Did I handle this well?

[Granin]

Ok, I have another thread on this, but long story short.

 

 

I go swimming a lot. After going a while I got friendly with a girl who works there. I bumped into her a few times outside of her work and we talked a bit. Thought there might be some interest. Asked her out for a drink. She said yes.

 

 

I said we'd nail a date via Facebook because I didn't have my phone on me and I wasn't sure when I was working that week. She told me her last name and spelled it out. I sent her a friend request and a message. I got no reply or friend accept for a couple of weeks but we still chatted in person. I asked about the drink again and she said she'd let me know.

 

 

After asking what the problem might be on this forum some people suggested she might not be biting because she didn't want to use Facebook. Last week I went for the number instead. She gave it to me, I texted her arranging something for Sunday. No reply up to today, so, I sent her a message asking if she was up for it at all and if not, just to let me know, because I was tired of this.

 

 

Here we go:

 

 

If you aren't up for it at all that's fine, I'm kind of getting that impression, but let me know

 

 

She replies a few hours later:

 

 

Hi H**** sorry! It isn't that. I can get on with you and we can have a laugh but I have a boyfriend and I want to be friends but I get the impression you want more than that. I would love to have a drink as friends but I didn't want to shoot you down and you not talk to me anymore x

 

 

So, after about 20 minutes of "cooling down" I replied:

 

 

Ok, I can understand that. I've been in your shoes before and I know it isn't fun to let someone down, but whether or not you have a boyfriend, or whether or not you're interested or not etc. is really something you should have let me know straight away or as soon as possible, and if you had trouble doing it in person, I still would have appreciated a message letting me know. I know you probably had good intentions and didn't want to hurt my feelings, but it is quite unkind to let something like that go on for so long. Thank you for being honest with me eventually though, I do appreciate that. In future, always let a guy know straight up, it's a lot kinder and more respectful, and means we don't have to guess what's going on. And don't worry, I've been through a lot worse, I can take it As for being friends, that's something I'll need some time to think about. I did like you quite a bit, so it's probably best to let those feelings die before we try having a friendship, especially since you have a boyfriend and I don't want to get knocked out Have a good weekend N******

 

 

No reply from that.

 

 

Then I went swimming to get it off my mind. Now, I was almost certain she doesn't work Saturdays so I thought it'd be safe, but on the way out I bumped into her. She went back into the office area as soon as she saw me and on the way out I accidentally slammed a door open (I swear it wasn't out of anger, the door gets stuck and I pushed too hard). I was whistling on the way to try and sound happy and carefree, probably unsuccessfully.

 

 

Anyway, I am angry. I think that's a really ****ty way to treat someone and she should know better. But is my response too aggressive? How pissed off should I be to be treated like this? I'm quite angry, but not punching walls or anything.