Jay08 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Long story short - Me and my ex dated for a year and a half. She messed up and left me for another dude without even saying goodbye, yes, she is a crappy individual. Well she breaks up with him and starts contacting me again. At first, i was just texting her cause i wanted to maintain a friendship, the feelings were gone at this point, i was over it. But then she wanted to start hanging out. And i did, and i messed up. Because she broke down one night crying saying how she messed up and wanted to try things over. I was reluctant but agreed. For all the advice i give to people about ex gf's, you would think i would take my own, and i didnt. A month or so goes by and shes contacting me like crazy, calling me babe and really trying. Now all of a sudden she has changed. She started hanging out with her neighbors more often and now takes forever to respond to my texts. We went out last night and hooked up but no text this morning, so i text her and she sends back 3 responses and just stops. So here i am. Finally realizing i refell for this toxic chick and more than likely she is just stringing me along on the backburner til she meets someone else again. WTF Do i do. I hope to god its easier to get over than the first time cause it took months, and now im at square one again. Anyone have any advice who was in a similar situation? Im an idiot.
soccerrprp Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Long story short - Me and my ex dated for a year and a half. She messed up and left me for another dude without even saying goodbye, yes, she is a crappy individual. Well she breaks up with him and starts contacting me again. At first, i was just texting her cause i wanted to maintain a friendship, the feelings were gone at this point, i was over it. But then she wanted to start hanging out. And i did, and i messed up. Because she broke down one night crying saying how she messed up and wanted to try things over. I was reluctant but agreed. For all the advice i give to people about ex gf's, you would think i would take my own, and i didnt. A month or so goes by and shes contacting me like crazy, calling me babe and really trying. Now all of a sudden she has changed. She started hanging out with her neighbors more often and now takes forever to respond to my texts. We went out last night and hooked up but no text this morning, so i text her and she sends back 3 responses and just stops. So here i am. Finally realizing i refell for this toxic chick and more than likely she is just stringing me along on the backburner til she meets someone else again. WTF Do i do. I hope to god its easier to get over than the first time cause it took months, and now im at square one again. Anyone have any advice who was in a similar situation? Im an idiot. Start over with NC. This time....keep it "over." 1
aisuru Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Ugh, I hate stories like this. Hang in there. You know it gets better. I suspect it will be better the second time around, but what do I know.
TaraMaiden Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Agreed. you quit this idiocy once - you can do it again. But this time, learn from your mistakes. "Fool me once, more fool you - Fool me twice, more fool me." She's fooled you this time. Don't ever pick up the line again. Read the No Contact Guide in my signature - and put it to very, very good use.
TaraMaiden Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 irrelevant. It's patently clear that even if he does, she doesn't love him back, to anywhere near the intensity with which he did. One-sided relationships sink. They're not on an even keel, and this is not a good ship to be sailing in.
Author Jay08 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 Yes i do, shes that girl i will always love unfortunately, because she doesnt deserve it. I guess NC is the way once again, i did it once. What do i do if she texts me asking why im not responding? Just keep it NC? I was thinking about just waiting for her to text again than send her something like, "this effort is not what i had in mind when you wanted to fix things, dont contact me for a while"
Author Jay08 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 Actually, just thinking about it actually really ticks me off. Who does that crap? I really wanna send her a response right now telling her how her effort is crap. Then again she wont care, shell spin it on me but at least ill feel better, cause i know 2 months down the line shell contact me again. Its sad when i go to a buddys house with her and the first thing his dad says is "look, its (ex's) backup!" Freakin embarassing. I would never take someone back who pulled the crap she does, but for some reason i do with her. Sheesh.
TaraMaiden Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Send her one last text. "I was hoping this time things would work out. I was obviously wrong. Kindly respect my intention to go No Contact. Have a nice life. It won't be with me." If she responds, fly straight back with this (apparently it works really well!): Text Blocker activated. Your message was not delivered. Further attempts will result in this service being charged to your account. 1
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