Author Charlieadam12 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 AS one man to another...And forgive me if I am being blunt. Stop letting your little head do the thinking for the big one. There is nothing in it for you here. I dont care how mature you think you are, if you think you are going to be happy in the end here you are out of your mind... .02... TFY Im not trying to prove to you all how mature I am for my age to justify a relationship with this woman, I know I'm young and have the best years ahead of me. What I do lack is experience, in terms of this situation. Thats why I posted on this site for advice. I might sound young/naive, but all I was looking for was positive advice. On the other side of the coin I was worried if I ended things properly with her if I would come across as an *******, for being there for the fun but deserting her when it got rough/real. I know ending things is for the best, but when done I dont want to look like an ass. I do have a heart and did have feelings for her.
ThatJustHappened Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Im not trying to prove to you all how mature I am for my age to justify a relationship with this woman, I know I'm young and have the best years ahead of me. What I do lack is experience, in terms of this situation. Thats why I posted on this site for advice. I might sound young/naive, but all I was looking for was positive advice. On the other side of the coin I was worried if I ended things properly with her if I would come across as an *******, for being there for the fun but deserting her when it got rough/real. I know ending things is for the best, but when done I dont want to look like an ass. I do have a heart and did have feelings for her. To who? To her? Who cares what she thinks of you? Do you think your parents would be proud of you if they found out you were having an affair with a woman who's married with 3 children? Are you proud of yourself? You're much more of an ass if you continue seeing her and helping her tear her family apart, and she's an even bigger ass than you are. Honestly what you describe sounds like a child throwing a temper tantrum..it's revolting. I don't understand what could possibly be attractive about her behavior. You screwed up..all you can do is pick yourself up and fix it now. The only way to do that is to cut her off. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Im not trying to prove to you all how mature I am for my age to justify a relationship with this woman, I know I'm young and have the best years ahead of me. What I do lack is experience, in terms of this situation. Thats why I posted on this site for advice. I might sound young/naive, but all I was looking for was positive advice. On the other side of the coin I was worried if I ended things properly with her if I would come across as an *******, for being there for the fun but deserting her when it got rough/real. I know ending things is for the best, but when done I dont want to look like an ass. I do have a heart and did have feelings for her. Honestly, she should be more concerned with what she is doing to everyone involved in the situation. You, her husband, her kids and herself. She is currently obligated elsewhere and has no business asking you to stay through her dealing with her own mess. The "ass" part was engaging in the affair to begin with, not withdrawing when you saw the big picture and how unfortunate the circumstance is. She knew, it sounds like you didn't. If she wants the real deal with you, she needs to not be an arse and properly end things with her husband and figure out her own relationship boundaries. You realizing that you are in over your head does not make you an ass.....it makes you realistic.
thefooloftheyear Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Im not trying to prove to you all how mature I am for my age to justify a relationship with this woman, I know I'm young and have the best years ahead of me. What I do lack is experience, in terms of this situation. Thats why I posted on this site for advice. I might sound young/naive, but all I was looking for was positive advice. On the other side of the coin I was worried if I ended things properly with her if I would come across as an *******, for being there for the fun but deserting her when it got rough/real. I know ending things is for the best, but when done I dont want to look like an ass. I do have a heart and did have feelings for her. No need to get defensive...I am just telling you straight that you are in a NO WIN situation. Heck, even if she left her husband and MARRIED you I would say that there is an almost 100% chance she would be screwing your buddy or some other swinging dick that came along in short order,,,Ask yourself now, do you want that? You seem to be looking at a "diplomatic" way to end it? There is no diplomacy here. That went out the window. TFY 3
Praying4Peace Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Listen, I know you two care about each other. But you are not her priority. You need to be the priority in order to be happy. She's married, so it is not happening unless she's single. Just because you share this emotional connection with her does NOT mean you can't have it with another person in a more meaningful way. You just can't imagine it right now because it hasn't happened. And it hasn't happened because of the situation right now. Wasn't there a girl somewhere in your past that you thought you'd never get over and then you met someone that suited you and your situation better? Let your MOW easy. Let her know you care immensely and that's why you are leaving her to figure things out and possibly make it better with her H for the sake of her family and kids. Then your worry that you'll look like you are ditching her will be gone. If she's single, you can reevaluate one day. But live like its not going to happen. 1
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