OK, well I got to THIS point today!

[bellasue]

It's not a super big deal. But I was sitting with my son at a tournament he had, went to get lunch, returned, ate lunch, talked with other parents. Then had a BIG AHA moment. I hadn't thought of xMM in SEVERAL HOURS. Not even once. I think this is the first time since dday and NC that this has happened. And I allowed myself a smile and a little fist pump. It is indeed a better day.

 

So all us NC buddies--stay strong......hearts mend slowly.

 

(((hugs)))

[DelusionalOne]

Congratulations! That's a great feeling isn't it? It will happen more frequently now. I am looking forward to the "Aha moment" when I realize I haven't thought about him for a week or more!

[latergater]

It's not a super big deal. But I was sitting with my son at a tournament he had, went to get lunch, returned, ate lunch, talked with other parents. Then had a BIG AHA moment. I hadn't thought of xMM in SEVERAL HOURS. Not even once. I think this is the first time since dday and NC that this has happened. And I allowed myself a smile and a little fist pump. It is indeed a better day.

 

So all us NC buddies--stay strong......hearts mend slowly.

 

(((hugs)))

 

 

THAT is awesome. Can we trade places?

[bellasue]

Delusional one: I can't wait for that point. I was so excited today. Feel like I am getting some of me back!

[Goodbye]

Bellasue, how long has it been since the relationship ended? I think that is fantastic. I've had this happen a couple of times; been really engaged in something and start to feel "complete" and I realize I'm not dwelling on the exMM. It is good and healthy and a sign of healing. I hope it happens more and more for you. Remember that feeling and remind yourself you ARE complete without him.

[bellasue]

It has been just over a month. And of course, I am by no means completely over it and/or him. But it's a small step in the right direction!

[Nattie]

That's wonderful! I have had a few of those moments myself over the weekend... although I am FAR from in a good place, and moved on, I think there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Hugs!!!