mbee Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I ended up going to Mexico for vacation after this terrible breakup. The last night there I met this extremely attractive guy who seemed really nice. I did not know where he was from (but after a few hours discovered he lived 20 minutes away from me; crazy coincidence). He's originally from East Europe, has a strong accent, so I thought his interest was purely sexual since I thought he lived continents away. He danced with me the whole night, put his arm around me twice, and was super sweet. I don't do one night stands and it wasn't going to happen. When he walked me back to my hotel at 4am we spent that hour just talking and having a good time. That's when I discovered he lived 20 minutes from me and I offered that we hang out. He gave me his Facebook info and number. He even tried to shake my hand as I said goodbye, but I just went up and hugged him. I thought it was strange since he hugged me earlier that night. I messaged him about 2 days after that night and asked him if we could get together this week. He responded 10 minutes later and said next week would be better and said some random stuff about feeling sick and how his vacation was going so far. I replied back to him but it's been 2 days since I've heard from him and he's been on Facebook. He should be back in the US, so I texted him but haven't gotten a reply back. I'm starting to wonder if he's not interested. I'm not planning to contact him again. I just wondered if he thought this was going to be a fling and didn't plan on me actually living 20 minutes away from him in real life. Any thoughts on this?
TaraMaiden Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 You went back to your place - and you talked. I'm sure he found it charming, but in all likelihood, he was hoping for something a little more.... inviting. His handshake was a relatively clear signal that he wasn't going to pursue this further. His general banter about health and holiday was keeping you at arm's distance. In his eyes, you blew it. Oh he was interested, all right. You just didn't pick up on it, or act as quickly as he wanted....
Author mbee Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 Yeah, that's the stuff dreams are made of. Banging some stranger in a foreign country, having NO clue about his sexual health. Yup, the OP sure lost out on THAT once-in-a-lifetime chance. Haha THANK YOU for saying that! I really don't do one night stands and never will. The guy was really cute and we connected but at the end of the day, I don't know him or anything about him. Also, I was traveling alone. I don't think I blew it. I was just being smart. In my opinion staying out with him till 4am by myself was probably not smart, but sleeping with him and inviting him to my room would have been putting myself at risk for who knows what. He doesn't have a girlfriend. We are Facebook friends so unless he's hiding it really well, he likely isn't seeing anyone. Also, he knew before we started talking that I lived where I lived. He overheard me talking about it with another random guy I met. Anyway you are probably right. It probably was supposed to be some weird fling thing. Bummer! 1
TaraMaiden Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I was in no way shape or form implying that mbee SHOULD have had sex with him. Quite the contrary. I'm very glad for her she didn't. But I'm basically saying precisely the same as this: OP, more than likely .... he simply WAS looking at it as some kind of vacation fling. If he's that much of a scumbag that he expected you to give him a little girlie action after only having met him 4 hours before, then he's not worth the powder to blow his sorry ass up. He was angling for something, but didn't get it. This is why he has to all intents and purposes dropped off the radar. Because he doesn't want to make the effort of pursuit, wooing or taking his time. He wanted a quick leg-over, and didn't get it. He's moving on....
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 You went back to your place - and you talked. I'm sure he found it charming, but in all likelihood, he was hoping for something a little more.... inviting. His handshake was a relatively clear signal that he wasn't going to pursue this further. His general banter about health and holiday was keeping you at arm's distance. In his eyes, you blew it. Oh he was interested, all right. You just didn't pick up on it, or act as quickly as he wanted.... LOL. Sounds straight out of a woman's romance novel. OP described the guy as extremely good looking. When a woman thinks a man is extremely good looking, he is EXTREMELY good looking, to ALL women. So, in all likelihood, he knew that OP was attracted to him. When you have a really hot guy gals, you have to chase.
RedRobin Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 When you have a really hot guy gals, you have to chase. naah... not really. They don't respect women who chase them anymore than other guys. It's possible he was up for a fling... but decided to be a gentleman after he learned she lived closer. Nothing like familiarity to kill the exotic 'lurve' buzz.
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