Jefezen Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 I'm getting increasingly frustrated with my dating predicament. I meet many women, most of them seem to enjoy talking to me, some of them ask me out, I ask some of them out. But I don't feel connected to any of them, even when some of them seem legitimately interested in me. I'm tired of going through the motions. I keep going out almost every night, I keep trying to forge connections to different people, I keep trying to create something out of nothing, sometimes pursuing women I'm only lukewarm about because I just want a relationship already. Then when I realize I'm just not sufficiently excited about the person (which describes practically all of my interactions in recent weeks), and that I can't fake things anymore, I inevitably compare her to either someone I was excited about in my past, or someone I deluded myself into being excited about via some combination of fantasy, lust, and regret. This leads to depression, desperation, anxiety, and a foolish reassessment of whether to yet again chase after women I did want, even though they disrespected and rejected me multiple times (the disrespect being separate from the rejection; I don't consider rejection in and of itself to be a form of disrespect. I understand that feelings and desires won't always line up). Sometimes I feel like giving up, other times I tell myself to just continue to do what I'm doing, keep going out, hunt, hunt, hunt, ignore the voices that exhort me to pursue the dead ends, and hope that eventually my efforts will be rewarded. I'm not looking for quantity. I have that, if I want it. I'm looking for quality.
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