gobain Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Okay, Ex called. I didn't answer and he didn't leave a message. We've talked once in 3 months. I'm going with the theory that he just hit the wrong button on his phone and hung up when he heard my voice on the message and realized his mistake. Please God, somebody tell me that I'm probably right - he WASN'T actually calling me - and spare me the tortuous notion that he might actually have contacted me on purpose. Frankly, my heart can't take it.
Barby Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I can't tell you that you're right! Maybe but unless he still has you on speed dial after 3 months of NC it's highly unlikely. Maybe he was feeling weak and needed to hear your voice..
Merin Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by gobain Okay, Ex called. I didn't answer and he didn't leave a message. We've talked once in 3 months. I'm going with the theory that he just hit the wrong button on his phone and hung up when he heard my voice on the message and realized his mistake. Please God, somebody tell me that I'm probably right - he WASN'T actually calling me - and spare me the tortuous notion that he might actually have contacted me on purpose. Frankly, my heart can't take it. Hmmm... well see if he "accidently" calls your phone again (bet he does) Doh!
Author gobain Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 He doesn't want to be with me so he should just leave me alone. I don't want to "be friends" if I can't be with him. It hurts way too much. I've only just started to be okay again. I don't want these wounds torn open again - it's almost too late to stop it. One phone call and I'm in a tail-spin. I have to believe that it was a mistake. I have to.
aFighter Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 he probably had a brain fart and dialed your number without thinking kinda thing, y'know? like *dial* oh crap! i meant to dial *whoever* oops!.
seductress989 Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Hey, my ex done the same thing! Almost, anyways. One day I received a call on my cell phone that came up Private. I answered it and no one said anything. I knew it was him. No one else would've called me and blocked their number. I'm sure he was having a weak moment and probably wanted to hear my voice. I did break up w/him 4 months ago. This is has been a couple of months ago. Everyone has their weaknesses and I'm sure that was one of them. Just out of curiousity, why didn't you answer it? Are you doing NC or something? I hate to sit around and wonder about things so I would've answered it. I'm almost positive it was intentional. It wouldn't just "accidentally" dial your # after months of nc! That's just common sense. I'm sorry if this hurts you, but more than likely it's true. :0
EC Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Doubt is was a mistake honey..... First of all why did you break up ? Second.... Do you want him back? If you do..then I'm glad you didn't pick up the first call..if he wants you he'll come after you full throttle...he'll call back again and again..or he knows where you live and can go there...If you want him back...then make him work a little... If you don't and your really trying to move on then...BRAVO!!...don't pick up that call and just think of it as an accident and move on... the less you see or talk to him..the easier it gets...
Author gobain Posted September 30, 2004 Author Posted September 30, 2004 He doesn't anything Full-throttle. We broke up because he couldn't really give me much attention. And I'm pretty low maintenance, so something more than once a week - sometimes we'd skip weeks - was all I really wanted. In the end, he promised little and gave nothing. So I walked away. Unfortunately, I love him very much. And despite his lack of effort, he swore that he cared for me. But it all seemed like empty words. I would like to see him again. I would love for us to have a relationship, but I just don't see that happening. I didn't answer because I don't think that I could take it if I let myself love him again and it was all just the same. I hear his voice and just can't help but believe him - only to come crashing down sometime later. I left, bumped and bruised from those repeated crashes, for my own sanity. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. The other reason I didn't answer was pure astonishment. I thought that he would leave me a message and I could gauge his reasons for calling. I thought it would be safer that way. But he didn't leave a message, so here I sit wondering what the hell is going on. I have to believe it was a mistake. Otherwise I'll take steps backwards in my healing. It's been hard enough to let go as it is. I love him with all that I am. And I need to stay away if I'm to continue to get past that. Does that answer your questions, Eternally Confused and Seductress??
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