So I just went on my very first online date and he lied about his height

[USMCHokie]

Cause they just want to whine. I would gladly go for a shorter muscular man over a tall lanky man. And I LOVE my tall men!

 

What about the tall muscular men...? It appears you forgot to mention them...

[starla33]

You're complaining about 1 or maybe 2 inches? Did you get a tape measure out to check?

 

Yes, you're over-reacting and yes, over-reacting is common with online dating due to the nature of boiling down a person into a Top Trumps card.

 

I don't think she is over reacting at ALL. A lie is a lie.

 

If I take a year or 2 off my age (people wouldn't be able to tell...but when I do tell them how old I am I'm sure they wouldn't be too happy).

 

I don't see a difference in what it is they lie about...still lying

[fortyninethousand322]

Yeah that always makes me laugh. Doesn't matter if men or women say it. I just don't get how some people expect sexual attraction when they really have nothing sexy about them and don't try to make themselves sexy. Look in the mirror, would you wanna bang yourself if you were a member of the opposit sex? I know I would

 

Maybe with the lights off. But I'm pretty sure I'd still be into girls even if I was a girl. So who knows...

[RedRobin]

Well, I was never serious about it, it was just a fleeting thought that I had en passe, when people were telling me that I looked younger. I think it could make a little difference, I'm not sure. Right now, I'm 41 and the men I get are 47 and older. For example never had a 42 yo message me, or a 41 yo. I had a 31 yo on OKC, and I did have men in their 20s looking for MILF, but for "normal" dating I generally get 47-50. That's OK with me, but anyway, might get a 44 or 45 yo if you are 37-38.... I also like'em younger

 

If it makes you feel any better, your odds aren't any better that those 44 or 45 year olds will want a relationship either.

 

It's all about what they tell their family and friends... not about compatibility. They want to tell everyone they got a hot young thing... otherwise, why would they be doing online dating?? To TRY and get the women who won't give them the time of day in real life. Mostly.

 

What I do is lie about my age and just post as friends/activity partners. If they are attracted to you, they will try and sex you up anyway.

 

If you are in their posted age range, then they have no reason to gripe. You can just call them out on their ageism if they b*tch about it... kinda like this thread.

 

I've gotten to the point where I won't date men more than a year or two older than me just on principal. If I'm going to have sex with someone, I can get it from younger, richer guys who also don't want relationships and can't commit. The only thing you are getting from older men is hypocrisy, usually.

[mesmerized]

What about the tall muscular men...? It appears you forgot to mention them...

 

Obviously those are the first choice. But how many of them are out there to go around?

[fortyninethousand322]

If it makes you feel any better, your odds aren't any better that those 44 or 45 year olds will want a relationship either.

 

It's all about what they tell their family and friends... not about compatibility. They want to tell everyone they got a hot young thing... otherwise, why would they be doing online dating?? To TRY and get the women who won't give them the time of day in real life. Mostly.

 

What I do is lie about my age and just post as friends/activity partners. If they are attracted to you, they will try and sex you up anyway.

 

If you are in their posted age range, then they have no reason to gripe. You can just call them out on their ageism if they b*tch about it... kinda like this thread.

 

I've gotten to the point where I won't date men more than a year or two older than me just on principal. If I'm going to have sex with someone, I can get it from younger, richer guys who also don't want relationships and can't commit. The only thing you are getting from older men is hypocrisy, usually.

 

I don't know. I see a lot of aegism where older women won't date younger men, because we're "immature" or have a "frat boy mentality".

 

So it's 13 one way a baker's dozen the other.

[mesmerized]

I don't know. I see a lot of aegism where older women won't date younger men, because we're "immature" or have a "frat boy mentality".

 

So it's 13 one way a baker's dozen the other.

 

Nah, those are all excuses...Women are just afraid the younger men will use them and leave them for a younger model. I don't blame them...can't trust men easily these days.

[xxoo]

What about the tall muscular men...? It appears you forgot to mention them...

 

Sure, there are tall muscular men, too, but the more important factor is "muscular", as evidenced by the preference of short and muscular over tall and thin. After that, tall can be a plus, but it might be way down the list after other things like sense of humor, face, status, personality, etc.

 

Yes, there certainly can be a man with all that, plus tall! They exist! But we aren't ordering parts off a menu here. We meet the people we meet, we feel attraction, we fall in love, and that's how it goes. The heart trumps the list.

[fortyninethousand322]

Nah, those are all excuses...Women are just afraid the younger men will use them and leave them for a younger model. I don't blame them...can't trust men easily these days.

 

Do I look like the type of guy who would "trade a woman in for a younger model"?

 

Besides that, lots of older guys would do the same.

 

For all the supposed supernatural abilities women possess in being able to figure guys out, they seem to do a pretty lousy job in applying those abilities sometimes...

[PJKino]

I dont know if a short dude gets too muscular he can look like a tree stump,i got long lanky arms even tohugh im only 5'8 and i look best lean as opposed to adding weight

[SteveC80]

What about the tall muscular men...? It appears you forgot to mention them...

 

How many women can get tall good looking muscular men? They better be a 9 or 10.

 

If they could they would but just like men they get the best they can get with what they offer in the dating game

[soccerrprp]

Well, I was never serious about it, it was just a fleeting thought that I had en passe, when people were telling me that I looked younger. I think it could make a little difference, I'm not sure. Right now, I'm 41 and the men I get are 47 and older. For example never had a 42 yo message me, or a 41 yo. I had a 31 yo on OKC, and I did have men in their 20s looking for MILF, but for "normal" dating I generally get 47-50. That's OK with me, but anyway, might get a 44 or 45 yo if you are 37-38.... I also like'em younger

 

Hmmmm. Interesting. I pefer the ladies within 5 years of me (I'm 44), but do admit will consider range from 35-50. I wonder why men in their lower 40s are hesitant about contacting you?

[USMCHokie]

Sure, there are tall muscular men, too, but the more important factor is "muscular", as evidenced by the preference of short and muscular over tall and thin. After that, tall can be a plus, but it might be way down the list after other things like sense of humor, face, status, personality, etc.

 

What about short and thin...? You can't compare tall versus short when you're changing up other variables...

[Philosopher]

A lot of shorter or average height men lie about their height on dating profiles, unfortunately. My sister experienced this as well. She's a tall woman (5'8") and often met up with men from dating websites who were shorter than her, but claimed to be her height or taller. It is kind of frustrating, because people are entitled to know the truth before agreeing to meet up with someone. Kind of similar to people who put up old pictures and lie about their age, or people who misrepresent their body type/weight. Nobody likes to feel like they've been tricked into meeting up with a person because the person misrepresented themselves.

 

In my experience the guys who are taller than average are the ones who have the most success at getting dates and starting relationships from OLD. Therefore while I don't think it is right to lie about height, I can see why it is very tempting to add a couple of inches to your real height.

[xxoo]

Tall and thin, short and thin....thin doesn't do it for me.

 

But a guy who has other sexy traits can be thin (short or tall). There are so many ways for a man to be sexy.

 

Btw, I'm thin. Maybe that's why I don't associate it with masculinity.

[sillyanswer]

Well 5'9" is sorta at the shorter end of guys that I usually go for. We seemed to click online so I decided to give him a shot.

 

I'm sorry that he turned out to be 1.5 or 3% shorter than your criterion.

[todreaminblue]

I'm a recent college graduate and I was finding a hard time meeting guys so I decided to sign up for a dating site.

 

A guy contacted me and he seemed fairly bright and verbose. We chatted for a while and decided to meet up for some coffee. On his profile he listed himself as 5'9" but when we eventually met up, it turned out he was closer to 5 7-8. We were nearly eye level!

 

I kept my cool and sat through the rest of our meeting. I didn't mention anything.

 

I found this to be pretty off putting. It's not just the fact that he's shorter. It's also the dishonesty and the insecurity. I think someone who readily lies about their height might also lie about more important things.

 

I'm wondering if I overreacted or if this sort of thing is common on dating sites? Where can I meet single guys irl now that I'm finished with my education?

 

 

I think you over reacted...but then i have dated a five footer and a 6 foot 5 guy ..i dont mind being eye level with a guy they have to be short to do that...i am five four......i dont go by a guys height whether i will date them or not....there are other traits i find more appealing than the height thing...deb

[ChessPieceFace]

Would you have agreed to meet if his real height was listed?

 

I guess not

 

Then you have your reason. This guy is to blame for lying and your gender is to blame for shallowness.

[apple OR orange]

you have to be kiding me, your complaining over 1-2 inches, you will have alot to learn in later life when the bank doesnt tell you about the 1-2k fee they taken out of your bank!

[phineas]

I'll grant you that...

 

I'm not on there for a 'relationship' when that's mostly BS guys online say to get laid while they are out trolling for the younger trophy wife/GF they can't 'afford' or using me and my credentials to up their dating cache.

 

I'm just there friends and activity partners. Let them be man-whores. I don't care. As long as he/she has some spare time to do some other fun things and I don't have to listen to them whine about their ex/kid/job drama.... or they aren't some rehab loser trying to make his way up the social food chain. Fine with me.

 

Sorry but i've had a few ONS with women who listed "relationship" then disappeared on me only to text me out of the blue 4 months later looking to hook up again all the while still on the site looking for a "relationship"

 

There is a reason guys act the way they do on OLD.

It's because a lot of women are receptive to that & just looking to hook up also.

 

You seem to have some issues with men & old but fail to recognize that women on OLD are just as bad & contribute to the wasteland it's become just as much.

Edited May 18, 2013 by phineas

[BluEyeL]

Hmmmm. Interesting. I pefer the ladies within 5 years of me (I'm 44), but do admit will consider range from 35-50. I wonder why men in their lower 40s are hesitant about contacting you?

 

I don't know, I've had a few, but statistically, more like 47-49, which is OK anyway, but well, younger is better.

[silicone]

Some of the reasons in this thread is why I've give up with (OLD + Women). Now, I'm glad I'm a bisexual lad, because I have the best of both worlds.

 

I've had over 326% more men tell me that I'm hot, based on a front body photo, than adamant women in my life. In general, my stocky former wrestler build seems to turn more men on than women.

 

I can certainly find a woman attractive, but to me, she's not worth it or is she even going to appear to be dating material unless I ascertain that she is even remotely worthy of my presence and me scheduling any time with her.

[snowflakes88]

Physical preferences are all fine and dandy - until a woman has a height preference, then send in the firing squad.

[ascendotum]

I think a lot of people lie on OLD yes. This is partly why I got sick of it

 

A women I know complained about very similar situation. As soon as she met the guy, and saw he was barely taller then her she did the calcs allowing for differences in shoe height and realized he was an 1" shorter than he claimed. It pissed her off, and she instantly wrote him off. Like the OP, she hardly had over the top requirements on height, but I feel she misses the point as to why guy's lie about their height imo. Within 30 secs she honed in on it assessed him and written him off. Some guy's lie because of that, because its a big deal for many women. Like someone else just posted, I know a couple of guys who are already a good height but still bump it up, to give them an edge over other 6' guys. (Its almost like add an inch to keep up with the lying competition, Its BS & shrewd at the same and the part of the nature of OLD).

 

One OLD stat It would not be bad to see is hip/waist ratio. Its a big factor in appeal for me, and for many guy's in fact on a subconscious/conscious level. Now if women had to fill this in, oh boy how many would lie (to put it nicely...fluff/exaggerate/over guesstimate/use last year's figure)

[RedRobin]

Sorry but i've had a few ONS with women who listed "relationship" then disappeared on me only to text me out of the blue 4 months later looking to hook up again all the while still on the site looking for a "relationship"

 

There is a reason guys act the way they do on OLD.

It's because a lot of women are receptive to that & just looking to hook up also.

 

You seem to have some issues with men & old but fail to recognize that women on OLD are just as bad & contribute to the wasteland it's become just as much.

 

I don't have issues with men. They can do whatever they do with women stupid enough to believe they are there looking for a 'relationship'. Be my guest!!

 

All I care about is finding people who have a spare weekend to go for a bike ride and want some companionship. Will save my 'dating' for people I meet IRL and can be verified.