Joyce Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I get extremely attached to people and even though I have moved on with my life I always wonder how my ex is doing and if he is happy. I even think this about my first love from several years ago. I don't want to contact any of them because it will seem crazy and I don't want them to think I am still in love. I just wonder if I am crazy and slightly obsessive or if this is normal? I know if your breakup is fresh and you have not found closure you think about them. Do other people wonder about their ex after the pain from splitting has gone away?
Jilly10340 Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I don't think it's crazy. If you never wonder how someone that you cared about is doing then you'd be incredibly self involved. I think it's completely natural. I've always wondered how my ex's are doing. That's why I keep in contact with them. Just because we split that doesn't mean that I'm still i love with them but it doesn't mean I don't care about them anymore. You just have to be careful. My last ex, the only person I've ever loved, I wondered how he was doing.....I found out, but ended up sleeping with him in the process. last night, as a matter of fact...
Scott S Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 A relationship was/is a part of your life, & has shaped who you are. An ex's influence will continue long after the relationship ends. Thinking about them from time to time is perfectly normal. What is obsessive is if you cannot think of anything else, & doing so interferes with your day-to-day life, your work, relationships, etc. _________________________ What if people stopped throwing rice at weddings, and threw potatoes instead?
LittleMiss Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I think about my exes all the time. I don't contact them. Just my first love, we still call each other every now and then to see what's new. I think if you cared about someone they will always have a place in your heart. It's only natural to wonder what they are up to. Whenever I see a relative or friend of one of my exes I will ask how he is doing, and tell them to tell him hi for me. Don't worry.
Jilly10340 Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Yeah, as long as you don't cross the creepy line of stalking, I would say you're good....
LittleMiss Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by Jilly10340 Yeah, as long as you don't cross the creepy line of stalking, I would say you're good.... yeah! but that's not a problem for me since I only stalk guys that I am currently dating.
Author Joyce Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 I don't want to stalk any of them. I prefer the NC with the exes because they ended bad but I can't help but wonder if they are happy. I guess it's not just exbf that I think about I would do the same if I ended a friendship with a friend too. Is there anyone that has not wondered if their ex was happy?
Just Visiting Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 Joyce...I experience the same thing. I become very attached to past loves and think about them often. My recent ex is on my mind constantly. I do love certain things about him, but overall....I rather not have any sort of relations. It would be a big step backward if I allowed him back in my life. So I guess you can say I will continue to love him from afar. Although I haven't been in a relationship since our break-up, I have moved on and made some positive changes in my life. So I hope he is happy somewhere.
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