tomtheman1234 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I am a 37 year old man who looks young for my age and dresses in h and m topman river island type casual clothes. I not very good at dressing up. I joined a date site and have a date with a girl who has only seen a few pics of me. We are going to meet up in a cafe in Richmond in London. I want to make a good impression. What should I wear as I feel I should make an effort for this girl? Any ideas would be great and I do not feel I should dress up to much as I want her to see the real me.
Buttercup84 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I am a 37 year old man who looks young for my age and dresses in h and m topman river island type casual clothes. I not very good at dressing up. I joined a date site and have a date with a girl who has only seen a few pics of me. We are going to meet up in a cafe in Richmond in London. I want to make a good impression. What should I wear as I feel I should make an effort for this girl? Any ideas would be great and I do not feel I should dress up to much as I want her to see the real me. Not a T-shirt, but jeans, good shoes and a nice shirt and blazer over it ? Or a T-shirt with a blazer over it. But that is just what I like 1
Emilia Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I am a 37 year old man who looks young for my age and dresses in h and m topman river island type casual clothes. I not very good at dressing up. I joined a date site and have a date with a girl who has only seen a few pics of me. We are going to meet up in a cafe in Richmond in London. I want to make a good impression. What should I wear as I feel I should make an effort for this girl? Any ideas would be great and I do not feel I should dress up to much as I want her to see the real me. How affluent is she?
sillyanswer Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 We are going to meet up in a cafe in Richmond in London. I want to make a good impression. What should I wear as I feel I should make an effort for this girl? Richmond is a great place for a date. Lots of little lanes to walk along, plenty of places for a bite to eat. If the weather is good, take her for a walk along the river between the White Cross (pub) and Richmond Bridge. Anyway, don't wear anything that will make you feel self-conscious, and make sure it's clean, and you'll be fine.
sillyanswer Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Not a T-shirt, but jeans, good shoes and a nice shirt and blazer over it ? Or a T-shirt with a blazer over it. But that is just what I like That sounds good. Or if you're not a blazer-wearer then a sweater. 1
phineas Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I'm 41. I don't live in hoity-toityville. I wear jeans & polo or v-neck. either is form fitting. If colder out long sleeve v-neck that isn't made of t-shirt material. If it's warm out I wear shorts. Cargo or otherwise. If the shorts are plain i'll go with a striped V. If the shorts have a design I go with a solid V. I only own solid polo's right now.
LittleTiger Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Wear something that you 'feel' smart and comfortable in, ie something that makes you feel good. In my opinion, the most important thing on a first date, especially for a man, is to be relaxed and at ease with yourself. That's a very attractive trait for most women. You can't be relaxed and ease if you are dressing specifically to impress. If she doesn't like you because of the way you dress, it's a non-starter anyway. Be yourself and have fun! Let us know how it goes. 1
apple OR orange Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 wear what you want, ive never seen clothes stop a guy who will get sex, not get sex... If you need clothes to make her like you, then she doesnt like you! Robert downy Jr. would still get sex if he had good or bad clothes on, women dont care...
rocketman122 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 wear what you want, ive never seen clothes stop a guy who will get sex, not get sex... If you need clothes to make her like you, then she doesnt like you! Robert downy Jr. would still get sex if he had good or bad clothes on, women dont care... nonsense. u have no idea what youre talking. OP is not RDjr. and clothes plays a big part in the whole package. clothes will make or break the first date. your whole image is based on how you dress. that also includes grooming. first impression. I put a lot of effort in the way I look and I can only say that every woman I dated through OLD was impressed. I could see their eyes run up and down checking me out. how you dress says many other things about you as well.
El Brujo Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I learned my lesson on that one long ago. Unless it's a beach party, a group hike, or a picnic, dating attire is anything but casual. We guys like to be comfortable, but unfortunately the woman's not born yet who doesn't care what her man wears---they want us to dress as formally as possible, short of wearing a top hat and a monocle. Believe me, I'd LOVE to wear Bermudas and an A-shirt while I treat a very nice woman to dinner at my favorite local restaurant, but it ain't gonna happen unless I wear a nice shirt with slacks and a tie. Such is life.
apple OR orange Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 OP is not RDjr My point exactly, thanks for agreeing with me, its the person, not the clothes.
rocketman122 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I learned my lesson on that one long ago. Unless it's a beach party, a group hike, or a picnic, dating attire is anything but casual. We guys like to be comfortable, but unfortunately the woman's not born yet who doesn't care what her man wears---they want us to dress as formally as possible, short of wearing a top hat and a monocle. Believe me, I'd LOVE to wear Bermudas and an A-shirt while I treat a very nice woman to dinner at my favorite local restaurant, but it ain't gonna happen unless I wear a nice shirt with slacks and a tie. Such is life. nice! women take notice of what an man wears. didnt you ever notice its the woman who will buy and choose the clothes for the man when theyre dating seriously or married? not me though. I can school women on dressing and hygiene. but yes you must dress sharp. ESPECIALLY a first date. OP slacks/dockers (screw the pleated pants-get "slim straight" cut pants and no bottom cuff thats old school 80's) and a nice FITTED (not oversized and baggy/sloppy like they like in the US, where the sleeve falls to the forearms) buttoned shirt or a nice nautica/Hilfiger or even those muscle cut A&F polos will be kickass. polish your shoes! and a nice belt. match the belt color with the shoes. hygiene- your hair, nails and face must be good. dont forget to brush your teeth. I know its too much to ask but once a week is a must
Imported Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 wear what you want, ive never seen clothes stop a guy who will get sex, not get sex... If you need clothes to make her like you, then she doesnt like you! Robert downy Jr. would still get sex if he had good or bad clothes on, women dont care... Sweet, hope that works out for you! Also, don't worry about showering or wiping your ass either. If she doesn't like you because you smell like ****, then she doesn't really like you! Look smart and clean OP. Properly fitted clothes, nothing dirty. I don't know what looks good on you or what shape you're in, but generally a collared long sleeve button up shirt in a solid or mostly solid color, pants other than jeans (I like 5-pocket pants in slim straight legs cut. Generally its a jeans type cut, but using different material that you can get in whatever color). Shoes other than sneakers....I like chuka boots. 1
rocketman122 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Sweet, hope that works out for you! Also, don't worry about showering or wiping your ass either. If she doesn't like you because you smell like ****, then she doesn't really like you! Look smart and clean OP. Properly fitted clothes, nothing dirty. I don't know what looks good on you or what shape you're in, but generally a collared long sleeve button up shirt in a solid or mostly solid color, pants other than jeans (I like 5-pocket pants in slim straight legs cut. Generally its a jeans type cut, but using different material that you can get in whatever color). Shoes other than sneakers....I like chuka boots. ah someone who knows wussup!
scotthx1 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 casual smart always works for me, dark jeans shirt/shirt and sweater, shoes, clean shaven, smell nice but same time got to feel comfy, girls notice if you dont look comfy in your own clothes , hope your date goes well
Veronica2025 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Avoid wearing spandex anything. Make sure what you wear is wrinkle-free, comfortable, and appropriate for the occasion. For first impressions, don't dress too casual.
todreaminblue Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I am a 37 year old man who looks young for my age and dresses in h and m topman river island type casual clothes. I not very good at dressing up. I joined a date site and have a date with a girl who has only seen a few pics of me. We are going to meet up in a cafe in Richmond in London. I want to make a good impression. What should I wear as I feel I should make an effort for this girl? Any ideas would be great and I do not feel I should dress up to much as I want her to see the real me. jeans and a polo nice shoes.......blazers look causal and smart....sweater if its cold.....deb
Imported Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Avoid wearing spandex anything. Make sure what you wear is wrinkle-free, comfortable, and appropriate for the occasion. For first impressions, don't dress too casual. Actually, they make spandex weaved into other clothing material now. This makes it so they can do cuts that are more flattering (I think mainly more form fitting on the butt) without it being tight looking/feeling and also very comfortable to move around in. Doesn't look like spandex at all. Just allows for a more form fitting cut (not skin tight or anything). Very comfortable to wear.
Veronica2025 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Actually, they make spandex weaved into other clothing material now. This makes it so they can do cuts that are more flattering (I think mainly more form fitting on the butt) without it being tight looking/feeling and also very comfortable to move around in. Doesn't look like spandex at all. Just allows for a more form fitting cut (not skin tight or anything). Very comfortable to wear. Okay. Wear spandex. Spandex it up.
edgygirl Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 (edited) I think there's an outfit almost any woman would like: black buttoned long sleeved shirt, dark jeans and smart shoes (I like cool sneakers but I work in a creative field, more preppy women would probably prefer dress shoes). A well cut jacket if it's too cold. Don't forget - a good cool haircut helps a LOT. As opposed to what other mentioned, I do like a cool t-shirt with a good blazer on top and jeans, rock star style. I am not preppy and live in a big city and would honestly kind of cringe over a polo shirt. Edited May 20, 2013 by edgygirl
GravityMan Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Wear something that you 'feel' smart and comfortable in, ie something that makes you feel good. In my opinion, the most important thing on a first date, especially for a man, is to be relaxed and at ease with yourself. That's a very attractive trait for most women. You can't be relaxed and ease if you are dressing specifically to impress. If she doesn't like you because of the way you dress, it's a non-starter anyway. Be yourself and have fun! Let us know how it goes. I second the bolded. The blazer/button-down shirt/dark jeans suggestions are good ones for a casual date...but if the OP isn't comfortable in that getup, he shouldn't wear it. (And he probably shouldn't suggest date locations where that would be expected attire.) I think many women would probably notice if the guy feels self-conscious in his clothes. OP, just make sure that whatever you wear...you LIKE it, it fits well, it's clean (that includes your shoes), pressed, not sloppy, and occasion appropriate. IOW, show that you've put a little effort into it without overdoing it. First impressions matter.
USMCHokie Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I'd personally go with a suit. Nothing screams sex quite like a suit.
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