WantanS4 Posted October 6, 2004 Posted October 6, 2004 My advice from an outside perspective......... If you love him..... stay with him........ remember how hard it is to find love. Work this out..... come out and say "Look... your equipment isn't working.... but if you don't do something quick... I'm likely to get somethign done for me and I really don't want it to come to that" If you don't love him...... then........ well...... leave him...... but explain yourself before you jump ship........ do you really need sex??? I mean... can you not create your own fantasy to reach that certain point?? Remember... it's almost down right impossible to have EVERYTHING you want. If this is the only thing lacking, the maybe you should reconsider what matters to you. Lastly... and this is a bit off the wall, get him a strap on or something like that. This is a tough issue.
Author Midnight Magic Posted October 6, 2004 Author Posted October 6, 2004 Yes the question about me loving him is not the issue. He is my partner, my best friend, my life. And we did have a great sex life before his heart condition. So I guess I have to be more understanding to him. I can't expect him to be someone or something that he is not. I guess I will have to continue being my own pleasure when it comes to the sex part of it. And I guess I can't expect the relationship to be perfect. He is perfect in every other sense of the relationship. So I guess I should not complain and I should be happy that he treats me great like he does. And his performance is all due in part to his medical condition, so I have to accept that, it is not in his control. And I will have to not pressure him into things that I want to do, if it is no, I have to accept that, and I am going to sure start trying. Like he says sex lasts about what 10-20 minutes, and then it is over, he is loving and caring all the other times, and when he said it, it was so genuine. I am happy that he is with me. You are right about it being hard to find love. Thanks for allowing me to remember and think about it. I remember being in abusive relationships or being single, and praying that I would find someone who would treat me the way that I want to be treated. And I have that someone in my life right now. He loves me for who and what I am, and how many people can say that about their relationship. And when he talks to other people about our relationship, he tells everyone that he has a perfect relationship. I know this because his friends and family members have all told me this. So thanks for the great advice, I never thought about all the other "great" things about him, until you made the comment about it being hard to find love. Thanks I know where I stand with this relationship.
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