LoveB86 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 (edited) Been 39 days of NC from the both of us. Seems like longer... as you all might know my story. I dated a co-worker for a year, everything seemed fine (blindly), he ended it last month and found out he dumped me for another co worker. He vanished first then decided to text me that he needed space, but I found out it was another co-worker he was pursuing. Their official in such a fast pace. Dumped me then made her his girlfriend the next day! It hurt bad the first month... seeing them together once in awhile at work, seeing him acting like he never did me wrong when he emotionally and possibly physically cheated on me. He works at my company once a week. My progress: I'm feeling okay. Been doing alright, infact better than I thought. I remember when I begged for him for a week after BU, I am glad I didn't make myself look more weak and desperate and went straight to NC since. I haven't heard from him since he is pursuing his new relationship, but I can finally say I am at the acceptance point. I see everything so clearly after a month already. I prayed everyday and had forgiven him. I no longer seem to care anymore about what happened/how it ended/who he is with. I guess facing all the emotional pain, crying and venting really helped me. I am happy to say I am getting thru the emotions day by day, and as badly as it hurts, I don't run away from the problem. I don't deny how I feel and when I need to cry, I cry. It really helps.. I feel myself getting stronger everyday by a centimeter. Every little way counts. I am still sad, but am seeing a little light now. I guess because in my situation, I see the ex at work once in awhile because I work across the street from them, I see the girlfriend since she works with him, I know what he did, I know how good I was to him... I went to war with my emotions, biting the bullet everyday, but one thing he can say is he never see me breakdown. I remained strong and never made myself appear to look weak infront of him nor her when they see me at work. They might not even care, but that's one thing I am proud to say I held my dignity because I care about ME and I kept on pushing thru the battles of the heartbreak each and every second, every minute, every hour of my life. Just wanted to share that with others, alot of you are fortunate to not even have to see your ex. So, you get a breadcrumb, block their number. But unfortunately, I can't just quit my job because I made the mistake of dating someone on the job. Just saying that, whether you do or don't see your ex, remind yourself of your worth. You can love again! You can live your life without them... believe me.. you will feel the joy of your life again. You will fall, but pick yourself up, keep on going. Fall again, that's okay.. pick yourself again and keep going. Believe in you and love yourself.. Don't let them hurt you! This is the story of my challenge, but am accepting that he no longer deserves my time and energy. I wish each of you well.. I can now PM, so feel free to PM me if you need a push or a smile. I would be glad to support. -LoveB86 Edited May 17, 2013 by LoveB86 Thank you for following me these past weeks. 1
sweetheart5381 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Been 39 days of NC from the both of us. Seems like longer... as you all might know my story. I dated a co-worker for a year, everything seemed fine (blindly), he ended it last month and found out he dumped me for another co worker. He vanished first then decided to text me that he needed space, but I found out it was another co-worker he was pursuing. Their official in such a fast pace. Dumped me then made her his girlfriend the next day! It hurt bad the first month... seeing them together once in awhile at work, seeing him acting like he never did me wrong when he emotionally and possibly physically cheated on me. He works at my company once a week. My progress: I'm feeling okay. Been doing alright, infact better than I thought. I remember when I begged for him for a week after BU, I am glad I didn't make myself look more weak and desperate and went straight to NC since. I haven't heard from him since he is pursuing his new relationship, but I can finally say I am at the acceptance point. I see everything so clearly after a month already. I prayed everyday and had forgiven him. I no longer seem to care anymore about what happened/how it ended/who he is with. I guess facing all the emotional pain, crying and venting really helped me. I am happy to say I am getting thru the emotions day by day, and as badly as it hurts, I don't run away from the problem. I don't deny how I feel and when I need to cry, I cry. It really helps.. I feel myself getting stronger everyday by a centimeter. Every little way counts. I am still sad, but am seeing a little light now. I guess because in my situation, I see the ex at work once in awhile because I work across the street from them, I see the girlfriend since she works with him, I know what he did, I know how good I was to him... I went to war with my emotions, biting the bullet everyday, but one thing he can say is he never see me breakdown. I remained strong and never made myself appear to look weak infront of him nor her when they see me at work. They might not even care, but that's one thing I am proud to say I held my dignity because I care about ME and I kept on pushing thru the battles of the heartbreak each and every second, every minute, every hour of my life. Just wanted to share that with others, alot of you are fortunate to not even have to see your ex. So, you get a breadcrumb, block their number. But unfortunately, I can't just quit my job because I made the mistake of dating someone on the job. Just saying that, whether you do or don't see your ex, remind yourself of your worth. You can love again! You can live your life without them... believe me.. you will feel the joy of your life again. You will fall, but pick yourself up, keep on going. Fall again, that's okay.. pick yourself again and keep going. Believe in you and love yourself.. Don't let them hurt you! This is the story of my challenge, but am accepting that he no longer deserves my time and energy. I wish each of you well.. I can now PM, so feel free to PM me if you need a push or a smile. I would be glad to support. -LoveB86 Nice post and good job on the recovery I too made the same mistake of dating a co-worker who broke my heart (he pursued others at work and in his circle of friends)... then I ended up hooking up with his co-worker friend casually/fwb for about 6 months - that also ended badly. I can totally understand the part about having to see them at work and deal with it. Am happy to say that it's all a distant memory now and I have since met a wonderful man that makes me feel very special. It took along time to fully heal and move forward to a place where I can trust and accept another's appreciation of me and return it fully without fear. It took this new man in my life to see what was missing in these prior relationships. He is a man that values me, spends time with me, calls me just to see how my day was, holds my hand in public and even cancels on his buddies to see me. This new man makes me very happy to have had my heart broken! Good luck on your journey
OwlSoul Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I've been cheering for you LoveB. I'm happy for you moving on and not hurting like before. (hug)
Author LoveB86 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 (edited) Hi sweetheart5381, It's a continue journey for me.. I just am proud of myself that something so awfully bad as seeing the ex on the job everyday, just makes me stronger and facing that I can't live like this forever ... It's a battle since we work across the street from another.. it was hard knowing he might just pass on thru my job monday thru friday. Seeing his new girlfriend come to where I work... it was bullets hitting me everyday of the emotions. I still plan to look for another job (financial reasons) but the breakup does make it more easier for me to let this job go. Guess I just no longer desire to be around all the "old energy". I just want to start fresh in my life. I want to finally close the chapter of this "sad tale of dating on the job" so to speak ha. Would hope to soon be in your shoes of no longer fearing the next person in my life who wants to pursue me. I actually know of someone who is a good person, always had been by my side, right infront of me... but never appreciated him for all he done for me. I will hold off for awhile of dating. Am just letting my battles take its course. Thanks for ur positive message.. it made me smile this morning. Edited May 17, 2013 by LoveB86
Author LoveB86 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 I've been cheering for you LoveB. I'm happy for you moving on and not hurting like before. (hug) Hi Owlsoul, You remember me in the beginning. Crying and venting on LS every 10 minutes. You seen me at my weakest point.. I am sorta here in the acceptance and forgiven stage. Can you believe that? My heart is halfway towards my head now. I can see clearly now.. maybe because of experience.. maybe it was because I forgiven him and my emotions and thoughts now go together. It's like I am saying "Hey man, just continue to live your life, I"ll be fine" so to speak. Although am not moved on, but I am moving forward centimeter by cm. I go back, but then I go forward. I go back again, stay down for a little, then go forward. It's weird... like a battle of my emotions that I know what to do when I hurt again. I feel I am getting thru this with strength. Thank you for hearing me out owlsoul, you will never be forgotten. I remember your unique LS name.
sweetheart5381 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Hi sweetheart5381, It's a continue journey for me.. I just am proud of myself that something so awfully bad as seeing the ex on the job everyday, just makes me stronger and facing that I can't live like this forever ... It's a battle since we work across the street from another.. it was hard knowing he might just pass on thru my job monday thru friday. Seeing his new girlfriend come to where I work... it was bullets hitting me everyday of the emotions. I still plan to look for another job (financial reasons) but the breakup does make it more easier for me to let this job go. Guess I just no longer desire to be around all the "old energy". I just want to start fresh in my life. I want to finally close the chapter of this "sad tale of dating on the job" so to speak ha. Would hope to soon be in your shoes of no longer fearing the next person in my life who wants to pursue me. I actually know of someone who is a good person, always had been by my side, right infront of me... but never appreciated him for all he done for me. I will hold off for awhile of dating. Am just letting my battles take its course. Thanks for ur positive message.. it made me smile this morning. You're quite welcome and kudos on how far you have come! I thought about leaving my job too, but I felt that it would boost his ego more (since we see each other most days) so I decided to suck it up, be a big girl and move on the hard way. It was slow and painful at times, but well worth the journey in the end. Stay positive, better days are ahead and one day you will look back and wonder what all the fuss was about Take care, will be watching for your future posts.
KPChick000 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I'm rooting for you too! Stay positive- it's good that you've come to realize that he doesn't deserve you. Keep this in mind when you feel down. Being sad will happen in this rollercoaster ride of emotions, but seeing the big picture really helps: just because you're sad or miss him doesn't mean he was right for you. 1
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