mirage12 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Been dating a girl for a little more than two months now (started hanging out with her at the end of January). Things are going well but we're both graduating from grad school this weekend. My family lives a few states away and they aren't really in town very often, so I've been thinking of asking her to meet them, if the timing works. Is it too early for that in your opinion?
Mrlonelyone Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 As someone who has been through the parent meeting melodrama let me tell you this. Everyone is different about this. Talk it over with her, a mature adult will either be ok with it and say so, or not be ok with it and say so. Either way they will not react severely over it. You could view this as a relationship litmus test. All it can do is bring out weather or not you really like eachother to that degree that much faster. Been dating a girl for a little more than two months now (started hanging out with her at the end of January). Things are going well but we're both graduating from grad school this weekend. My family lives a few states away and they aren't really in town very often, so I've been thinking of asking her to meet them, if the timing works. Is it too early for that in your opinion? I'll be interested to see how it works out, since, like you I have met someone new, we are both graduating, in three or four weeks, and I'm not sure how to handle it. TL;DR: Talk it over with the young woman, make a no pressure offer. All you may loose is a woman who isn't very serious about you. All you may gain is a keeper.
daletom Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I was 22 when I started dating a certain girl. She met my parents (very briefly) just a couple hours after we first saw each other. Two days later, after our second date, I was an overnight guest in her parents home. For the first couple months, most of our dating was done as houseguests of each other's families due to distances involved. In retrospect, that was almost certainly a factor that helped our relationship develop quickly and we married one year plus two weeks after we first laid eyes on each other. (That first meeting was almost 40 years ago, and we are still married.) 1
Mrlonelyone Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 hmm.......... that makes you sound kind of desperate. but if you feel like its okay do it but dont aspect much. or put a heavy load on her or on it after that. cause it can also end. That's what happened to me. Like I said it is a litmus test. If you can handle family life together and are ready to go there...then it goes well. If not then meeting parents can begin the end.
El Brujo Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Much as I hate to admit it, I liked my first gf's parents a lot more than I liked their delinquent pothead daughter. 1
Author mirage12 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 Update - so I talked to her about meeting them and she was down to, we set up tentative plans to make it happen tonight. The parents didnt actually end up coming in til later though and she also ended up getting home late, so after apologizing a few times, ended up bailing (she lives kind of far for me and graduation is early tmmrw morning). Not sure if there will be time to make a meetup happen this weekend or if ill bother asking again, but it seemed like she was willing to.
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