... you are just one more dick ...in her vagina...and maybe she is a woman who thinks the only way to a man's heart is to have sex even when she really doesnt want to or isnt ready to ...but has been conditioned into believing thats how it is... so why not i hear other dickheads say.....any root in a storm..... and right there is you, failing to see her humanity, that would be your mistake.......one that bears no comforting memories...it will haunt you be different dont follow a pack animalsitic dickhead mentality...be loving be kind be caring, be respectful, have firm boundaries and you will find the woman who respects you and your ideals....not just has sex with you or not a woman who has been used for sex before...i get ragged on for being tooo nice...you dotn knwo how many ribbings i have copped in my life or had peopel say she cant be real............i will not change......because i dont want to i try to do the right thing...what i believe to be right.....why should you change being nice give me the reasons why you believe being a dick, is going to help you, achieve what exactly?...........best wishes......stay nice....play nice..be HONEST to who you really are..........deb Edited May 20, 2013 by todreaminblue
Otty Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I lot of people swear that pump and dump is the way to go!
Treasa Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I lot of people swear that pump and dump is the way to go! Do you have that luxury? If so, no one can stop you. Unless you piss off a really unstable woman, I guess...
Otty Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 To be honest, such a lifestyle is very unfulfilling, but in many cases it's the only method of "courtship" that many young women understand and respond to. Of course, many women don't like the "dump" portion of the equation, however, most women who respond to this approach method aren't suitable as long term partners therefore the dump must necessarily follow the pump.
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