Moemone Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Wow... What do you do when you dumped or ask the guy you've been an option to to end things because its not right and both parties will be happy and he never replies, but next send a text saying hey and day after one miss call that you ignore. Hers the situation. I settled to be the othe woman to a committed player, the woman was away so it felt like I was his woman although he was playing and didn't care, because I told him of one of the girls, they stopped talking for a while but when the started again he told me ( I know) Now that gf is back I got a grip of my worth and decided to call it quits so I told him lets end it via text what'sapp I told him why told him I don't want to settle for second so I would to move on. He never spoke to me or reply at the time. I really wanted him to agree big he didn't so went NC Two days now. Right now I'm feeling like I should say something I don't know why. I'm feeling a lil guilt like he did nothing to etc. In case like that what do I do?
forgetmenot75 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Moemone, you feel guilty because you're attached to this loser. If he doesn't contact you, HE DOESN"T WANT TO TALK TO YOU. Stop playing games. You feel you deserve this kind of relationship because your self esteem is very low right now. You keep wondering "why he texted me hi and dissapeared"..." or "I should call him so he knows I'm still here..." or "What if he thinks I don't care..." He is a player. He doesn't need you. He can find another woman easily. As I told you the other day (I hope you've read it btw you are a DOORMAT for him. He knows you're available when he wants, and he'll treat you as a doormat, because he knows you'll allow him to. Moemone: PLEASE seek some help. This will be a hard road for you, I'm not sure you can handle it alone. And PLEASE, forget about him. HE"S JUST NOT INTO YOU< HE DOESNT LOVE YOU. 3
Praying4Peace Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Wow... What do you do when you dumped or ask the guy you've been an option to to end things because its not right and both parties will be happy and he never replies, but next send a text saying hey and day after one miss call that you ignore. Hers the situation. I settled to be the othe woman to a committed player, the woman was away so it felt like I was his woman although he was playing and didn't care, because I told him of one of the girls, they stopped talking for a while but when the started again he told me ( I know) Now that gf is back I got a grip of my worth and decided to call it quits so I told him lets end it via text what'sapp I told him why told him I don't want to settle for second so I would to move on. He never spoke to me or reply at the time. I really wanted him to agree big he didn't so went NC Two days now. Right now I'm feeling like I should say something I don't know why. I'm feeling a lil guilt like he did nothing to etc. In case like that what do I do? He's just testing you to see if you are still available and whether you meant it when you said you did not want to be an option. You've backed down before, so why not this time? Note he is making the smallest effort ever to restart things. A missed call, not even a message! My 4 year old does this when she thinks I'm not serious about the rules. Testing, testing, checking boundaries... Some people never grow up. 2
Author Moemone Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 I am speechless I don't know what to say. And everyone is speaking the truth while I'm here so called struggling he is still calling. I guess I'll just have to change my number
forgetmenot75 Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Moemone, we are in this together. YES, you need to refrain yourself to contact him or to let him contact you. STOP this craziness before you'll feel much worse. Now you can't see how crazy it all became because you're still hoping to be with him again, you're addicted to this unhealthy person, and you don't care what everybody else here says. You will run into his arms whenever he gives you the chance. You haven't done it yet because he had not tried hard enough to have you back yet. Look how pathetic this sounds! I only hope you'll be strong enough to ignore him.
Author Moemone Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 Don't really know what to say, but right now that's how I feel and I don't know why I'd be going back I don't trust him I'm only gonna be miserable. I'm just gonna keep trying I guess
Author Moemone Posted May 20, 2013 Author Posted May 20, 2013 Sigh! The truth hurt and I am seeing a therapist. I just wish I didn't and I knew better back then.
ChckDlta Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I can honestly honestly say your story is the one that got me to finally post my own. Thank you. I feel your story is my story -- talking about the same kind of clown behind man--and I feel your pain. I wish I had something constructive to say to you. but here I am with essentially the same heartbreak looking for advice. HOWEVER- I did want to post this to say: I KNOW how it feels to have folks speak the truth to you- know it's the truth and still feel the same way in your heart. I know when YOU end it because HE is a liar/cheater/player whatever, you feel completely lost on how to handle the heartbreak... Like he's the jerk and you are getting punished for his actions and punishing yourself at the same time! I KNOW. And all I can do is hope the truth sinks in to both of us. And tell you that you ARE strong enough.
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