GrUmPy1 Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 after going out for three months with my Jay i decided i needed a brake because he was smothering me, insanely jealous,he didnt let me go out or even be friends with the ONE guy friend i had. i mean he was very very bad. so we took a brake for a month. in that month we still talked and hung out but not as much. also i went to a party and at that party i kissed someone. it didnt mean anything but i just needed to feel like for lack of a better word, free. so then Jay called me up and he was all sad telling me he missed me and if he could come to the party and hang out with me and mine. well the guy that i kissed left and i felt bad so i said ok. well about an hour into getting to the party the guy came back and he was all touchy feely with me i tried to avoid him because jay was there and i didnt want him to get hurt but he noticed something was up. he started asking me if something happend between us and i said no. so then a month later jay has seriosuly changed and improved and we get back together. the only thing was that he kept bringing up that nite at the party. he wouldnt let it go. still i denied it because i didnt want him to get hurt. now were in our tenth month and he still inquires about that nite so last nite he had a huge arguement about it and i finally admitted what had happend. after everything was said and done he told me that he forgave me and didnt see me any differently and still loved me. but i kind of feel like he does look at me differently or that he wont trust me. the thing is we were broken up but i still had feelings for him so did i do somthing wrong? did i do the right thing in telling him? please tell me what to do.
Papillon Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Well, it comes down to this. Your boyfriend is an ass. You seperated. You cheated. You lied. He forgave you. I suspect you are displacinmg your guilt as distrust from his side. WHAT DO ***YOU*** WANT?
Author GrUmPy1 Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 so do u consider what i did to be cheating? and what do u mean displacing my guilt?
Papillon Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 You KNEW you and your bf were still an item. Why else would you avoid the new guy after your bf arrived? You feel guilty, that's why you're thinking your bf doesn't trust you... it's all in YOUR mind, perhaps.
Jilly10340 Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 What you did wasn't cheating if you and your guy were broken up. As in "i'm not your gf your not my bf anymore." If you still did consider him your bf and you his gf then yes, that's cheating.
SoleMate Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Jay...was smothering me, insanely jealous,he didnt let me go out or even be friends with the ONE guy friend i had That's all I need to hear. Move on and don't look back. Insane jealousy is just one step from actual insanity, and it can be very dangerous to you. Please go volunteer nights at the ER and you will see what I am talking about.
Author GrUmPy1 Posted September 30, 2004 Author Posted September 30, 2004 i want to clarify that yes we were apart. but we still had feelings but technically we were NOT together. but anyways he's better now and he's not insane or insanely jealous and hes friends with my friends were very good now.
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