KatZee Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Thats actually not true...nobody will tell him anything. There are a lot more couples our age. Wouldnt matter if he was over 18 too...there are 14 years olds with 28 year olds...nobody says a thing. It's a sad world if a 28 year old man is with a 14 year old and that child has no one looking out to protect her. You're 14. You're a little kid. As mature as you think you are, you're a kid. You offer nothing to guys like that besides free vagina. You're not long term material. You're native and easily impressionable and that is why guys like THAT prey on girls like you. You're easy. He'd very quickly take your virginity and you'll never hear from him again. You have nothing to offer a grown man unless he is a pedophile. I know you're a kid, I remember being your age and thinking adults had no clue what I was going through, and they had no clue the "love" that was felt between myself and these older guys. Now being that adult, I can see exactly what they were seeing. Trust us all. We've all been your age. You've yet to be ours. Don't make a huge mistake here. Let him go, forget him. Let him go do whatever he wants. Go see your friends, and do things with people your own age. 1
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 That says it all... Do you think he would get back to her? He wanted them to stay friends that means he prolly wanted them to keep in touch. She said she was sorry that she hurt him..yes she hurt him before he hurt her. Even of what he tells her right now and she told him she was really sorry do you think he will string me on but try to contact her later on again?
KatZee Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 That is impossible. He told her he doesnt feel anything for her and he hasnt for a LONG time.. plus he tells me Im the only one in his heart and there is no one else...the only thing I wanted to know is why he is telling her he doesnt feel anything for anyone.. He wants free sex. End of story. You've been on this earth for quite a short amount of time. You're going to learn that a guy will do, and say anything to get a free piece. Even if it's lying right to your face that you mean something to him. 1
KatZee Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Do you think he would get back to her? He wanted them to stay friends that means he prolly wanted them to keep in touch. She said she was sorry that she hurt him..yes she hurt him before he hurt her. Even of what he tells her right now and she told him she was really sorry do you think he will string me on but try to contact her later on again? WHO CARES. Let him do whatever the f.uck he wants to do. Stop concerning yourself with this guy and his ex. He's still messing around with her, and she's still in his life. So leave. Remove yourself. It's better for YOU in the long run that you are not associated with this person. Just stop.
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 WHO CARES. Let him do whatever the f.uck he wants to do. Stop concerning yourself with this guy and his ex. He's still messing around with her, and she's still in his life. So leave. Remove yourself. It's better for YOU in the long run that you are not associated with this person. Just stop. I care ! Because he told her a lot of things. And Im scared hes lieing to her about not having feelings for her at all because I doubt he would want to stay "friends" with her.
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Do you think he would get back to her? He wanted them to stay friends that means he prolly wanted them to keep in touch. She said she was sorry that she hurt him..yes she hurt him before he hurt her. Even of what he tells her right now and she told him she was really sorry do you think he will string me on but try to contact her later on again? Katzee is dead right, you know? I think he is stringing you along for something else. Not to make this ex jealous or anything like that...but who knows? He might even be WITH HER still. Just lying to you...That's what people do...they lie. He sees this naive, cute 14 year old girl, or is speaking to one...texting, I am sure he has seen a pic of you. He is like, "Wow. I could probably trick her into sending me naked pictures, or talking dirty, or skyping dirty...Or who knows? Maybe one day getting to actually have sex with her and take her virginity...after I am done." He is not capable himself. Nor are you. In life, this is advise...Guys will say about anything to get into a girl's pants. Sweet-nothings, as they are called, and it works. It works on much older women, and it can on someone of your age. Honestly, if you were to ask this jerk, if he "wanted to have sex" what do you think he would say? I promise you then he would be telling you yes, and telling you how much he loves you or how pretty you are Katzee, Carrie, Tara...these woman, where once girls. They had little crushes and little boyfriends, and they know best. We want the best for you. We certainly do not want you to be hurt....Fact is, most guys only care about these things: Boobs, butt, and vagina...sex...that's it. You are easy to get to. That is why you see cases on the news, of men going after younger women(usually to abduct)...It's all too easy. Dear, love is this: One of communication. Understanding. Sacrifice. Sharing of self-interests, and as such, some compromise. Ask yourself, do you have this? 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 I care ! Because he told her a lot of things. And Im scared hes lieing to her about not having feelings for her at all because I doubt he would want to stay "friends" with her. Dear...We know you care! We know this hurts you...But, it is what it is. You need to move-on for your BETTER. Not worry about his DOINGS. You are worried about whether or not he is lying to this other girl..but don't you think he might be LYING to you instead?
KatZee Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 I care ! Because he told her a lot of things. And Im scared hes lieing to her about not having feelings for her at all because I doubt he would want to stay "friends" with her. It doesn't matter what he told her. What matters is YOU. I will bet you anything he's just lying to the both of you. You're LD, you're not around, you're naive... he can get what he wants from you and her at the exact same time. All he needs to do is tell you each different things. It's not like you're friends with this girl. You only know because you snooped and found the info. You really think it's healthy that the only reason you know about his ex and all this stuff is because you had to sneak around?
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Katzee is dead right, you know? I think he is stringing you along for something else. Not to make this ex jealous or anything like that...but who knows? He might even be WITH HER still. Just lying to you...That's what people do...they lie. He told her he has no feelings for her so how do you think they could be together?
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 It doesn't matter what he told her. What matters is YOU. I will bet you anything he's just lying to the both of you. You're LD, you're not around, you're naive... he can get what he wants from you and her at the exact same time. All he needs to do is tell you each different things. It's not like you're friends with this girl. You only know because you snooped and found the info. You really think it's healthy that the only reason you know about his ex and all this stuff is because you had to sneak around? Im not friends but I just want to analyze this so I know what to do...and when she told him " your telling her you love her Im 100% sure" he didnt deny it... part of me thinks he loves me and part of me thinks that if he really loved me he would have told her to bug off and he wouldnt have wanted to stay friends...what if he waits for some time to pass and tries to contact her again? do you think he would?
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 He told her he has no feelings for her so how do you think they could be together? He told you that he told her that. How do you know he honestly told her that? Dear. You're naive. Has he tried to get dirty stuff from you? That will tell everything. BTW...welcome to ls use it for anything.
KatZee Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 He told her he has no feelings for her so how do you think they could be together? There's nothing to analyze. He's lying to you. End of story. Stop talking about, "he said this" and "but he said that." What he says is completely irrelevant. ACTIONS speak, not words. And he still wants to be in contact with her and hang out with her. You interpret "hang out" any way you want to.
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 He told you that he told her that. How do you know he honestly told her that? Dear. You're naive. Has he tried to get dirty stuff from you? That will tell everything. BTW...welcome to ls use it for anything. No he didnt tell me that. He hasnt told me about her at all I saw that in a chronology in his skype. And Im acting like I dont know about it.
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 There's nothing to analyze. He's lying to you. End of story. Stop talking about, "he said this" and "but he said that." What he says is completely irrelevant. ACTIONS speak, not words. And he still wants to be in contact with her and hang out with her. You interpret "hang out" any way you want to. He is not messaging her.
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Hes lying dear. You had to catch him. He's probably cheating. Well...at least don't ever sextext or send him images of yourself...if you refuse to believe us... That's what he wants. You're virginity your vagina. I promise you. It hurts to hear what we're saying....but it's for your good.
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Hes lying dear. You had to catch him. He's probably cheating. Well...at least don't ever sextext or send him images of yourself...if you refuse to believe us... That's what he wants. You're virginity your vagina. I promise you. It hurts to hear what we're saying....but it's for your good. Its not like I caught him that he told her something else... the thing im worried about only is that he really doesnt want me ...but still wants her..
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 That's mostlikely the case. Or more-likely he knows since you're ldr and she is close he could trick you both and have two for one. Why not break up with him? Then go through this? Plenty of guys out there for you.
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 That's mostlikely the case. Or more-likely he knows since you're ldr and she is close he could trick you both and have two for one. Why not break up with him? Then go through this? Plenty of guys out there for you. Well because he told her he has no feelings for her and hes telling me he loves me and that I am his everything. Its true Im scared he has something for her because he seems to tell her everything she asks him. Thats the only thing im worried about and that he wanted to stay freinds (meaning he wanted to stay in touch). I love him too...
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 That's mostlikely the case. Or more-likely he knows since you're ldr and she is close he could trick you both and have two for one. Why not break up with him? Then go through this? Plenty of guys out there for you. and btw she is long distance form him too
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Even if you do love him...and he tells you he loves you...doesn't make it true though. Lots of people say "you're my everything! I love you to bits" doesn't make it so. You don't go off of WORDS when someone claims to love you....you go off ACTIONS - he clearly hide this from you(thus action). But it is up to you. Talk to him about it and see. And let us know...we'll give you are opinion. Mine is he wants your virginity or something dubious.
TaraMaiden Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 littlebaby, you seem an intelligent girl Read this. Then understand, for yourself, why it seems nothing we say seems to be getting through to you. Because you're not mature and grown-up enough to process this. So it stands to reason that you are neither grown up or mature enough to be in a relationship.
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Even if you do love him...and he tells you he loves you...doesn't make it true though. Lots of people say "you're my everything! I love you to bits" doesn't make it so. You don't go off of WORDS when someone claims to love you....you go off ACTIONS - he clearly hide this from you(thus action). But it is up to you. Talk to him about it and see. And let us know...we'll give you are opinion. Mine is he wants your virginity or something dubious. I think I just want to give it time... if he loves me he will come not say things like ill be better off with him or that he is scared he wont make trough my hopes and make everything perfect I want to give it time...if they dont write again soon then he wouldnt want her really... at least thats how I think... dont you think that if he wanted to lie to her he would have lied that he loves her? The weird thing is from what I know when they used to contact like more than friends he never told her he loved her instead he told her he wants to move in with her (which was her idea) but he never told her things like that thus I think he really would still have something and hes saying he doesnt.
crederer Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 why in the hell is an 18 year old dating a 14 year old? Jesus.... When I was in highschool I knew 2 guys that did this. They both wanted one thing. One is now in prison. The other is in his mid twenties still hitting on high school girls. I'll let that digest.
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 The thing is you don't know whether he is lying or not. Just taking his word for it....this will not end well. But...you are free to do as you please. He(to me) just is lying...stringing you along. Probably hoping he scores your vagina and leaves...at some point.....shouldn't readily trust ppl. Why not ask him? Tell him what information you've seen. See how he reacts....won't do any good ofc....but meh...idk what else to say..
Author littlebaby Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 The thing is you don't know whether he is lying or not. Just taking his word for it....this will not end well. But...you are free to do as you please. He(to me) just is lying...stringing you along. Probably hoping he scores your vagina and leaves...at some point.....shouldn't readily trust ppl. Why not ask him? Tell him what information you've seen. See how he reacts....won't do any good ofc....but meh...idk what else to say.. Well I guess time will show... what I still am worried about is his ex...do u have anything to say about what he could want from her ? Considering he didnt tell her stuff like that but wanted to live with her.
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