LoveMyFirefighter Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 How can I tell my boyfriend that I love being around him and would like to start spending more time together without seeming needy/clingy? I know he is a busy person and I respect that but I just feel that we should spend a little more time together than we do now.. I need a nice casual way to bring it up and not seem pushy at the same time.
aisuru Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Hmmm, what are the reasons you don't see each other often? How often do you see each other now? How long have you been together?
cb1995 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 I was recently in this same situation. We had been seeing each other for a little over 3 months. The first 6 weeks were good. We saw each other at least once a week. The last month of it, although we were in frequent contact our in person contact started decreasing to about once every 2 weeks. He was going through some personal things and our schedules kept conflicting with each other. I told him that I really liked him and enjoyed spending time with him. I simply said I would like to see him more often and could we make that happen. I wasn't emotional nor was I accusatory. It was presented very matter of fact. He said it wouldn't be a problem, that we could see more of each other. Then it was radio silence for over a week. When he finally resurfaced he sent me a text telling me he had to take care of the ongoing personal issues and that it wasn't fair to bring me into it. I'll never know if his problems were the main reason or if my approaching him about more time contributed to him ending things. Stay calm, don't be overly emotional. Don't be aggressive either. You have the right to say what you want. It's how you present it. I say be prepared to receive an answer you may not like. That was the risk I took. It didn't turn out how I would have liked but at least I spoke up for myself. Part of me thinks I shouldn't have said anything because it would be adding more stress to him but it had been bothering me for a month. Good luck to you. I hope it turns out well for you.
apple OR orange Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 "hi, do you think my socks match my earings" "i think we should start doing sex". how are the above 2 ideas?
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