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So I just went on my very first online date and he lied about his height

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RedRobin Established Member

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One OLD stat It would not be bad to see is hip/waist ratio. Its a big factor in appeal for me, and for many guy's in fact on a subconscious/conscious level. Now if women had to fill this in, oh boy how many would lie (to put it nicely...fluff/exaggerate/over guesstimate/use last year's figure) ;)

 

I'd love that! Because I'm a 35-25-36. Only bummer is that my waist to hip ratio is a little skewed because I have a bubble butt. Most of that ratio is front to back 'curvy'... not side to side 'curvy'. I mean, I know women who look curvy from the front... then you look at them from the side and their *ss is as flat as an ironing board. That ain't me... I'm also no 'hourglass' myself. Just have 'da bootie.

 

When I was on OkC for dating once upon a time, I created questions asking the guy how big his penis is and women, what their bra cup size was.

 

While people are doing the catalog shopping, they might as well go all out.

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mesmerized Established Member

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I'd love that! Because I'm a 35-25-36. Only bummer is that my waist to hip ratio is a little skewed because I have a bubble butt. Most of that ratio is front to back 'curvy'... not side to side 'curvy'. I mean, I know women who look curvy from the front... then you look at them from the side and their *ss is as flat as an ironing board. That ain't me... I'm also no 'hourglass' myself. Just have 'da bootie.

 

When I was on OkC for dating once upon a time, I created questions asking the guy how big his penis is and women, what their bra cup size was.

 

While people are doing the catalog shopping, they might as well go all out.

 

My measurements are pretty similar to yours except I got little booty. I look curvy from front and behind, not so much from the side :laugh:

 

Also, waist to hip ratio doesn't change much as people gain or lose weight. it's the size of each of those that changes. And I don't believe it for a second that men are all about waist to hip ratio. Look at all the extremely thin straight figured women having guys drool over them.

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Janesays Established Member

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Then you have your reason. This guy is to blame for lying and your gender is to blame for shallowness.

 

Love the double standard here!

 

I also love how the entire female gender is to blame because of this one woman's personable preference. Who should I send my apology card too?

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phineas Established Member

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I don't have issues with men. They can do whatever they do with women stupid enough to believe they are there looking for a 'relationship'. Be my guest!!

 

All I care about is finding people who have a spare weekend to go for a bike ride and want some companionship. Will save my 'dating' for people I meet IRL and can be verified.

 

Yes you do have issues with men.

This response shows it.

You act as if there are only a handful of women who fall for all these men's tricks. LOL!

You still don't want to accept that just as many women on OLD want just sex & list "relationship" also.

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phineas Established Member

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Love the double standard here!

 

I also love how the entire female gender is to blame because of this one woman's personable preference. Who should I send my apology card too?

 

You can deliver it to me personally sweetness.

Don't wear heels i'm only 5'8". :cool:

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BluEyeL Established Member

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You still don't want to accept that just as many women on OLD want just sex & list "relationship" also.

 

I'm sure there are some women who you think want just sex, but list relationship. I believe they do actually want a relationship and they don't lie on their profile. It takes so freaking long/forever to find a real relationship that some women consider having something casual while still looking for that relationship. It's damn hard to be celibate for years and years and years waiting for something that never comes. Even for women. Women are human too.

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I've found the US to be one of the worst places in the world, as far as discrimination goes. If you deviate from the norm even slightly, you'll experience this quite often.

 

Because of your vast dating experience in other countries?

spiderowl Established Member

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It must be difficult for guys who are shorter than average and who feel it will affect their dating chances. It must be very tempting to lie. I can only say that if a guy lied to me about it like that, I would be unhappy.

 

I did in fact meet up with a guy who lied about his height. I liked the guy, he was an interesting person, but I knew as soon as I saw him that he had massaged the truth. He was ever-so-slightly over my height and to be the height he'd put on his profile he would have been several inches over my height. I didn't need to measure him to know.

 

So, he was a nice guy and I thought I'd ignore the height issue. The relationship did not work out as in many other ways he was not the guy I thought he was (had exaggerated a few things about his achievements). But, all along, at the back of my mind, I knew he'd lied on his profile and that bugged me. If a guy lies to me about something to do with vanity - his age, hair, weight, height, qualifications, whatever - I lose respect for him and feel I can't trust him. Such a thing might seem insignificant to the guy, but it's a bit like being stung by a wasp - you put it to the back of your mind but you remember the sting and it pops into your head every so often and reminds you that wasps are not nice.

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somedude81 Established Member

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It must be difficult for guys who are shorter than average and who feel it will affect their dating chances. It must be very tempting to lie. I can only say that if a guy lied to me about it like that, I would be unhappy.

 

I did in fact meet up with a guy who lied about his height. I liked the guy, he was an interesting person, but I knew as soon as I saw him that he had massaged the truth. He was ever-so-slightly over my height and to be the height he'd put on his profile he would have been several inches over my height. I didn't need to measure him to know.

 

So, he was a nice guy and I thought I'd ignore the height issue. The relationship did not work out as in many other ways he was not the guy I thought he was (had exaggerated a few things about his achievements). But, all along, at the back of my mind, I knew he'd lied on his profile and that bugged me. If a guy lies to me about something to do with vanity - his age, hair, weight, height, qualifications, whatever - I lose respect for him and feel I can't trust him. Such a thing might seem insignificant to the guy, but it's a bit like being stung by a wasp - you put it to the back of your mind but you remember the sting and it pops into your head every so often and reminds you that wasps are not nice.

Would you have gone out on the date with him if he listed his actual height?

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Janesays Established Member

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You can deliver it to me personally sweetness.

Don't wear heels i'm only 5'8". :cool:

 

8 inches taller than me. And I've likely dated shorter than you. I have no clue since EVERYONE is taller than me. The only "short" guys I meet are children or midgets.

spiderowl Established Member

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Would you have gone out on the date with him if he listed his actual height?

 

That's a difficult question. Yes, I think I would have met him to see how we got on. We were getting on so well beforehand. I ignored the height issue after we met, but the lie bugged me, not his height.

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USMCHokie Established Member

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Physical preferences are all fine and dandy - until a woman has a height preference, then send in the firing squad. :laugh:

 

I have witnessed similar firing squads for fat-shaming.

silicone Established Member

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How many women would still feel the same if the guy lies about his height, but said that he was shorter? I'm guessing most wouldn't mind

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USMCHokie Established Member

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How many women would still feel the same if the guy lies about his height, but said that he was shorter? I'm guessing most wouldn't mind

 

Well played, good sir, well played.

 

::golf clap::

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JuneJulySeptember Established Member

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Well played, good sir, well played.

 

::golf clap::

 

So, clutch!

BluEyeL Established Member

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How many women would still feel the same if the guy lies about his height, but said that he was shorter? I'm guessing most wouldn't mind

 

I guess the intent behind the lie is the problem. If someone lied about height, age or anything else in a way that would make them appear better than they really are, this would be a problem because it showed that the person is OK with lying in order to deceive and gain an advantage.

 

If a guy lies about his height saying he's shorter....what would the intent be? I would not like it, because I'd question his mental health. :laugh:

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If a guy lies about his height saying he's shorter....what would the intent be? I would not like it, because I'd question his mental health. :laugh:

 

I'll be honest. I haven't done OLD.

 

But if I would have, I've considered putting on my profile that I'm 5 feet tall even. Now, I'm short, but I'm well taller than that.

 

The purpose you ask?

 

The woman who responds and accepts a date anyway will be a gem of a person. ;)

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BluEyeL Established Member

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Good argument, didn't think of that :)

USMCHokie Established Member

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I'll be honest. I haven't done OLD.

 

But if I would have, I've considered putting on my profile that I'm 5 feet tall even. Now, I'm short, but I'm well taller than that.

 

The purpose you ask?

 

The woman who responds and accepts a date anyway will be a gem of a person. ;)

 

Does this work with the skinny girl listing that she's a BBW...? :confused:

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Emilia Established Member

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Nah, those are all excuses...Women are just afraid the younger men will use them and leave them for a younger model. I don't blame them...can't trust men easily these days.

To a degree. Young ones often lack a well developed personality though. The guys I work with who are in their late 20s could easily pass for early 20s. Yawn

sillyanswer Established Member

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I've lied about my income before - understating it significantly. Maybe I should lie about my height by a few inches to make sure I don't end up dating a heightist girl who only likes me for being tall. :confused:

Emilia Established Member

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That depends on where you work, who you work with, and how well you know them.

* applause *

irc333 Established Member

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You're complaining about 1 or maybe 2 inches? Did you get a tape measure out to check?

 

Yes, you're over-reacting and yes, over-reacting is common with online dating due to the nature of boiling down a person into a Top Trumps card.

 

Yeah, I was about to say...Holy crap....she can tell the difference? How in the heck did she even know?

 

The guy probably was just thinking his height was 5'9", but in her opinion he's 1-inch short. LOL He probably didn't think so.

 

No wonder some single women on dating sites are permanent fixtures.

 

Anyhow, I'm sorry, no one can "eye-ball" that one-inch diff.

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However, if she sticks around long enough she will find that the height thing is more of an issue for men than for women in OLD. Women generally want men who are a bit taller than them, men get that

 

What kills me is that some women , let's say who are only 5'3" and shorter....will only date guys no less than 6 feet tall...that's where it gets nuts.

 

There's this one woman, keep getting sick of seeing her, she probably put in her headline, and TWO times in her dating profile.

 

"DO NOT EMAIL ME IF YOU'RE UNDER 6 FEET TALL"

 

She even complained, "What's the deal with all the munchkins emailing me??"

 

I'm like "Um, you're 5'3", you're a munchkin too!" LOL

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There's this one woman, in my local area...she is very pretty, 6 feet tall, and had been single for quite some time.

 

Never married, no kids, wants to start a family, however....a woman that's the height of a tall man...has little chance at meeting someone taller than HER even...simply because ...well...small towns, most people are spoken for, and also.....men that EXCEED 6 feet tall are few and far between.

 

 

I'm a recent college graduate and I was finding a hard time meeting guys so I decided to sign up for a dating site.

 

A guy contacted me and he seemed fairly bright and verbose. We chatted for a while and decided to meet up for some coffee. On his profile he listed himself as 5'9" but when we eventually met up, it turned out he was closer to 5 7-8. We were nearly eye level!

 

I kept my cool and sat through the rest of our meeting. I didn't mention anything.

 

I found this to be pretty off putting. It's not just the fact that he's shorter. It's also the dishonesty and the insecurity. I think someone who readily lies about their height might also lie about more important things.

 

I'm wondering if I overreacted or if this sort of thing is common on dating sites? Where can I meet single guys irl now that I'm finished with my education?

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