DrStrangelove Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Some of you may remember my story. If not - could read through threads. In short - Dated girl for 3.5 years - helped me through depression she's turning 21, I am turning 26. She left me. Went NC. She is begging me back, realizes she made a mistake. Started seeing a guy at work - he didn't work out. I want her back, but my family would disapprove - which I can live with since they always have. Interracial dating IDK if she would do it again, I want to believe she wouldn't as she is a loyal person, but outside stressors got the best of her. She made a mistake, I wasn't the best person in the relationship. It's been 5.5 months. I know if I was to do it again - I would take it slow. HELP ME? I need some perspective.
Stay Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 How do you feel about it personally? You know her better, if you do decide to try it again don't jump into it right away and take it slow like you said.. see where things goes, almost like a new relationship.
Author DrStrangelove Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 How do you feel about it personally? You know her better, if you do decide to try it again don't jump into it right away and take it slow like you said.. see where things goes, almost like a new relationship. I feel like i want to.. but, my family not approving is going to be that much more of a hurdle. They didn't like her and now they have more of a reason not to. I mean I have to live for myself, and I can't make everyone happy.
Stay Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 In the end, do what you want..You want to go through life without saying "what if" so if that's going to make you say what if, do it if you don't mind the outcome, good or bad.. Just be prepared and at least then you can say you attempted it. No matter what others tell you or anyone, we tend to not want to listen until we learn ourselves. So who knows this could be a great idea getting back. Also if they just disapprove her because of interracial dating it might not be the best reason. I understand some parents are old school, etc. but I honestly think that's not a reason to not date someone. 1
EnTT Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 If she still wants you back after that time apart, then I think you should at least give it a shot IF that 's what 'you' truly want. Also, I think you should try to analyze why she still wants to be with you.. Is it because she doesn't like change and just wants you to fill the void, or because she does truly love you and regrets the mistakes/actions she made? Once you're able to determine that you should have a much clearer idea of what to do.
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