seren Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I was reading a thread on the OW/OM and the amount of time spent communicating was discussed. I am amazed at how many text messages and emails people send each other, either in A's or not. Then I reflected that when H is home and now not in the military or away so much, we don't need to text as we see each other each day so can say what we need to say face to face. Of course we text to say Hi or how's your day or even send each other silly messages. However, in general it's more about day to day stuff or something daft the dogs have done. Then I think, H is away at the moment on a 2 week course, today he has sent around 20 text messages, I have sent pics of what is going on with the animals and one of my feet wearing a pair of my favourite shoes I have unearthed after thinking them lost. He has rung three times but broke off one call as he needed the bathroom and I don't do calls when he is in the bathroom nor texts. he thinks this is funny and we had a conversation with much teasing about where he was. Tonight I am out for dinner with a friend so we will catch up later, he will then always ring to say goodnight and send a xxx text, same in the morning. When he used to go to Afghan he had FB access so we could usually fit in a chat, which was full of day to day, but also love, longing missing and lust. I think that sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder or at least not being able to say things face to face has the messages concentrate on the ILY's and missing you stuff, which after 27 years is good going I think. Does anyone who has day to day living with their partner do this? did it happen more after D Day and do you think that without technology a lot of the A communication would have been less?
ver13 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I have to agree with you on this we always find a way to reachout everyday even when I was deployed. She is my best friend most of the time technology makes it feel like we are still dating sort of. Even though we have been together 22yrs.
Spark1111 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 yes....we have coffee every morning in our bedroom and talk for an hour before work. During the day, we text or email and then try to call each other at lunch if at all possible. he likes to speak again on the long commute to home. Three nights a week, he stays with our son in his apartment and calls, texts constantly. We miss each other.
waterwoman Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Yes. We do now. I didn't think to do it pre-affair because it didn't seem necessary but that was one of the things we got wrong before. I like it now. H and OW were exchanging hundreds of texts for weeks. How could he manage it? He couldn't. He f@cked up at least 2 close friendships by being distracted with his phone all the time. I am not sure they will recover, or at least not be the same. Stupid idiot.!!!!!
ComingInHot Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 H & I are Always in contact. We have worked together We still work together We Used to share an office Now we work across the hall and the doors are glass We are always out or home together unless he's playing golf We text all day. Always have. When one of us leaves the office or home the texts & calls are often and continuous Even during his A. I think that's what creeps me out! exOW made it a point that they talked for hours and texted tons. I Confirmed this through the cell history which creeped me out even more! All day he'd call me then hang up call her then he'd hang up w/her then call me then call me again if I didn't answer (cause ya, I Was Working...) then she'd call then I'd call him back then he's feel guilty and call me all while texting/emailing I between. No Wonder the company suffered! He literally didn't work for a year then blamed everyone else for Not doing Their job... !!!!! Just Crazy...
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