steveT95 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 So I have been doing okay. I have been able to live fine with how I feel about everything and slowly moving on. But then I saw that she is now in a long distance relationship with the guy she started talking to whilst she was with me. He is 10,000 miles away in australia, we are in the UK. But while we were together she was telling me how she wanted to live with him. This has really knocked me, just 6 weeks on and she is with this guy (she may have been long distance cheating for all I know.) I am back to been incredibly depressed, I don't sleep much at all anymore. Last night I was really upset and didn't sleep until gone 4am. It's affecting my relationship with my mum as well, she is stressing out about me and we are arguing a lot. This has really hit me hard and is sending me over the edge. It is just over a weeks NC, all it was that broke it was her saying happy birthday and me replying 'thank you' any talk before that had been a week before. I am sick of feeling like this, I feel I have no control of my emotions. Everyday is a struggle.
Minneloa Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Steve, I am sorry you are hurting. That said, how do you know about your ex's new man? If the answer is Facebook or other social media, that's not NC, and this is basically self-torture. M.
Author steveT95 Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 I had blocked her and the guy she had been talking to so I didn't see them on facebook. For some reason unknown to me, he appeared on my newsfeed. I clicked on his page to block or reblock him. He has pictures of her over his page and her eyes as his cover photo. Pictures that she sent him. They may not call it a relationship because of the distance but it is exactly that. Please know for weeks now I have not gone out to look at there pages and have avoided any possibility of seeing them online until then, when I was trying to block him. This has hit me so hard. I hate her. For the first time ever I just really wanted to hurt her.
Minneloa Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Ok, well that is a very unfortunate glitch. I am sorry you are in pain. It WILL get better. You just have to keep soldiering on and keep the focus on yourself, not her or her actions. After you have accrued a few more weeks of strict NC, I think you will start to feel some relief and experience a shift in perspective. Remember, you are "detoxing" from your relationship, and this is a very difficult process. Come here for support, keep posting, and perhaps write an angry rant or two here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/117844-post-here-instead-contacting-your-ex-551.html You can do this! M. 1
Recommended Posts