Lovetap Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Im in a situation that maybe someone can help with... My girlfriend and i live together and have been happily together for just over 2 years. She has always talked about going overseas to live for at least 12 months and we both decided that we would go. As its getting closer to the date we talked about (we haven't actually booked anything though) i am having second thoughts... I have always been playing in bands and have been associated with music nearly all my life. Its something i dont ever want to lose. When i said yes to going overseas, the band i was in had broken up after 9 years. I was heart broken because we became quite successful and friendships were broken. I didn't think i could play again so i agreed to go o/s to start fresh. While waiting and saving to go, i got asked to join another band, not thinking it would become successful or interfere with going o/s for 12 months. Now, after some rehearsing and writing, this band is awesome and i could definitely see us being something more. The other guys in the band are all determined to work hard and get it going. We have already got some big shows lined up... I have now told my girlfriend that i am not ready to go o/s yet because i think we could actually make something out of this band. She has put off going o/s for me already and she doesn't want to wait another 12 months for me to say im not ready again. Travelling is her dream and the band is mine. If i don't go o/s then she will go wihtout me and it'll be over. If i do go, i could miss out on a career oppurtunity doing something i love. I love this girl very much and she loves me. I think it would be stupid to break up because we both have different goals in life. Is there a way we can both achieve our goals and stay together or are we just too different?
bluechocolate Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 She goes overseas. You stay with the band. She comes back, you're still in love, you get back together. or She meets handsome rich guy overseas & never comes home. and/or You strike it rich with the band & start banging all the roadies. Everybody's happy. Sorry to be so flippant, but what is there to say? It's a hard choice, but one that only you can make. You told her you would go & she's put her plans aside once for you already. If she stays she'll resent it & end up hating you. If you go & the band is successful without you you'll blame her & end up hating her.
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