Shaylee357 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 My partner of 5months and I broke up 3 weeks ago, we didn't contact each other for a few days and we got talking again and we fell back in love with each other. Less than 48hours on, we were arguing about absolute nothing and he ended it. Strangely enough right when we broke up he got talking with another girl, I tried to avoid him and move on which lasted somewhat around 1 week and he came crying to me because this girl he was talking with, he liked her and she just wanted to be ''good friends'. Me being the sucker for him, I tried to comfort him because I care about him. Despite everything that happened he is my best friend and he always will be. However after a few days him and her managed to sort their problems out and now they are talking all the time again. It was making me feel so down because I still love him; although we were talking - i would be getting jealous if I could see him online and he wasn't very talkative because I knew he was talking to her! I forgot to note, he told me he wants to be friends, which I am fine with as I want us to still have a friendship. I just don't feel at this moment in time I can be because of how I feel for him. We live a few hours from each other so we didn't see each other as we pleased, we would see each other every 3rd weekend; this girl he is talking with doesn't live in the country - he knows her from an online game?? Anyway, I decided to put an end to it. I said we had to take a break from each other, he tried to make every excuse to make me not go like he would pretend he had to go and do something etc. then try and steer the conversation away from taking a break. I finally put my foot down and insisted it, he started talking. He told me he doesn't want me to go and he is confused about how he feels, not just about me but about ''everything''. I said I can't go on like this and if he cares about me he wouldn't want to see me hurt, so he replied with ''I guess '' ..I could tell by the way he was talking that he was sad and didn't want me to go. We made an agreement, when I feel ready we can talk again. I blocked him off everything but I have his email which I can use to send a mail when I feel ready again. I miss him incredibly much. I am surrounding myself with friends, but when I am alone I feel so sad I want to cry. I still love him despite everything that happened. Do I need to accept we will never have a relationship?? I keep thinking that he needs time away from the relationship and we can fall in love again - as they said, distance makes the heart grow fonder. I am trying to do everything to forget him and move on but I don't feel like I can! It's so hard trying not to mail him and telling him how I feel. I just feel by talking about it, it makes me feel better. What do I do?
TaraMaiden Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 You can't be a friend to someone you're still in love with. It can't be done. Read the NC Guide in my signature; The first post is the guide itself, but the remainder of the thread may help too. You're right to cut contact. The time to contact him again, will be when you are 100% sure that talking to him will not set you back. 100%. Ok, 110%. You have to have a completely healed and free heart, before even saying 'hi'.....
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