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Im seriously thinking suicide because you know, whats the point of living alone forever? I am 19 and never had a girlfriend which pretty much means YOU ARE ALONE FOREVER according to what I hear in my head. I mean seriously, 19 years and never had 1 girlfriend? Forget it. Theres absolutely no hope for me(Ive lost my hope a while ago too) whatsoever if you hadnt had a single girlfriend by 19.. And Im not searching for one either cause I know it wont work out. I just want to know if it is possible living alone happily forever. If not, I might have to seriously consider leaving

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Im seriously thinking suicide because you know, whats the point of living alone forever? I am 19 and never had a girlfriend which pretty much means YOU ARE ALONE FOREVER according to what I hear in my head. I mean seriously, 19 years and never had 1 girlfriend? Forget it. Theres absolutely no hope for me(Ive lost my hope a while ago too) whatsoever if you hadnt had a single girlfriend by 19.. And Im not searching for one either cause I know it wont work out. I just want to know if it is possible living alone happily forever. If not, I might have to seriously consider leaving

 

You are upset you don't have a girlfriend...yet you're not looking for one...and you want to schwack yourself because of something you're choosing not to do...? :confused:

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Whoa my man, slow down, first off you need to talk to someone immediately, a parent, friend, shrink, dog idc. Go do that right now!

 

In case youre still reading Im 22 coming up on 23 and never had a serious girlfriend. Im as happy as can be and you know why? Woman are only about 1/5 of what we need out of life. Seriously enjoy yourself! Were young and woman are attracted to happy guys having a good time, Im talking to a girl right now who i met through a friend, when i asked why shes interested in me she said she likes that Im "always smiling". So put a smile on, go out with friends, get a job, find a hobby, play a sport, and if you want, be aggressive but respectful with women.

 

REMEMBER: SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT SOLUTION TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM!

 

What? Youre still reading this?! Go find someone to talk to already!

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Im seriously thinking suicide because you know, whats the point of living alone forever? I am 19 and never had a girlfriend which pretty much means YOU ARE ALONE FOREVER according to what I hear in my head. I mean seriously, 19 years and never had 1 girlfriend? Forget it. Theres absolutely no hope for me(Ive lost my hope a while ago too) whatsoever if you hadnt had a single girlfriend by 19.. And Im not searching for one either cause I know it wont work out. I just want to know if it is possible living alone happily forever. If not, I might have to seriously consider leaving

 

Dude, are you serious?? I'm 29 right now and no woman has ever wanted to date me until I was 26! I was actively looking since forever and couldn't find anyone who was even remotely interested in me until I was 26, which only lasted 2 years and now I STILL can't find anyone. So cut your bull**** "suicide" thoughts and get it in your head that there are ALWAYS people worse off than you. I can't even find a woman willing to be friends with me but I'm not giving up!

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For every person like you contemplating suicide because they have never had a girlfriend, there is a married man, somewhere contemplating suicide because he wishes that he had never started the palaver.

 

You are being obsessive, yet as someone else points out, being in a relationship with "a significant other" is only a small part of being a successful person. And many successful men, in all other respects, are miserable failures in their personal relationships, yet have had no problem getting into one in the first place.

 

Getting into a relationship with another person, whether you are heterosexual or homosexual, requires a different mindset and an ability to compromise in and modify your behaviour that you can find yourself innately rejecting because it requires you to make decisions that you simply don't like, not that you are ultimately incapable of.

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Ed the 3rd Established Member

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That's stupid. You are not even out of your teens yet. Yes it does hit you pretty hard that you're only 11 years from being 30 but that's a long ass time. Go get a girl they don't bite as long as you don't slap em on the ass or something.

 

Or try online dating. Okcupid and Plenty of fish are great.

 

You are a guy. They will never come to you unless you are some kind of footballer or band hotshot.

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Or try online dating. Okcupid and Plenty of fish are great.

 

He said in another thread that he is Japanese, so I would veto this recommendation...

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Im seriously thinking suicide because you know, whats the point of living alone forever? I am 19 and never had a girlfriend which pretty much means YOU ARE ALONE FOREVER according to what I hear in my head.

 

You should get professional help both for your suicidal thoughts and for the voices in your head. Do this urgently.

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He said in another thread that he is Japanese, so I would veto this recommendation...
Never saw that. But my other points still stand.
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To answer the premise of this thread: no, but two months ago, I passed a point where I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and do something about it.

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Im seriously thinking suicide because you know, whats the point of living alone forever? I am 19 and never had a girlfriend which pretty much means YOU ARE ALONE FOREVER according to what I hear in my head. I mean seriously, 19 years and never had 1 girlfriend? Forget it. Theres absolutely no hope for me(Ive lost my hope a while ago too) whatsoever if you hadnt had a single girlfriend by 19.. And Im not searching for one either cause I know it wont work out. I just want to know if it is possible living alone happily forever. If not, I might have to seriously consider leaving

 

First off suicide because you can't get a girlfriend? Hope you aren't serious, I've been passed 19 and while I still have never got a girlfriend, and the future itself looks extremely bleak I'm not going to commit suicide because of that. I have other more important things to live for, besides I don't want to disappoint my family and friends. Even if you are alone forever, it really isn't that bad, sure you won't experience some of things others experience but its not the end of the world.

 

Second, do you actually try to approach women? While I myself have never had success in dating, and always rejected I have noticed my nerdy friends who initially never had a girlfriend in their lives the moment they started actually approaching women they actually found someone. So by putting yourself out there you may get lucky like them.

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Hey man. I know exactly what you are thinking and feeling because I've been there. Maybe a part of me still is.

 

Is it obsessive to focus on this one facet of life and declare life not worth living? I guess so, sure. But so what? Money isn't as important to me as having a woman. My hobbies aren't. My career isn't. Every time I close my eyes and visualize a successful version of myself having attained all my goals, I have a woman by my side. Then I open my eyes and am alone. As I have been. For 27 years.

 

So I get it. And I know that trying to imagine realizing all your dreams but doing it alone, especially if you're like me and have no family, makes it even harder. Do you want to have millions? Live in a mansion? Be world famous for something? Accomplish something truly historic?

 

How will all that feel if after you count your money and move in to your mansion and give that interview or go to that unveiling of your own statue, you just lay down in bed, alone, with no one, as it has always been, and know it will always be?

 

It will feel like ****.

 

So I know the obsession. And I know the fears. But you're still only 19. You still have lots of time, tons. You can make so many changes, changes you didn't even think were possible. You can have a go at it.

 

And look, maybe it doesn't work out. I'd be lying if I said a part of me doesn't still worry just a bit that I'm gonna one day realize I'm 60 and alone and it's pretty much over and I missed out on the young, fun, sexy times, and then yeah, I'll probably kill myself. I'm scared of that future.

 

But it doesn't have to be. And I can tell you that for years now I have been fighting my ass off to change it. And you have to as well. You're 19, you have a lot of fight left.

 

Just yesterday I approached a woman in a grocery store while we were both shopping. I struck up a conversation. It went well but we parted ways. I said no, screw this, I'm gonna ask for her number.

 

I spotted her in line to check out. There were other customers around. There was the cashier. It was like they didn't exist. I walked right up to her and told her straight up, "Hey Amanda, listen, I'm going to regret this for the rest of the day if I don't ask, so I'm just gonna do it. You think I could get your number?"

 

She smiled. She said, "No, sorry, I have a boyfriend. But you're awesome."

 

I nodded and walked away to finish shopping.

 

Just two years ago, one year ago, I would not have been able to do that. Five years ago and I would have been afraid to make the eye contact that started our conversation in the first place.

 

She said no. But it didn't hurt and it didn't kill me, and at least I could do that much. Personally I don't think until I get my teeth fixed I have a chance. And I am doing everything I can to make that happen by August, my 28th birthday.

 

But I am so close. My hair is really good I think. It used to be awful. I'm 50 lbs heavier. I used to be a skeleton. I just joined an online shopping site for men, JackThreads.com They have great clothes at great prices.

 

I'm working on my game.

 

I'm fighting. And even though I'm terrified of being old and alone and just pulling that trigger, I know I have a lot of time. And just think. What if you go out there and get a girl by the time you're 21? 25? 30?

 

Think of all the lonely nights you've spent in your 19 years, and imagine having 19 years of not being lonely. Of potentially having a beautiful, vibrant woman who loves you by your side.

 

It's worth it man.

 

Listen, last piece. I don't believe in god. It seems pretty certain that when we die, that's it. I wasn't put here for any great thing, I'm just the result of random events combining to form the thread of my life.

 

I look at it like a dice roll in a roleplaying game. I got a ****ty freaking dice roll, okay?

 

But I'm here. And there's a lot of time left in the game. I can still win. And you can to.

 

But we gotta fight.

 

No one gives it to you. You have to take it.

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Yes there is a point. Deathbed.

nerd Established Member

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If you commit suicide, the universe wins.

 

Do not let the universe win.

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If you commit suicide, the universe wins.

 

Do not let the universe win.

 

 

 

lol FIGHT DA POWA! :cool:

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OP, the cool thing is, once you've had it all, you may come to really value being happy alone. Life has a way of providing opportunities and change. My bet is that, like most people, you'll have your intimate partners in life.

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Im seriously thinking suicide because you know, whats the point of living alone forever? I am 19 and never had a girlfriend which pretty much means YOU ARE ALONE FOREVER according to what I hear in my head. I mean seriously, 19 years and never had 1 girlfriend? Forget it. Theres absolutely no hope for me(Ive lost my hope a while ago too) whatsoever if you hadnt had a single girlfriend by 19.. And Im not searching for one either cause I know it wont work out. I just want to know if it is possible living alone happily forever. If not, I might have to seriously consider leaving

 

From someone who's attempted suicide twice, take it from me: don't ****ing bother.

 

I know this sounds harsh, but (statistically speaking), you will **** it up and you will regret it. And those two weeks (give or take) that you have to spend in the psyche ward? Yeah, it's not nearly as entertaining as "Girl, Interrupted" would have you believe, I can promise you.

 

Is that a good, healthy reason for not trying to kill yourself? Probably not.

 

But in my opinion, any reason you can think of is a good enough reason.

 

Now, as far as addressing your actual questions and concerns: does it get easier? Hasn't for me. Last time I tried to commit suicide was just over a year ago and...well, it's still something I think about a lot, and no, I'm not any happier.

 

As for living alone, happily? I dunno, man. I'm sure not.

 

But I'm not any worse than I was a year ago.

 

Small victories, man.

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Im seriously thinking suicide because you know, whats the point of living alone forever? I am 19 and never had a girlfriend which pretty much means YOU ARE ALONE FOREVER according to what I hear in my head. I mean seriously, 19 years and never had 1 girlfriend? Forget it. Theres absolutely no hope for me(Ive lost my hope a while ago too) whatsoever if you hadnt had a single girlfriend by 19.. And Im not searching for one either cause I know it wont work out. I just want to know if it is possible living alone happily forever. If not, I might have to seriously consider leaving

 

Take my example. I was pretty unpopular in my teens, and I got into my first relationship ever when I was exactly your age, that is 19. Before that, I was rejected countless times. Friendzoned by "best friend" girls I knew for years. Went on a blind date with a girl who found me attractive and then blew it, never heard from her again. Then I suddenly entered a relationship.

 

My first relationship lasted for 2 weeks, the next one about 3 months. The next one lasted for more than 2 years. And shortly after that, another one that lasted a year. So there you have it, 4 relationships one after another. And now I'm single. I was depressed too but I sure ain't giving up. You never know what life will bring.

 

YOUR LIFE IS NOT DEFINED WITH WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU.

IT IS DEFINED WITH HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU.

 

Remember that. You can always be happy, no matter what happens. I have friends who get rejected on a daily basis, but they don't get depressed because they think it's fun. And they sure don't devote their entire lives to girls and relationships. Yes we'd all want to have a loving partner and it can hurt when we don't, but you have to keep moving on. :)

 

You are too young. Love and respect yourself, because if you don't no one else will.

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oh stop!

My first relationship was at 21...and I am 35 now and had great relationships and lots of fun along the way.

 

ehhh, life is full of ups and downs. Your so damn young....just concentrate on more important things right now like a career, forming good friendships and being social --- things you can always fall back on if your love life is stagnant...and it will happen many many many times in your life...ITS CALLED LIFE! THATS JUST LIFE!! YES LIFE SUCKS, but it SUCKS for everyone most of the time, not only YOU.

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still don't understand the logic as to why are women attracted to men that are comfortable and content with their own skin and have a lot going for them in their lives, what does that show and prove to them?

is that a serious question??

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thanks guys... what really makes me upset and frustrated is when i see couples walking around having fun, holding hands, laughing and stuff, it makes me sick seeing that considering i will never get to experience something like that

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I'm 25 and in the same boat. Don't end up like me.

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