Ctown3715 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 We dated for 2 years and she left me for someone else. It ended badly where she originally blocked my number and my facebook (we are not even facebook friends and she still blocked me). A few weeks later she unblocked my facebook and decided to call me. Then out of the blue 2 weeks later, she sent me a facebook message wishing me luck on a test. Then a few weeks later she sends me a text saying how proud she is of me graduating college and how its weird to her that she doesn't know when she will see me next. She also said she misses everyone (my group of friends who exiled her. she tried to friend request one of them after this text message). I text her the next day saying if she has something she wants to say, she needs to say it because I'm done doing these one sided conversations. Then I tell her she cant have it both ways where shes only allowed to talk when she pleases then she tells me she doesn't want to talk to me because she has a boyfriend and he is getting "rightfully pissed." So I guess it's only fair if she can contact me. Now she blocked my facebook again when we still are not Facebook friends, so I don't know what that means... This happened a few days before graduation so I don't know if that helps. She still has another year and a half left of college and I'm moving a little over an hour away and 30 minutes from her school (she commutes) *** She is 21 and left me for someone who is 30 and works at a small restaurant that is going out of business. The guy is her neighbor...I'm 22 and an engineer who just got a job and passed my licensing exam. I'm so confused.... She has contacted me by phone 2-3 times, Facebook 1 time and text 1 time in about 2 months. She keeps telling me we can't talk yet she keeps contacting me.
Author Ctown3715 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 I just don't understand her thinking...
Chi townD Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I just don't understand her thinking... I DO!!! She's bat sh*t crazy. Ignore her. She has GIGS. 1
Author Ctown3715 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 Is she trying to mess with me or is she confused?
Chi townD Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 She's trying to figure out where your head is at. She knows that she did you wrong for dumping you for another guy. MOST girls can't stand the fact that there might be a person in this world that hates them or doesn't think that they're not a nice person. So, she testing the waters to gage how you feel about her. Do you hate her? Are you angry with her? Do you not care? Are you indifferent? Remember what happened when you responded to her? That response from you was rather aggressive towards her. And what happened? She blocked you on Facebook again. You told her where your head is at about her.
Author Ctown3715 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 Well I feel it's justified when: she brakes up with me over the phone on her birthday. Leaves me for someone else, threatens me verbally saying "she will point a gun at my face or make a story up to get me arrested." Or saying she wants me out of her life for good. She acted like I was the bad guy when actually she was. She tried to justify leaving me for the other guy. She made claims like we rushed into the relationship eventhough were 2 years in! So I feel like I'm justified in telling her you can't talk to me whenever you feel like it but I can't talk to you or even reply to you. She said she wants me off her earth, yet she tries to contact me in some way. I don't get it...
fancy feast Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Well I feel it's justified when: she brakes up with me over the phone on her birthday. Leaves me for someone else, threatens me verbally saying "she will point a gun at my face or make a story up to get me arrested." Or saying she wants me out of her life for good. She acted like I was the bad guy when actually she was. She tried to justify leaving me for the other guy. She made claims like we rushed into the relationship eventhough were 2 years in! So I feel like I'm justified in telling her you can't talk to me whenever you feel like it but I can't talk to you or even reply to you. She said she wants me off her earth, yet she tries to contact me in some way. I don't get it... Block all forms of communication. Drop the goddamn banhammer.
cmoney Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 She appears to be testing the waters to discern whether or not you would take her back if the other did not work out. My guess is that it will not but that is another story. Additionally, I believe that she is attempting to ease her own guilt. I had a similar experience in undergrad. My first girlfriend broke up with me to return to her previous boyfriend. However, she insisted on being friends with me even though I made it clear I had no interest in being her friend. A close friend of her's indicated that my ex believed that by being my friend it would ease her guilt about what she did. Anyway, the relationship with her previous ex did not work out and then she believed that she made the wrong decision. A close friend of mine once told me that he believed that when a person had wronged another person that, regardless of how they acted, they knew it and would generally feel bad and try to do something to assuage their guilt. Do not let her. She made her bed, now she needs to lay in it.
Author Ctown3715 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 She appears to be testing the waters to discern whether or not you would take her back if the other did not work out. My guess is that it will not but that is another story. Additionally, I believe that she is attempting to ease her own guilt. I had a similar experience in undergrad. My first girlfriend broke up with me to return to her previous boyfriend. However, she insisted on being friends with me even though I made it clear I had no interest in being her friend. A close friend of her's indicated that my ex believed that by being my friend it would ease her guilt about what she did. Anyway, the relationship with her previous ex did not work out and then she believed that she made the wrong decision. A close friend of mine once told me that he believed that when a person had wronged another person that, regardless of how they acted, they knew it and would generally feel bad and try to do something to assuage their guilt. Do not let her. She made her bed, now she needs to lay in it. O she knows I'm mad at her for what she did.
aisuru Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Why do you care what she thinks? She obviously doesn't care about you. Time to block her, ignore her, and move on. You're young. She's playing games. You deserve better.
cmoney Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 O she knows I'm mad at her for what she did. Probably but who knows? Some people are so narcissistic that they believe that no matter what they do, they can always keep a person for back-up purposes. I'm not going to tell you whethernor not you should stop speaking to her. But I will say that if you continue to interact with her be prepared to learn to play by her rules if you wish to be in her life.
Author Ctown3715 Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Is it wrong of me to think the reason why she blocked my number and my Facebook multiple times including telling me we can't talk is so she can try to forget about me? Isn't that a wrong way of going about things? Burying your feelings? Won't they eventually surface?
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