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phineas Established Member

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NEWS FLASH: NOT EVERYONE lies about something on OLD! Man, the cynicism goes to the level of absurdity for some people on LS!

 

Everyone lies.

It's just easier to do it with OLD.

PJKino Established Member

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With all due respect, I said this wasn't a blanket statement about all short dudes.

 

But you don't see tall dudes on LS complaining about how women are shallow, and becoming bitter about it.

 

Saying short dudes can be huge aholes sounds like a pretty blanket statement,dudes of any size can be huge aholes unless you beleive tall me nare immune to beign aholes.

 

AS to your other point course tall dudes dotn complain how shallow women are because height is a huge turn on to women being a tall guy makes life easier in the dating world.I dont see many women saying i cant date him because hes 5'11 or 6 feet

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USMCHokie Established Member

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But you don't see tall dudes on LS complaining about how women are shallow, and becoming bitter about it.

 

People tend not to complain about things that don't affect them or things that are favorable to them. Tall men benefit from women being shallow, so why the hell would they complain about it...? :confused:

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phineas Established Member

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I'm done with OLD. Said this before but each time I set up an account it was up for shorter and shorter amount of time. I'm tired of shifting through the BS and it doesn't work for my attraction style anyway. I can't relate to photos and a wall of text. Every person I know who has tried OLD has had an incredible amount of first dates. I'm not cut out for that so if that means not getting laid for a while then so be it.

 

Shorter & shorter for me also.

After I skip over the one's who were on the site 3 months ago, 6 months ago, 9 months, ago you get the idea there are very few women left & I can run through all of them in a few months.

 

I have met a few people i'm actually still talking to and see once in a while as acquaintances i'll hang out with once in a while but that's it.

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Drseussgrrl Established Member

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It's been said over and over again here on LS.

 

It's not the HEIGHT, it's their insecurity about it that's the hugest turnoff.

 

Tall men might have the advantage of the initial attraction, I'll give you that, but if he's a huge douche... that's just as bad. In my opinion, anyway.

 

Give me the shorty who can put me in stitches and makes me feel like a million bucks any day. :love:

 

I should have rephrased - short dudes who are insecure and bitter about it can be huge assh0les.

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USMCHokie Established Member

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Tall men might have the advantage of the initial attraction, I'll give you that, but if he's a huge douche... that's just as bad. In my opinion, anyway.

 

The power of the initial attraction is what prompts you to learn more about someone...you wouldn't know whether they were douche unless you were attracted enough to get to know them.

 

Give me the shorty who can put me in stitches and makes me feel like a million bucks any day. :love:

 

What about the tall guy who can put you in stitches and make you feel like a million bucks...? :confused:

 

I should have rephrased - short dudes who are insecure and bitter about it can be huge assh0les.

 

You should have.

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fortyninethousand322 Established Member

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Well, I'd like to think that men aren't so hung up on age either, but they are. One of the reasons I don't date online is because so many of the men there can't fathom dating a woman who is even one year older...

 

or *gasp* even their own age... or if they do... that they are just good for FWB or f*ckbuddies.

 

... and since I don't plan on pushing some guy's wheelchair around while I'm still in my prime... I'm not dating older men either.

 

I don't know. I actually prefer women 3-5 years older than me. Even older than that sometimes. Problem is, those women often have productive independent lives and don't want to date a guy who still lives with mommy and daddy...

phineas Established Member

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It's been said over and over again here on LS.

 

It's not the HEIGHT, it's their insecurity about it that's the hugest turnoff.

 

Tall men might have the advantage of the initial attraction, I'll give you that, but if he's a huge douche... that's just as bad. In my opinion, anyway.

 

Give me the shorty who can put me in stitches and makes me feel like a million bucks any day. :love:

 

I should have rephrased - short dudes who are insecure and bitter about it can be huge assh0les.

 

I thought we were talking about OLD.

I've hooked up with women 5'10" and i'm 5'8" in real life.

It isn't height.

I know guys shorter than me & don't even lift slaying left & right. In the real world.

 

For OLD not so much unless you got some abs & bigger than average muscles with a shirtless pic on your avi for the younger guys.

 

I still got dates i just don't meet a lot of women I actually liked from OLD or women who were not trying to deceive by using older pics.

KathyM Established Member

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A lot of shorter or average height men lie about their height on dating profiles, unfortunately. My sister experienced this as well. She's a tall woman (5'8") and often met up with men from dating websites who were shorter than her, but claimed to be her height or taller. It is kind of frustrating, because people are entitled to know the truth before agreeing to meet up with someone. Kind of similar to people who put up old pictures and lie about their age, or people who misrepresent their body type/weight. Nobody likes to feel like they've been tricked into meeting up with a person because the person misrepresented themselves.

somedude81 Established Member

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I should have rephrased - short dudes who are insecure and bitter about it can be huge assh0les.

How about

 

"dudes who are insecure and bitter can be huge assh0les."

 

Don't assume that just because a guy is short, and insecure and bitter, the only reason is because of his height.

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Mrlonelyone Established Member

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It's been said over and over again here on LS.

 

It's not the HEIGHT, it's their insecurity about it that's the hugest turnoff.

 

Tall men might have the advantage of the initial attraction, I'll give you that, but if he's a huge douche... that's just as bad. In my opinion, anyway.

 

Give me the shorty who can put me in stitches and makes me feel like a million bucks any day. :love:

 

I should have rephrased - short dudes who are insecure and bitter about it can be huge assh0les.

 

There is some truth to this. As a bisexual male I can attest to it from a simmilar perspective.

 

 

What's more attractive physically than a tall man is a man with broad shoulders and a narrow waist and hips.

 

 

A tall man who's a bean pole looks like a victoriassecret model. Some women are into that bit of androgyny so it can work for you. However, guys, overall you are better off spending you're time doing pushups and working on you're abs than complaining about height discrimination.

 

 

On average.

 

 

Shorter but powerfully built man is more attractive than a tall skinny man.

That's coming to you from someone with a Y chromosome who has sat on the gender fence. I have no loyalty to either side to lie on you.

 

 

 

 

Along the same lines, Ladies, men are attracted to a waist that is 0.7 of the full low hip measurement. No matter you're BMI if you have that a man will be attracted.

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Drseussgrrl Established Member

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How about

 

"dudes who are insecure and bitter can be huge assh0les."

 

Don't assume that just because a guy is short, and insecure and bitter, the only reason is because of his height.

 

Judging by the countless height threads on LS I tend to disagree.

 

But it's whatever. I just like a dude who makes me happy.

RedRobin Established Member

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LOL!

Women pushing 40 regularly list 1yr older & at least 5yrs younger on OLD.

 

Why is it people seem to think their gender is the more truthful or less picky when it comes to OLD.

 

News Flash. Everyone lies about something on OLD & 95% of the people don't even really want a relationship or they are just dumb because the fact that their profile is permanent fixture on OLD sites means they are either overly picky or just there to get laid. (both men & women).

 

I've hidden my profiles again. I can only handle it for so long. LOL!

 

I'll grant you that...

 

I'm not on there for a 'relationship' when that's mostly BS guys online say to get laid while they are out trolling for the younger trophy wife/GF they can't 'afford' or using me and my credentials to up their dating cache.

 

I'm just there friends and activity partners. Let them be man-whores. I don't care. As long as he/she has some spare time to do some other fun things and I don't have to listen to them whine about their ex/kid/job drama.... or they aren't some rehab loser trying to make his way up the social food chain. Fine with me.

somedude81 Established Member

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Judging by the countless height threads on LS I tend to disagree.

Dressy, there are hundreds of things that a man can be insecure about.

 

Having your preconceived notions about men and from other women like you is one of the primary reasons why dating is so hard as a short man.

 

Women also seem to be more critical of short men, which of course doesn't make it any easier for us.

Mrlonelyone Established Member

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Dressy, there are hundreds of things that a man can be insecure about.

 

Having your preconceived notions about men and from other women like you is one of the primary reasons why dating is so hard as a short man.

 

Women also seem to be more critical of short men, which of course doesn't make it any easier for us.

 

There's that and this guy and the whole "complex" that supposedly exist.

 

 

http://www.nga.gov/kids/napoleon/napoleon-600.jpg

RedRobin Established Member

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There is some truth to this. As a bisexual male I can attest to it from a simmilar perspective.

 

 

What's more attractive physically than a tall man is a man with broad shoulders and a narrow waist and hips.

 

 

A tall man who's a bean pole looks like a victoriassecret model. Some women are into that bit of androgyny so it can work for you. However, guys, overall you are better off spending you're time doing pushups and working on you're abs than complaining about height discrimination.

 

 

On average.

 

 

Shorter but powerfully built man is more attractive than a tall skinny man.

 

That's coming to you from someone with a Y chromosome who has sat on the gender fence. I have no loyalty to either side to lie on you.

 

 

 

 

Along the same lines, Ladies, men are attracted to a waist that is 0.7 of the full low hip measurement. No matter you're BMI if you have that a man will be attracted.

 

 

That's true. It's all about proportion. You see it in art, sculpture, dance... A lot of my favorite men are ballet boys and dancers of all kinds because of their well-balanced musculature. I'm not a fan of other athletic body-types (typically) because of the lack of proportion. Cyclists. Ick. Frog legs and skinny to no upper body. Swimmers? Yay! Similar body type as dancers. Body builders?? I feel like I'm f-ing a mattress. Way too big. Usually clumsy and oafish too. Not my cup of tea.

 

Anyway, many dancers are notoriously 'short', but you'd never know it to look at them.

BluEyeL Established Member

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Do you think that a couple of years would have made a difference? From your initial thinking, that is? I'm 44 and date from 35(37)- 50. Would a couple of years made a difference? Oh, glad you changed your mind...;)

 

Sorry, sabotaging the thread.

 

OP, I agree with RedRobin, you may be missing out on a great guy b/c of a couple of inches.

 

Well, I was never serious about it, it was just a fleeting thought that I had en passe, when people were telling me that I looked younger. I think it could make a little difference, I'm not sure. Right now, I'm 41 and the men I get are 47 and older. For example never had a 42 yo message me, or a 41 yo. I had a 31 yo on OKC, and I did have men in their 20s looking for MILF, but for "normal" dating I generally get 47-50. That's OK with me, but anyway, might get a 44 or 45 yo if you are 37-38.... I also like'em younger :p

BluEyeL Established Member

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I'd also prefer a shorter well built guy to a tall skinny one. My ex was skinny though so it's not about any of that anyway when there is compatibility.

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GB25 Established Member

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I find that the women you complain about height are the exact kind who find it ok to put average body style in their profile when in reality it should be a few extra lbs. Moral of the story. Both genders are at fault.

 

Its insane..This is from my experience..and ive been lots of success OLD:)

 

Thin= Not that thin

 

Athletic= Far from athletic..actually a bit bigger

 

Average= Straight up fat

 

A few extra lbs = The mom from whats eating gilbert grape

 

Sorry but this is truth

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somedude81 Established Member

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There's that and this guy and the whole "complex" that supposedly exist.

 

 

http://www.nga.gov/kids/napoleon/napoleon-600.jpg

Ah the Napoleon complex.

 

Just a whole lot of bullsh*t to look down on short men. It's all heightism.

 

BTW, Napoleon wasn't short at all.

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However, Napoleon was actually above average height for his time period; the average 18th century Frenchman stood at 5 ft 3 in (1.6 m).[4] Historians have now suggested Napoleon was 5 ft 6 in (1.68 m) tall. Napoleon was often seen with his Imperial Guard, which contributed to the perception of his being short because the Imperial Guards were above average height.

 

Napoleon complex - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

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Estate Established Member

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I bet you'd react the same way if a girl was a bit rounder than her profile or her pictures suggested.

 

Oh get off your high horse.

The girl wants to "call him out" because she *thinks* he might be an inch (ONE FREAKING INCH) shorter than the profile says... how can she even tell?

 

Sounds like a head wreck.

I mean, is he nice guy? Is he otherwise attractive? Was her courteous? Did he make her laugh? Does he have a lot going for him? Maybe he's well educated or has a great job? Maybe he's got loads of friends and really popular?

 

Nah, none of that matters to me either when an inch of height is involved.

 

She needs to get over herself, he's better off without her... she must be a stunner herself?!?!?

 

And don't even TRY to compare like for like.

Someone being an inch off what you think they would be and someone saying they are "athletic and toned" who are grossly overweight is not even in the same category.

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mesmerized Established Member

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Ty, I have been trying telling guys this and they still don't understand.

 

Cause they just want to whine. I would gladly go for a shorter muscular man over a tall lanky man. And I LOVE my tall men!

 

Now how many short men here are actually trying to have a good body? almost none. The ones that ARE in shape have a much better success rate with women and aren't here whining about their height.

 

If you want women to be sexually attracted to you, give them something to be attracted to! If you're short and your face and body is meh at best...What do you expect?

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fortyninethousand322 Established Member

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Cause they just want to whine. I would gladly go for a shorter muscular man over a tall lanky man. And I LOVE my tall men!

 

Now how many short men here are actually trying to have a good body? almost none. The ones that ARE in shape have a much better success rate with women and aren't here whining about their height.

 

If you want women to be sexually attracted to you, give them something to be attracted to! If you're short and your face and body is meh at best...What do you expect?

 

I think there's still quite a few people in the world (and on LS) who still believe what they told growing up: that they are special and someone really great will "love them like they are and for who they are". :rolleyes::laugh:

 

Just be the best person you can be, don't be complacent.

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mesmerized Established Member

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I think there's still quite a few people in the world (and on LS) who still believe what they told growing up: that they are special and someone really great will "love them like they are and for who they are". :rolleyes::laugh:

 

Just be the best person you can be, don't be complacent.

 

Yeah that always makes me laugh. Doesn't matter if men or women say it. I just don't get how some people expect sexual attraction when they really have nothing sexy about them and don't try to make themselves sexy. Look in the mirror, would you wanna bang yourself if you were a member of the opposit sex? I know I would :p

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I'm a recent college graduate and I was finding a hard time meeting guys so I decided to sign up for a dating site.

 

A guy contacted me and he seemed fairly bright and verbose. We chatted for a while and decided to meet up for some coffee. On his profile he listed himself as 5'9" but when we eventually met up, it turned out he was closer to 5 7-8. We were nearly eye level!

 

I kept my cool and sat through the rest of our meeting. I didn't mention anything.

 

I found this to be pretty off putting. It's not just the fact that he's shorter. It's also the dishonesty and the insecurity. I think someone who readily lies about their height might also lie about more important things.

 

I'm wondering if I overreacted or if this sort of thing is common on dating sites? Where can I meet single guys irl now that I'm finished with my education?

 

I have found that short guys are GREAT in bed. Keep him around. Trust me. You will get past this. :)

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