Dorkette Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I'm very naive when it comes to guys and dating blah blah, I need some help PLEASE. So I know this guy and here's the story... History: I met the guy about 5 years ago where I worked (I was there 4 years and he was a manager). He was always one of those guys to me that make you think "hmm there's something about him", and this is what it is... He has always been a great person, very NICE (I love "nice" in a guy), great sense of humor, volunteered (always helped the needy), cheerful, outgoing, smart as hell, sweet, inspiring and just a joy to be around. I never tried anything with him because he had a girlfriend, so it was always co-worker sometimes friendly talks and whatnot. I left the company about 3 years ago, never saw him again. Present: About 2 months ago (well that’s the past now lol) I'm walking from the lounge area through the lobby to get to my office and BAM! There he is in the lobby... looking at photos, etc. we have about the company on the wall. I was so happy to see him. He gave me a great big bear hug and we chatted while he waited. He finished his business and came by my office, we chatted for a bit (catching up real quick). He asked me for my number to get together for lunch, I gave it to him. About 2 weeks after that he called me and asked me to lunch. We went to lunch gave the waiter a hard time (in a good way lol), conversation was great, and everything flowed very nicely. We argued about who was going to pay for the Cuban coffee (gave the lady there a hard time lol), I really did have a great time. So we get to my office and as I'm going to get out of his car I see that over 1.5 hours went by, he gets off tries to make it quick to open my door, I get out and he gives me another big hug and says "we have to do this again". So I go in the office and about maybe 20 minutes later he calls me, "did you get in trouble for being late?" LOL, I laughed and said "nah it's ok". I told him that he should keep in touch. HOWEVER, what I told him exactly was "If you ever need someone to talk to call me" (LOL@me) and we hung up... I didn't know what to say. Grrr. Like a minute after we hung-up he calls me again (LOL) and says "what did you mean by that?" Eek! I had no idea what to say so I told him something along the lines of that I would be there for him if he needed me. Ack! Today about a month after, he calls me we chit chat, I ask him about the service he’s trying to sell, he interrupts me and says “no I’m not calling for that!” He told me I sounded sad I told him that my grandmother passed away and my recent accident, he was very nice and sweet about it. I told him “that’s how life works what can you do, but enough of that”. We asked each other “how are you” about 3 times I think (lol), until he finally said “I was calling to get together”. I accepted lunch for this Friday. But I can't for the life of me stop thinking about why is he calling me after a month? If he was interested in more he would have called before, but then I think about the "friend" line I threw him and well, I can't blame the guy for holding back, if he did indeed want more. Couple other things: He's trying to sell a service (of which I make no decision on in the company). So I also think that maybe he was just cold-calling and gave me a ring to "get together". Don't know. I also thought that maybe he’s just being friendly. I so suck at this! What's going on with this guy? Thanks in advance
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I think he has an interest in you romantically. Sounds like the two of you get along well.... you had a great time together! When the first lunch ended, and he called you gave him the idea that you think of him as "just friends" so he called back to make sure of what you were saying... again LOL you gave him the idea that he is a great guy and FRIEND... So why did he wait so long to call again???? I think he is still trying to decide IF you meant just friends! Don't change a thing (except maybe give him a little more vibe than just friends) Be yourself... obviously that is exactly who he likes! Have fun;)
Author Dorkette Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 LOL I know! Thanks Merin. Who knows maybe it just turns out that he's friendly; he is a real friendly guy with everyone. But I guess there's only one way I'll find out and that's if I ATTACK him! LOL j/k. Maybe a little kiss I guess I'll have to wait till Friday to see Funny we're acting all weird being in our 30s.
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by Dorkette LOL I know! Thanks Merin. Who knows maybe it just turns out that he's friendly; he is a real friendly guy with everyone. But I guess there's only one way I'll find out and that's if I ATTACK him! LOL j/k. Maybe a little kiss I guess I'll have to wait till Friday to see Funny we're acting all weird being in our 30s. LOL funny what an attraction will do for people;) Good Luck on Friday... don't sweat it... be YOU! BTW I love your screen name:lmao:
re3rocks Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 just remember one thing while u do this with action comes reaction what type of question u ask determines the type of answer ull get
Author Dorkette Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 LOL funny what an attraction will do for people;) Good Luck on Friday... don't sweat it... be YOU! BTW I love your screen name:lmao: Lol I know I know! Thanks and I'll try to be!!! Thanks again. just remember one thing while u do this with action comes reaction what type of question u ask determines the type of answer ull get And what about the jitters? lol? PS: "The looooove shack... is a little 'ol place we like to... get togetheeeer" Ya'll remember that song ?
02202020 Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 LOL funny what an attraction will do for people;) Good Luck on Friday... don't sw
seahorse Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Hi, It's a little bit late for my tuppence worth, as I expect you are either getting ready, or are already out with this fella. I full agree with Merin2 tho' about him being romantically interested in you. I assume his previous relationship is over...hopefully that was a while before you met again, so he's not on the rebound. He obviously has always liked you...one of those..."I really like this person, but I'm attached, love my gf and I'm not a cheater, so there is nothing I can do about it." type of things. There have been men in my life while I was married, that I've thought that about. "If only...lol" Just a shame my husband couldn't feel the same way about me!! But enough of me, I hope that you have both had a good time and that you have now put him right on how you would like things to progress from now on in!
seahorse Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Hey Dorkette, Where are you? How did it go???
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