nomoreshallwepart Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 I've already written here about my break up that happened a month ago (see here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/391909-too-serious-relationship-she-got-back-her-ex), but there are some new developements that I'd like to ask you about. My main question is: how do you think a person in GIGS/rebound relationship reacts to her/his friends and family constantly criticizing the break up decision and pretty much siding with the dumpee? For the last month I have received an enormous amount of support both from mutual friends of me and my ex and those that I consider to be more 'her' friends. What's more, I know that both these friends and her family criticize her decision to break up and don't like the guy she's dating right now (her high school ex). Especially as it came out that he didn't take a break from studying - he just quit and doesn't mean to start working or studying again any soon. When confronted by one of our friends about that, my ex said that sure, he quit, but she believes he will start again "because he said he'll do anything for her". Need I say that I laughed my a*s off when I heard that?
flitzanu Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 I've already written here about my break up that happened a month ago (see here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/391909-too-serious-relationship-she-got-back-her-ex), but there are some new developements that I'd like to ask you about. My main question is: how do you think a person in GIGS/rebound relationship reacts to her/his friends and family constantly criticizing the break up decision and pretty much siding with the dumpee? For the last month I have received an enormous amount of support both from mutual friends of me and my ex and those that I consider to be more 'her' friends. What's more, I know that both these friends and her family criticize her decision to break up and don't like the guy she's dating right now (her high school ex). Especially as it came out that he didn't take a break from studying - he just quit and doesn't mean to start working or studying again any soon. When confronted by one of our friends about that, my ex said that sure, he quit, but she believes he will start again "because he said he'll do anything for her". Need I say that I laughed my a*s off when I heard that? what's the point? your ex is with him and not you. she's the one making decisions for herself, and none of what her friends say matters about you being "better" or this guy being "worse".
Author nomoreshallwepart Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 what's the point? your ex is with him and not you. she's the one making decisions for herself, and none of what her friends say matters about you being "better" or this guy being "worse". The thing is, I didn't ask them for that. Literally all of her friends out of their own scold her for what she did and I wonder how will she react.
travelonic Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 what's the point? your ex is with him and not you. she's the one making decisions for herself, and none of what her friends say matters about you being "better" or this guy being "worse". Doesn't mean he can't be curious about this stuff. 1
rainmayker Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 The thing is, I didn't ask them for that. Literally all of her friends out of their own scold her for what she did and I wonder how will she react. My ex left me for a drug dealer. She hasn't told anyone about him, but I know all about it. I wish her friends would do what these people have done for you - if not for anything else, but to boost my own ego :-P 1
flitzanu Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 The thing is, I didn't ask them for that. Literally all of her friends out of their own scold her for what she did and I wonder how will she react. still irrelevant. she wants to be with this other person and none of her friends are going to convince her any differently. if she wants to date a loser, that's on her. at least you can have your own dignity and make YOUR life better without her.
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