thr1986 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Im a 26 year old guy, young professional. Decided to give the match.com thing a run. I went on a "first date" with a girl last Wednesday and I really felt like there was a lot of chemistry. Conversation rolled effortlessly, we actually had a lot in common, ect, ect... I text her Friday and throughout this past week and she is responsive the whole time. Then I asked her to go to dinner with me tonight and she said "I'd like that" and came. I felt like I was very polite, entertaining, there were no moments of awkward silence. Much like the first date when we met, I felt that it went very well. HOWEVER, when I first met her last wednesday I felt like she was very confident, very articulate and very outspoken. She was not shy at all and really seemed like a confident girl. Tonight, from the very start she was not as articulate, there were times where I had to ask her to repeat herself because I could not understand what she was saying because she was speaking really low. Then on top of that, she mentioned that she was not feeling well. She spent about 5 mins of the dinner talking about how she felt like she was getting sick. I asked her what her weekend plans were, shes got plans with a girlfriend tomorrow night for her girlfriends birthday and then spending sunday out of town with her parents. MY QUESTIONS IS THIS: We had a GREAT first date. She was responsive to me all week afterwards and very actively agreed to go to dinner with me. Keep in mind that she could have ignored me and we would literally never see each other again, so she must be interested. Why would she be so shy tonight? Perhaps she really wasent feeling good, but why would she talk about it at dinner? I do like her, I find her very attractive and I would like to see her again. We finished dinner tonight by saying "i'll be in touch" no plans were made. 1. why do you think she was so shy tonight? 2. what do you think my next move should be to set another date? should i text her tonight and let her know i enjoyed myself?
todreaminblue Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Im a 26 year old guy, young professional. Decided to give the match.com thing a run. I went on a "first date" with a girl last Wednesday and I really felt like there was a lot of chemistry. Conversation rolled effortlessly, we actually had a lot in common, ect, ect... I text her Friday and throughout this past week and she is responsive the whole time. Then I asked her to go to dinner with me tonight and she said "I'd like that" and came. I felt like I was very polite, entertaining, there were no moments of awkward silence. Much like the first date when we met, I felt that it went very well. HOWEVER, when I first met her last wednesday I felt like she was very confident, very articulate and very outspoken. She was not shy at all and really seemed like a confident girl. Tonight, from the very start she was not as articulate, there were times where I had to ask her to repeat herself because I could not understand what she was saying because she was speaking really low. Then on top of that, she mentioned that she was not feeling well. She spent about 5 mins of the dinner talking about how she felt like she was getting sick. I asked her what her weekend plans were, shes got plans with a girlfriend tomorrow night for her girlfriends birthday and then spending sunday out of town with her parents. MY QUESTIONS IS THIS: We had a GREAT first date. She was responsive to me all week afterwards and very actively agreed to go to dinner with me. Keep in mind that she could have ignored me and we would literally never see each other again, so she must be interested. Why would she be so shy tonight? Perhaps she really wasent feeling good, but why would she talk about it at dinner? I do like her, I find her very attractive and I would like to see her again. We finished dinner tonight by saying "i'll be in touch" no plans were made. 1. why do you think she was so shy tonight? 2. what do you think my next move should be to set another date? should i text her tonight and let her know i enjoyed myself? She very well could have been unwell, it was just a bit of a gaff for her to talk about it at dinner....especially while eating.....if she did talk about it while eating.....give it another shot ask her for another date see where it goes and how it is....deb
Author thr1986 Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Yes, we were eating while she talked about it. Not that it bothered me, but i thought it was a bit rude to talk about being sick at dinner on a date. Perhaps she was under the weather, which is fine. What should my next move be? Should I text her tonight or tomorrow and say that I enjoyed myself, and then ask her to dinner again? or should I do something different next time like coffee?
pyramid Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Should I text her tonight or tomorrow and say that I enjoyed myself, and then ask her to dinner again? I would text her tonight (or tomorrow, since its late) and say you hope she feels better soon. Definitely ask her to dinner again or to see a band somewhere, not coffee.
Jadedbyluv Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 It is quite possible she wasn't feeling herself because she was sick. Don't read into too much. When you are sick, are you always your chipper, normal self? She was probably telling you she was not feeling well because she knew it was coming across in her body language and demeanor. Take her out again after she is feeling better than judge how she acts.
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