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i'm attractive and have amazing hobbies and guys are always shocked I'm single

 

yet I watch guys I like that didn't want a relationship with me (i'm stable and not crazy) chase after unstable girls that treat them like crap. Obviously it never works out, but what the hell? Why would you want someone unstable and crazy?! This makes 0 sense to me and I guess I'm not exciting enough even though I'm freak in bed *shrug*

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Join the club?

 

Or maybe, live by these words: "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with".

 

I'd tell you that I'd date you. But, that doesn't mean much from an anonymous stranger on a message board. So...

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Join the club?

 

Or maybe, live by these words: "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with".

 

I'd tell you that I'd date you. But, that doesn't mean much from an anonymous stranger on a message board. So...

 

Haha yeah unfortunately I will forever have very high standards and be picky. So that quote wouldn't work

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i also have no idea why the heck this got moved out of dating?!

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You're picking these guys. Why not pick a guy who would appreciate a stable, attractive woman?

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I suggest you start wearing your "I'm a Freak in Bed" t-shirt more often. :cool:

 

The propensity for guys to perceive unstable women as more exciting, sexual, fun is somewhat known. I was going to therapy several years ago during/after dating a woman who turned out to be more BSC that is easy to imagine. It was a wild ride to say the least. The therapist asked me if I was sure that I didn't prefer such a person to a stable, mature, emotionally healthy woman. I asked her if it was possible to find a bit of each, the best, of both in one individual. She assured me that it is. I haven't found such a woman yet, but keep hoping. Perhaps you are one? On another forum that I visit men accept the notion that there's a inverse correlation between stability and great sex, and that guys have to eventually decide on an acceptable compromise––what they're willing/able to endure, and for how long, in order to experience great sex. Personally, I'm done with the emotional roller coaster, and don't believe the rule to always be valid. But at the same time there's not much doubt that the obviously freaky women often end up being BSC.

 

The difference is that you can spot them a mile away by the overt behaviors, and they dangle the sex like a carrot on a stick. My suggestion is wear your t-shirt under a coat and instead of acting BSC, throw that coat open and flash a few nice mature guys who have already been on that ride.

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i also have no idea why the heck this got moved out of dating?!

 

Willie is feeling the need to make a difference in the world today.

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On another forum that I visit men accept the notion that there's a inverse correlation between stability and great sex, and that guys have to eventually decide on an acceptable compromise––what they're willing/able to endure, and for how long, in order to experience great sex.

 

A guy friend told me: "Crazy in the head = crazy in bed"

 

I don't think that's true. That's the expectation, but there is a smoldering heat burning inside many reserved women. The "sexy librarian" fantasy exists for a reason. A perceptive man can sense that heat. A charming man can unleash it :bunny:

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A guy friend told me: "Crazy in the head = crazy in bed"

 

I don't think that's true. That's the expectation, but there is a smoldering heat burning inside many reserved women. The "sexy librarian" fantasy exists for a reason. A perceptive man can sense that heat. A charming man can unleash it :bunny:

 

I'm stable, not crazy have not gone nuts on anyone and treat people with respect.....but yeah i'm into really really kinky stuff in bed and yea these guys do ALWAYS come back for the sex...but I'm not crazy enough for a relationship? lol

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you answered your own question. your standards are too high. have standards but ya could loosen some up. but hey im single too and so it isn't just you.

 

My standards are REALISTIC so no I will never loosen them. I don't have standards that are insane to reach towards or anything. I'd say they are pretty normal :)

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My standards are REALISTIC so no I will never loosen them. I don't have standards that are insane to reach towards or anything. I'd say they are pretty normal :)

 

What are your standards? the non-physical ones may be more helpful than the physical.

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Every time I read your threads starla I keep shaking my head on how you seem to be repeating the same mistakes over and over. Thing such as driving over to a guy's house first or second date and putting out after little to no effort on the guy's part. Youre basically too easy (to be blunt) and the guys you like don't respect you for that.

 

I also recall you writing a guy off after a good first date because he texted you twice in a row. I can imagine that if you did meet a good guy who wanted to court you properly, you'd be turned off. You'd probably think the guy was a needy square compared to all those challenging hot guys you usually go for, the ones who make you drive over to their place to "hang out".

 

My point is that the clues (poor people-picker, bad dating strategies) are in your threads.

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I do want a freak in the bedroom, but if it becomes pretty obvious to me that she is a freak in the bedroom with every guy out there, she can just add me to the number of men that has done a lot of freaky things to her and then moved on to a girl that is more discreet.

 

I worked with a girl before that is very attractive, extremely nice and polite to everyone and no guy in his right mind would stay with her long term, including me. Just the guys I know at work that has been up her ass is enough for me to just not look at her as a viable girl for a relationship, never mind all the ones I have no idea about lol. She absolutely thinks no one realizes she is a slut. That guys don't talk and that her behavior alone doesn't give it away.

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i'm attractive and have amazing hobbies and guys are always shocked I'm single

 

yet I watch guys I like that didn't want a relationship with me (i'm stable and not crazy) chase after unstable girls that treat them like crap. Obviously it never works out, but what the hell? Why would you want someone unstable and crazy?! This makes 0 sense to me and I guess I'm not exciting enough even though I'm freak in bed *shrug*

 

It's not a hot-looks thing, or a 'crazy ones are good in the sack' thing, while both of those may be true the reason guys go for those types of women is because they are assertive. They aren't afraid to go after a guy which is why they are never single. Also guys that go for women like that, over and over, typically aren't interested in a relationship or don't know how to have one, so it's easy to just have a fling, or a crazy 4-5 months, rather than to work at something.

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Thing such as driving over to a guy's house first or second date and putting out after little to no effort on the guy's part. Youre basically too easy (to be blunt) and the guys you like don't respect you for that.

 

I also recall you writing a guy off after a good first date because he texted you twice in a row.

 

So basically Starla is one of those crazy girls she is talking about in her own post?

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Honestly? Despite what you claim, you seem to have very little true self-worth. And I think most people can sense that.

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i'm attractive...

 

Haha yeah unfortunately I will forever have very high standards and be picky. So that quote wouldn't work

 

You are only as attractive as who you attract.

 

Perhaps you should reassess how attractive you think you really are. If you can't find willing participants at your "high standards," then those standards may need to be fixed.

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