Should I give him another chance

[JessieJ08]

So the man I currently live with and have children with wants to work things out.

 

Basically the years we have been together I have been through a lot of stuff but the underlying issue was when a female would talk to him inappropriate or disrespect our relationship I would say something and he was always taking up for them against me in every situation

 

Well the last issue I had with him when he was deployed he was talking to a married chick who was trying to hook him up with her roommate.

 

I never involved myself by talking to the woman all I wanted was for him to stop talking to her. I really didn't understand why he was refusing to then and he has always called me insecure and crazy for not wanting him to be friends with women like this. Well fast forward to now I finally wrote the woman on Fb asking why she was trying to hook him up Long story short she lied to me she told me she didnt know we were dating when i had seen he actually did talk to her about our relationship in messages then she said basically why am i digging stuff up really insulting me i showed him what she said he agreed with her said i was being insecure.

 

now i have an issue to me he is never on my side i feel he should be specially to this type of woman who lied on him, he made me delete the message and now I kinda dont even know Why he would ever had befriended this woman or if this is a good reason to leave this whole relationship? I would like some other opinions

[Axee]

You really need to calm down a bit.. There was no need to msg that lady in FB... You need to sort out your issues, but please be patient and show trust.. Why do you feel so insecure here?

[Axee]

if your bf is trustworthy, no matter how many women try for him, you are safe

[JessieJ08]

I honestly think because he is untrustworthy he has lied about things and i have found out by mistake about things I really never expected. I mean this is not the only situation we have had with females I wish that were the case but its not

 

He has downloaded apps to his phone Like Hide a Text and Sms Lock and when I asked him he gave me like 3 different stories to why he downloaded this stuff

 

1 reason he said he wanted to make sure I wasnt on them

2 he said he just downloaded them to see what they did but never used them

3 he did it cus I would freak out on him if I saw him talking to someone

 

He has had a lock on his phone since we have been together

 

This is just one situation that makes him untrustworthy

 

Even worse he has an attitude well I dont care if you dont trust me and I dont have to prove to you anything So Idk I just feel with this woman something isn't right and I have for a very long time I just now responded to it I wish I woulda sooner cus I feel it would have been enough then but now we have a baby and live together so much has happen that its like should I really throw it away for this past situation? at the same time I feel a lot I deserve is missing like I want better when it comes to this stuff I dont want to have to deal with this when Im married if that makes sense

[JustALittleBit]

He is untrustworthy. So by all means go ahead and work it out with him, but then you are choosing to be blind to whatever does or does not go on behind your back. (Or alternatively to be paranoid about it and rip yourself up).

 

OR you could cut your losses and find someone who build you up and doesn't make you worry whether you can trust them, because they will give you no reason not to.

[Axee]

I agree, Your root cause is him. Your intuition is telling you something,

first please talk it out with him.. If it doesnt work out, then better you leave him, no point in being paranoid

 

And no point in messaging someone else, the issue is with him..