buzzie2 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 There is this guy that had been showing an interest in me for some time. He was always staring at me and flirting with me but had never asked me out. I know he is not in a serious relationship with anyone. After months of flirting I decided to ask him out. His reaction was not what I had expected. He looked nervous, and then gave me his number. When I called him a couple of days later he did not answer and I left a message. Then when I ran into him again he looked guilty and said he had been busy but he would call me. He never did. Did I make a huge mistake by making the first move?
zebracolors Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Sometimes "flirty" may be subjective. How certain were you of his true interest? You said he looked nervous when you asked him out, which would normally be a possible sign of interest but maybe they don't know how to proceed. However, true it makes no sense, why he'd give you his number if he was really not that interested in you. or if he was just giving you that to humor you, but then not expect you to call? because it sure seemed like he did a vanishing act after you ran into him the other time. Or perhaps he was not sure of how much you were really interested for whatever reason. So I'd be inclined to say you didn't make a mistake, because you opened the door for him and were going to give it a chance to know him better.
MalachiX Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 You didn't do anything wrong. You've known him for a while and gave him an open invitation for this to be something more. He's either just too shy or not interested. Either way, I think it's great that you made the first move.
apple OR orange Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 generally speaking theres a very big space between "like the idea" and "doing the idea i have". people always want a car, or house, but stomping up the money is a whole new ball game, liking the idea of someone is very different than "yeah i will go out with you". so generally those you think are in to you are just window shopping.
FitChick Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Perfect example of why you should always let the guy make the first move after showing him you are receptive. Then there will be no doubt that he is interested. He was probably looking at you wondering why you kept looking at him. 2
gaius Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 If a guy is really, legitimately interested his penis will force him to make the first move. If he isn't making it then he isn't really interested. 3
green_tea Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 You didn't make a mistake at all - you can now stop wasting your time wondering if he likes you or not and can move onto someone else. Good on you for having the courage to do it.
fabulousgal Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 No not at all, but now you know where his head is at. Just take it as his loss and find a guy who appreciates you.
todreaminblue Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 There is this guy that had been showing an interest in me for some time. He was always staring at me and flirting with me but had never asked me out. I know he is not in a serious relationship with anyone. After months of flirting I decided to ask him out. His reaction was not what I had expected. He looked nervous, and then gave me his number. When I called him a couple of days later he did not answer and I left a message. Then when I ran into him again he looked guilty and said he had been busy but he would call me. He never did. Did I make a huge mistake by making the first move? I normally dont ask guys out unless i am truly interested in getting to know them better then ill kamikaze even though it makes me feel like i have three heads...:bunny:....rabbit heads at that...;0).. i think though with guys who are shy it is hard,it is also hard to read them as they are pretty reclusive,i don't think you made a mistake.....as the poster above said......you made it known you want to get know him better.......now...in saying that i think you should leave it up to him to reciprocate his interest to you and one thing i do know ....doesn't matter how shy a guy is if he is interested in you enough...he will make a move.......a nervous one yeah..i have dated shy guys..but he will make that move...otherwise let it go ......as him just not being interested in pursuing anything other than friendship with you......and if a guy can not communicate wanting to know you better and be honest as you have been honest with your desire to know him ...there are issues.......that may make it hard for anything to progress other than a friendship....best wishes..deb
thatone Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Perfect example of why you should always let the guy make the first move after showing him you are receptive. Then there will be no doubt that he is interested. He was probably looking at you wondering why you kept looking at him. Yeah because she'll never win the lottery now, she asked a dude out and he turned her down, life is over.....either that or she won't even remember him a year from now and lost absolutely nothing, one or the other.
mortensorchid Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 If a guy is really, legitimately interested his penis will force him to make the first move. If he isn't making it then he isn't really interested. I agree completely. 1
Author buzzie2 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 The other thing that I forgot to mention is that when I asked him when would be a good time to get a hold of him he smiled and said "anytime".
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