Buttercup84 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I met a guy online and we got on well. Kissed, cuddled held hands etc. He seemed very keen. Well he just confessed that he is not keen anymore. After a good 2nd date. He did say that last year he slept with 17 women and hardly gets part the third date. He wants a long term relationship, but ended all his last ones. He is cute, but not exactly "hot". What the hell is his issue ? He was not even in love with any of his girlfriends, and one of them he dated for five years ! I mean, not everything works out, I get it. But he had so many girls and nothing ? I feel hurt but I now know that it is him and not me. He said he is just not feeling it. He seemed to be feeling it when he was messaging me so much and holding my hand and acting like a boyfriend. I guess he just goes online to get laid. End of rant.
spiderowl Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I met a guy online and we got on well. Kissed, cuddled held hands etc. He seemed very keen. Well he just confessed that he is not keen anymore. After a good 2nd date. He did say that last year he slept with 17 women and hardly gets part the third date. He wants a long term relationship, but ended all his last ones. He is cute, but not exactly "hot". What the hell is his issue ? He was not even in love with any of his girlfriends, and one of them he dated for five years ! I mean, not everything works out, I get it. But he had so many girls and nothing ? I feel hurt but I now know that it is him and not me. He said he is just not feeling it. He seemed to be feeling it when he was messaging me so much and holding my hand and acting like a boyfriend. I guess he just goes online to get laid. End of rant. He's told you a lot about himself: he's unreliable, can't relate to women, mainly has sex with them and nothing more. In the face of that, his sweet, hand-holding behaviour seems a little bizarre, if not creepy. It sounds like he has a formula and when it doesn't work he loses interest. There is no indication that he feels any empathy whatsoever, from what you've described, so it's not surprising he's not 'feeling it'; he probably never has. 2
USMCHokie Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 In the face of that, his sweet, hand-holding behaviour seems a little bizarre, if not creepy. Not bizarre or creepy, but smart. That stuff gets 'em all spun up to jump in the sack. 1
scorpio1978 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Better to have him tell you that now. It was bizarre indeed to seem interested and then not the next, but there is nothing normal about being with someone for 5 years and never being in love- not with her and not with anyone. He seems incapable of forming close relationships where true feelings are involved. Good riddance! 1
Author Buttercup84 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 Thanks. Just sucks because we got on well and had great chemistry. He had the chance to have sex but did not. I am not ugly and he loved kissing me etc so he was attracted to me He goes on about how he wants a girlfriend but he is pretty ****ty at it. At least when I am not feeling it, I am honest and let the guy know and do not ignore them
USMCHokie Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 there are a lot of wako's on onlinedating. But there are also a lot of wimmenz that are attracted to the wakos to keep them in business.
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