Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 The samething he probably wants from you. Sex. Relationship. Two girls instead of one
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 The samething he probably wants from you. Sex. Relationship. Two girls instead of one No offense but you are kind of confusing me. I honestly didnt expect THAT answer. If he wanted the same wouldne he have acted the same way he does with me?
TaraMaiden Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 littlebaby, did you read the link I provided? This is why you're asking pointless questions (because we could not possibly definitely say what he's playing at with her) and the answers we ARE giving you are either not sinking in, or you're just not getting it. You do not have the mental ability, maturity or stability to even consider any kind of relationship with this guy. Dump him, quit asking questions we cannot answer, and move on. And yeah - read the link.
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Thing is...we nor you know what he is actually doing. Thus, it is hard to give you exact answers. What did I mean? He wants her or has her already as a girlfriend. Probably having sex with her and lying or not even mentioning you. She is probably unaware of you. Then he's making out to you that he has broken up with her. Feeds you sweet words...yet says if he cared about you...he'd already went and seen you. That alone...what he said...would have ended a typical relationship. Naturally he isn't having sex with you. But with her. He probably might one day try phone/Skype sex...or go and meet for that. Or get pictures. Truth is...none of us know for sure, you don't either. We are going by wisdom...experience and knowing what is right/wrong. We can tell...not only his age, but his dubious words and actions...which shows he doesn't exactly care for you like you hope. All these women giving you advice can see this. They were once your age. They know how crushes and attraction and thought and game works at your age. Some are mothers(like Tara) and have only your best at heart. We don't want you hurt. We don't want you on some website pedo thing either.
justwhoiam Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 What are your expectations about this LDR? You are not even 16 and sex should be out of the picture for you right now. He - on the other hand - is an adult, and probably needs more. I guess he loves you as he says. But he might be conflicted about his feelings for you. You are far away to start with, and even if he got to meet you, he can't overlook the age factor. That said. Do you have fun with him? Do you two laugh together? Do you have ideas? Do you suggest things to do together? Do you convey your enthusiasm? Enthusiasm and passion can be contagious. I guess he needs to feel what he means to you, regardless of words. Plus, with your young age, he must be aware he can be just a passing crush or fling to you. So that might be one of the main reasons why he's keeping things under control, not letting himself go, or not letting it reach levels where he would miss you too much. I would say have a week or two in a row where you make a lot of time for him and make him feel great. Compliment him, open up, let him feel what you really feel for him. If he's still mild with you after this two-week time, draw back, telling him you love him to bits, but he's not loving you back. Then stop talking to him. Don't answer his messages and see what happens. If he stops contact with you, it was really mild, and it's time to let go. And if he disappears, he's not going to miss you much after all. Then move on. Otherwise, he might decide to let his feelings out for real.
1908 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Thats actually not true...nobody will tell him anything. There are a lot more couples our age. Wouldnt matter if he was over 18 too...there are 14 years olds with 28 year olds...nobody says a thing. Well I'm sure people say things because that's wrong. I'm 28 myself and the idea of being with a 14 year old girl is... well ****ed tbh. Your situation with this guy is probably going to end badly littlebaby. Unfortunately so but it'll make you wiser in the end.
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