Yuda Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Ive been friends with this girl for almost 3 months already. And this past 1 and a half months we always see each other 6 days a week in the gym working out together. She knows that I like her and I want to be more than friends with her before we started working out together. We are so comfortable with each other already and people in the gym thinks we are together and that makes me wonder what should I do! We went out once, and talked we had fun. The reason she gave me why she doesnt want to be more than friends with me is because she wants to stay single, and she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me or anyone right now, she wants to enjoy her life as a single. ( i have this gut feeling that she has something for me) Because when I dont respond to her message or if I wont show up in the gym, she will ask me whats wrong? are mad at me?..I am so confuse right now. Should I stay friends with her and see what will happen in the future? or move on to forget the feelings i have for her? .. everytime we spent in the gym makes me like her more.
Hannah86 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Time to test the boundaries. Have you tried asking her out for drinks? If she keeps it professional/gym then she is not interested, but if she wants something more she will probably be open to that. The gym is a pretty interesting place to be getting closer to each other...that sweat can really push some hormones and feelings more quickly than usual. One day after working out (like a Friday), you should ask her if she wants to meet up in two hours. Try to pick somewhere close to where she lives, then she can shower and get dressed up for you.
WhiskeyJack Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 It's really all up to you and what you want out of this relationship. Gotta ask yourself some questions like -Would you be alright with only having her friendship? -Are you always going to be wanting something more? -If you stayed friends with her and down the line she started dating someone, how would you feel? She could be telling you the truth about wanting to say single or she could just not want to date you but wants to remains friends. You just have to decide if this girl is worth staying around for to *maybe* date.
Author Yuda Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Time to test the boundaries. Have you tried asking her out for drinks? If she keeps it professional/gym then she is not interested, but if she wants something more she will probably be open to that. The gym is a pretty interesting place to be getting closer to each other...that sweat can really push some hormones and feelings more quickly than usual. One day after working out (like a Friday), you should ask her if she wants to meet up in two hours. Try to pick somewhere close to where she lives, then she can shower and get dressed up for you. yeah, we grabbed drink last week. We had fun, we talked about lots of things.
Author Yuda Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 It's really all up to you and what you want out of this relationship. Gotta ask yourself some questions like -Would you be alright with only having her friendship? -Are you always going to be wanting something more? -If you stayed friends with her and down the line she started dating someone, how would you feel? She could be telling you the truth about wanting to say single or she could just not want to date you but wants to remains friends. You just have to decide if this girl is worth staying around for to *maybe* date. No, I will always want more than being friends with her. And thinking about it right now if she will have a bf while il stay friends with her. I will probbly going to feel bad or mad. I know it's selfish for being mad. But it impossible to avoid if you have feelings for that person.
Author Yuda Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 It's really all up to you and what you want out of this relationship. Gotta ask yourself some questions like -Would you be alright with only having her friendship? -Are you always going to be wanting something more? -If you stayed friends with her and down the line she started dating someone, how would you feel? She could be telling you the truth about wanting to say single or she could just not want to date you but wants to remains friends. You just have to decide if this girl is worth staying around for to *maybe* date. Actually talked to her today, she got mad and when I said I cant see you anymore. She told "I dont understand you, why we cant be friends. Its so stupid!" And she also told, I really dont want anything with someone right now!
The Magi Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 She told you wheres she's at hoping for or expecting more probably isn't a good idea. That being said, if she's into going out and having some fun one thing may lead to another and a relationship may erupt. The big question is, can you deal with the emotions of just being her friend, even just fwb? If not you might consider balinig out before you're in too deep.
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